LearningSlowly
Master Don Juan
Hey guys Im back. I'm going to write a series (if it goes that far, maybe just one) of posts describing what I am learning and what I have *slowly* learned over the past 6 months or so. The journal is still closed, but I'll keep up a presence here for a little longer.
Being honest.
Are you honest?
If you are, you're probably getting laid. A lot. If you're not, you're probably a despairing noob, wishing that you could finally kiss that girl you've been dreaming of. Most of us are somewhere in between those.
Being honest is not only the key to game, it is the key to good life experience. Without you being honest about your intentions and goals, NO ONE will give you
what you want. Mainly because they don't KNOW what you want! Honesty is a critical component to real communication.
So how does one become more honest, and what are the side-effects? (Unfortunately there are side effects other than the sky beginning to rain pvssy.)
You can train yourself to be more honest by regularly evaluating your intentions, and also recognizing when an impulse is just an impulse. Here's how that goes:
*Open a 5 set*
*So no one is being very receptive, and you immediately disqualify 2 girls based on their looks. 3 girls remain as options. One is spectacular looking, so you talk to her*
"So what does a guy have to say to sleep with you?"
*3 girls start giggling uncontrollably, one looks shocked, your target is surprised, and looks at you differently*
Now, I don't know whether she wants to sleep with you, or what she'll respond to that question, but this bold move WILL work to your favor. Your target just evaluated you sexually, and probably made her decision already. If she gives you good signals, she wants you, or bad ones, she doesnt. Either is fine, her body language is her way of being honest about her intentions.
But by making that statement, you have established yourself as a sexually honest person. This is an infinitely attractive feature to every girl.
(Social calibration is also an attractive feature. The girl who was shocked by your statement thinks you have no calibration skills. If you decide that she is your target, prove her wrong by being fairly clean in group conversation, but sexual under the table or behind closed doors.)
The giggling girls are now all at your disposal. You were honest to the hottest girl there, and said "I would consider sleeping with you" (in a calibrated way). If she doesn't work out, you can make the same offer to another girl there and probably have success.
But we don't meet every girl on a cold approach, and not every conversation works out so cleanly. Therefore, the crux of being honest is being honest in all scenarios.
If you are one on one with a girl, you should have already decided whether or not you plan on sleeping with her. You should follow through on this decision in a way that makes it VERY CLEAR to her what you want. If you want to sleep with her, you better kiss her, or you are being dishonest by holding back. This indication must also be done early. You can't hang out with a girl one on one 3 times and decide on the 4th time that you want to get some action. When you try to make a move, she will be surprised and say "What? I thought we were just friends?"
Try this. Practice it in your life, evaluate your experiences in light of it. You will find that an honest comment is the best opener, isolation move, and close move. By being direct, honest, and confident, you WILL find success with women.
Good luck DJs.
Being honest.
Are you honest?
If you are, you're probably getting laid. A lot. If you're not, you're probably a despairing noob, wishing that you could finally kiss that girl you've been dreaming of. Most of us are somewhere in between those.
Being honest is not only the key to game, it is the key to good life experience. Without you being honest about your intentions and goals, NO ONE will give you
what you want. Mainly because they don't KNOW what you want! Honesty is a critical component to real communication.
So how does one become more honest, and what are the side-effects? (Unfortunately there are side effects other than the sky beginning to rain pvssy.)
You can train yourself to be more honest by regularly evaluating your intentions, and also recognizing when an impulse is just an impulse. Here's how that goes:
*Open a 5 set*
*So no one is being very receptive, and you immediately disqualify 2 girls based on their looks. 3 girls remain as options. One is spectacular looking, so you talk to her*
"So what does a guy have to say to sleep with you?"
*3 girls start giggling uncontrollably, one looks shocked, your target is surprised, and looks at you differently*
Now, I don't know whether she wants to sleep with you, or what she'll respond to that question, but this bold move WILL work to your favor. Your target just evaluated you sexually, and probably made her decision already. If she gives you good signals, she wants you, or bad ones, she doesnt. Either is fine, her body language is her way of being honest about her intentions.
But by making that statement, you have established yourself as a sexually honest person. This is an infinitely attractive feature to every girl.
(Social calibration is also an attractive feature. The girl who was shocked by your statement thinks you have no calibration skills. If you decide that she is your target, prove her wrong by being fairly clean in group conversation, but sexual under the table or behind closed doors.)
The giggling girls are now all at your disposal. You were honest to the hottest girl there, and said "I would consider sleeping with you" (in a calibrated way). If she doesn't work out, you can make the same offer to another girl there and probably have success.
But we don't meet every girl on a cold approach, and not every conversation works out so cleanly. Therefore, the crux of being honest is being honest in all scenarios.
If you are one on one with a girl, you should have already decided whether or not you plan on sleeping with her. You should follow through on this decision in a way that makes it VERY CLEAR to her what you want. If you want to sleep with her, you better kiss her, or you are being dishonest by holding back. This indication must also be done early. You can't hang out with a girl one on one 3 times and decide on the 4th time that you want to get some action. When you try to make a move, she will be surprised and say "What? I thought we were just friends?"
Try this. Practice it in your life, evaluate your experiences in light of it. You will find that an honest comment is the best opener, isolation move, and close move. By being direct, honest, and confident, you WILL find success with women.
Good luck DJs.