"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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The Mentor

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Ok
I aint a fvcking PUA.
I still take precaution in calling myself a DJ.

But i have a friend (no, seriously) who is insecure about the things he has read on Sosuave. He has very little confidence in his potential and it makes me cry.

He doesn't think he can apply what he has learned to the field, heck!, he's tried but thinks he is a natural failure at it.

I assume that alot of guys who start DJ'ing at first do it for the pVssy. Wrong!
I've heard many times before and i agree that DJ'ing is more than that, its not just about gettin the ladies :D

Its about application of potential, and waking up from the insecure 'cocoon' you were.

Hell, GUYS, who has noticed improvements in their lives allround thanks to this site? Its more than getting the 'pvssy', its about losing your 'pvssiness' and taking control of your fu<king life.

What my aforementioned friend needs to learn is that patience is everything in this game and that CB'ing is all part of the fun, and i find, the thrill of using your DJ potential.

Before this i was fraggin scared of women!! Jeez, heaven forbid i should make eye contact with a woman, nevermind holding a conversation.

This is just a personal thank you to Sosauve and the cool guys who are using what they were born with.

FV<Kin' BALLS
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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So pimp its scary

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I'm gonna start off by saying : Don't show this website to your friend.... Out of 5 attempts at showing people where I got my game from, there was 2 friends that had a positive reaction... and one didnt' implement anything of it, the other took it to the extreme and is simply an ******* towards women now (Although he DID stop ALOT of his bad habits, like the old "sneak 'n grind" technique).

Anyway, get him to reframe his ideas that he is a natural failure, it's the thoughts that are going to kill any attempts that he ever had. If you're not sure how to do this, try to find the book 'mind lines' show him that book and have some fun with it...

What I recommend doing is pull him out into the field, and when he starts b!tching about whatever it is that is stopping him, start asking questions to get him to change his ideas.

Him : I'm just a natural failure.
You : Are you trying to tell me that every single time that you've tried anything ever that you have failed? I'm just wondering, how many rejections should I have before I should call myself a natural failure? How do you know that you're a natural failure?

And so on... to answer those questions, he'll have to go into his own mind and might even catch the flaw in his logic. Don't overdo it though, because if you hit the right rephrame, you could potentially have the person consider his entire life and how this belief has affected him, while he's applying these new beliefs.

Good to hear that you've had some success for yourself tho.
 

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look out for number 1.

I've never offered the site to a friend, but I have offered all of the advice to friends who want to listen.

however. 1 of them truly listens, and implements things VERY slowly.

the rest.. they struggle to understand..
although many of them are better looking then me, they struggle to understand that they too can have the results that i have.
 
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