The mind thinks too much!

[Nightspark]

FcUk i have a problem and i ddnt see it comming until ive had 5 people point it out to me!

My friend keeps telling me i over analyze things and whatnot when it comes to dating chicks and getting them to that stage (well i dunno he is kind of AFC but eh). Ive also had my ex (a long time ago) tell me that i put too much pressure on myself when doing sh!t, and just a few minutes ago my friend told me that i think too much and that i should let my instincts do all the actions...

Now that i think of it... i have been overthinking... i guess this is what happens when you just keep reading posts and the DJ Bible and not practice them in the realworld. Well atm ive gone thru the 2nd day of the DJB so im at least fixing that real world thing, but does anyone have any suggesstions on how to shut the mind up and let the instincts take control? i know it sounds stupid but when i tend to think it seems to bring in a downpour of negativity and i get that fear kicking in on me. It happened tonight when i was with a girl im interested in and i couldnt bring myself to do kino on her (i have done so in the past but i think i should close this chapter with her as i think she's just undatable)... but yeah see what i mean!? I COULDNT BRING MYSELF TO DO KINO.... it's liike my brain just tells me ... yeah now it's time for kino, then the thinking occurs and whatnot... i remember a while back i jsut let things go as it was.... i was running on instinct and not thought...

somehow i lost my confidence.... anyways if u missed it the question is how do i get my mind to seriously shut the fcuk up and rely more on instinct?

 

[dearsappho]

Try not to over analyse over analysis

 

[frivolousz21]

dont think..just do..and always believe u made the right choice wether u did or not..this will make ur confidence sky rocket

 

[biker_gixxer]

My friend keeps telling me i over analyze things and whatnot when it comes to dating chicks

You're worrying about saying or doing the wrong things, that's why you're over analyzing. If you don't want to do this anymore, STOP putting her (who ever it is) on a pedestal, stop trying to qualify yourself to her. Knock them off that pedstal that society has put them on, place your thrown on that b$tch, have a seat and make them work for your attention. Bring out that inner pimp inside you and let them all know (women) that you don't give a $hit about them. Let them know they're a dime a dozen.

 

[R3N3G4D3]

I'm the same way, what works for me is drinking a cup of wine or something before I go to a social event. 1 cup isn't enough to get you drunk but it's enough to get you relaxed. Don't drink beer, it won't do ****.

 

[Life-Trainee]

My friends like to poke fun at my overanalyzing of simple decisions. One time at a party i was faced with decision of eating the last slice of pizza. I immediately broke the decision down verbally into cons and pros making it seem like i'm voting for a president than whether or not to eat the last slice. I always reflect on that experience as a "not to do" example.

I found it easier to decide with the first feeling that pops up in your head before your rational mind takes over. That's what intuitive decision is, and don't be afraid to make a mistake.

Each time you make decision, wrong OR right, you train your intuition to make better decision next time around.

 

[Nightspark]

Originally posted by biker_gixxer
My friend keeps telling me i over analyze things and whatnot when it comes to dating chicks

You're worrying about saying or doing the wrong things, that's why you're over analyzing. If you don't want to do this anymore, STOP putting her (who ever it is) on a pedestal, stop trying to qualify yourself to her. Knock them off that pedstal that society has put them on, place your thrown on that b$tch, have a seat and make them work for your attention. Bring out that inner pimp inside you and let them all know (women) that you don't give a $hit about them. Let them know they're a dime a dozen.

hrrrm probably havent realised the pedestal thing... but you're onto something.... funny it just seems that she's the only on sitting there and every other girl isnt, i think i know what to do about her now, thanks biker_gixxer

R3N3F4D3, i dont do that sh!t man, because most of the time i'm driving! and we have a ZERO alcohol limit for provisional 2 drivers in AUS... so no booze !! Besides i dont do wine either.

Life-Trainee, damn man ive seen it where my analysing gets to that stage, but it's never over pizza! hah the only time my mind shuts up is when im driving. But yeah i like that 1st to do example and im going to try and run with that today.... 1st thing i wanna do is go to the beach ^^

thanks guys for all ya help, but of course anymore commenting is welcommed!


Nightspark