"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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The main issue is not meeting enough women

Pandora

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The source of most guys issues is that most guys are just not meeting enough women. Dating is a numbers game. I cant stress that enough. If you met even 10 new women weekly then your dating issues would be solved. No matter how cool you are a large percentage of the female population will still act funny towards you. Females have all types of head issues and many cant recognize value anyway. Another percentage will like you for you though.

It always fascinates me that i can go up to one girl and she totally blow me off then i go up to another girl who is hotter and she totally digs my vibe. That is just how humans are. Girls like guys for mysterious reasons and dont like others for mysterious reasons. Just the other night i was out and i went up to the hottest girls at the bar. I was shocked when we vibed so well. Amazingly well. This girl was gorgeous. But this was just after i had been totally ignored by a group of 7's and 6s. So if you are reasonably attractive and have decent game all we have to do is play the numbers game.

The main issue is that in our modern society we just dont meet alot of people. We live such isolated lives. It makes it difficult to find women. So we live in a state of scarcity. Scarcity leads to AFC ness. Once we conquer scarcity we are good.
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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You both have a point, hard to disagree that meeting more women would increase the chance to find one you click with but at the same time any damn place of gathering for young people is overcrowded from men with very few women.

The only places where women are the majority are the place where you dont wanna have them like workplaces as colleagues, schools as teachers or hospitals as doctors...generally it seems like there is some fabric that keeps throwing out middle aged women.

Now its not just a matter of numbers but the fact that the M to F ratio influences the dynamics of the interaction, just throw a fattie in a club and she become a spoiled brat let alone an average girl.

Just think about it, you go to school and you're lucky if the ratio is 50-50 but then you check out the teachers and you notice that 80% are women...there are some social factors involved or God is simply trolling and getting rich selling PUA material.
 

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Hard to meet a lot of quality ones on a regular basis, in my opinion. Almost 80% of my free time is dedicated to physical training, rather not fvck a girl at the gym I train at since it's the best gym in the area. But, I feel like women that are dedicating so much time to something are usually on the higher side of the quality spectrum. Lower quality women seem to not have any serious hobbies other than "travelling, family, my cat."
 

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Hard to meet a lot of quality ones on a regular basis, in my opinion. Almost 80% of my free time is dedicated to physical training, rather not fvck a girl at the gym I train at since it's the best gym in the area. But, I feel like women that are dedicating so much time to something are usually on the higher side of the quality spectrum. Lower quality women seem to not have any serious hobbies other than "travelling, family, my cat."
They travel and party a lot, spend all their and others money... Going around seeing each other instead of getting stuff done.
 

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Hard to meet a lot of quality ones on a regular basis, in my opinion. Almost 80% of my free time is dedicated to physical training, rather not fvck a girl at the gym I train at since it's the best gym in the area. But, I feel like women that are dedicating so much time to something are usually on the higher side of the quality spectrum. Lower quality women seem to not have any serious hobbies other than "travelling, family, my cat."
Agreed!
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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Lower quality women seem to not have any serious hobbies other than "travelling, family, my cat."
I went thru a lot of women before I figured this out. Also look for ones that volunteer.
 

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Lower quality women seem to not have any serious hobbies other than "travelling, family, my cat."

This so much .... last four women I met were like that, so we went the traveling route but dayum they were booring : O
 

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Lower quality women seem to not have any serious hobbies other than "travelling, family, my cat."
I think this statement may be bible worthy. High quality women actually have things going on in their lives. And I am sorry, but kids are no excuse. I take my boys to my activities and they fvcking love it.
 
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