Humanity is not mathmatics. With Maths, 2 + 2 will equal 4 no matter the situation, weather happy or sad, looked at from the side or the top or by a man or women, it will always equal 4. Maths can be taught and understood. You can be shown on paper that 2 stick's when added with another 2 stick's will equal 4, and this will always hold true to you. Humanity is different though, one person's solution to a problem, will not be the same for another. One person's persptive on humanity, weather happy or sad.. WILL be different, Looked at in hindsight, will be different and from the point of view by a man or a women, most deffinently will be different, ESPECIALLY when the issue is the relationship between these 2 sex's. While you can get good pointer's. They are somebody else's. Confidence is a key issue, confidence is not a mind state but a true reflection of yourself, if you are succsesfull with women, you will be confident with women. How does this make sense if you are not succsesfull now? Well, firstly lets look at some aspects of this. The most obvious is, that for a girl to be happy with you, you must be happy with yourself. Also to have the girl that you want, you have to know what YOU want, not what you think she wants. Depression creates self doubt, this is the enemy of confidence. How do you break this? by achieving, achieve and you no longer have a reason to doubt youself? Reading people's opinion's on alot of these topic's is interesting yes. But it is there opinion, the result of there understanding of there achievments. Not your's. There is no one logical answer with human nature. There are truth's that will hold true, but only under the right circumstances, and the most important point i will make, you can only fully understand something that YOU know to be true. While i read some posts that seem to make an incredible amount of sense to me, they do not inspire confidence in me, because in the end, i do not know 100% that they are true, only what i achieve myself do i know to be true. And my achievments invoke my own understanding, and after i achieve something, i there for KNOW that i can, and all self doubt is gone. It is like riding a bike, or driving a car. When you first sit down in the seat, you are full of doubts, what if i crash? im scared of doing this, you are NOT a confident driver, and while a 100 million people can tell me how easy it is, it is only by taking that risk, throwing myself into the thick of it and achieving as a driver, will you be a confident and succsesfull driver. For those of you who have the problem i am talking about it, reading this site will not help you. It is interesting to read, but not learning material.
So my tips are, Start achieving. You need to cut loose your depression, even this website if it is you searching for a way out. ALL aspects of your depression, the ex girlfriend, the bad job. Cut loose. From this moment, you are not a loser who needs help, but an winner who just started the race. Walk into the world, step out of the life that depresse's you, and into the one that excites you. You WILL make mistakes, but like driving, it is the only way you learn. and the more you drive, the less mistakes you make and the more confident you become. There is no one answer to humanity, and, since so many people talk about been the alpha male, do you think he takes tips? if he makes a mistake, he damn sure doesnt do it again, and he doesnt ask somebody else for advice when he can over come the mistake himself, it is an insult to his sense of accomplishment.
Being human isnt logical, There is no one answer that will stand true for all time. Only what YOU know to be true, will be true. And you can only know what you experience.
So my tips are, Start achieving. You need to cut loose your depression, even this website if it is you searching for a way out. ALL aspects of your depression, the ex girlfriend, the bad job. Cut loose. From this moment, you are not a loser who needs help, but an winner who just started the race. Walk into the world, step out of the life that depresse's you, and into the one that excites you. You WILL make mistakes, but like driving, it is the only way you learn. and the more you drive, the less mistakes you make and the more confident you become. There is no one answer to humanity, and, since so many people talk about been the alpha male, do you think he takes tips? if he makes a mistake, he damn sure doesnt do it again, and he doesnt ask somebody else for advice when he can over come the mistake himself, it is an insult to his sense of accomplishment.
Being human isnt logical, There is no one answer that will stand true for all time. Only what YOU know to be true, will be true. And you can only know what you experience.
