What about that hazy threshold between "1" and "2"? In high school we used to use the "beers" rating system (how many beers you'd have to drink to get up the beer goggles to shag the chick in question). Women who were unacceptable no matter how many beers were consumed were termed "warpigs" (your "1"). Acceptable women were "0" or "sober" (your "2"), and we usually didn't take it past that.
“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”
Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.
Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers. Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.
I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.
The Looks Rule
- Thread starter HavierLopez
- Start date
"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
Shadow Dancer
Senior Don Juan
I don't have a set system but if I'm not attracted to a girl to certain point, I won't even bother talking to her. I find that the girls I go up to are never less than an 8. Otherwise I feel it's a waste of my time cause I'm not atrracted to 7's or below.
I know what brudah is saying about the 1 and 2 choices, heheh. My friend and I have something similar:
1-I'd phuck her
(dating, sex and nothing more)
2-I'd have a relationship with her
(dating, sex and possibly more)
3-I'm not interested at all
(nothing)
Also, I'm not out to screw or phuck any girl over. If you're not interested in a girl why phuck with her mind to practice your DJ skills? That's just some stupid shiet. Go for the girls you really are interested in. Be honest about it and be a real man. Forget that coward shiet.
p's!
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I danced till midnight when the sky turned black,
It is hard to dance with the Devil on your back.
They buried my body and thought I'd gone,
But I am the dance and I still go on.
I know what brudah is saying about the 1 and 2 choices, heheh. My friend and I have something similar:
1-I'd phuck her
(dating, sex and nothing more)
2-I'd have a relationship with her
(dating, sex and possibly more)
3-I'm not interested at all
(nothing)
Also, I'm not out to screw or phuck any girl over. If you're not interested in a girl why phuck with her mind to practice your DJ skills? That's just some stupid shiet. Go for the girls you really are interested in. Be honest about it and be a real man. Forget that coward shiet.
p's!
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I danced till midnight when the sky turned black,
It is hard to dance with the Devil on your back.
They buried my body and thought I'd gone,
But I am the dance and I still go on.
DON'T NOTICE THEM
1. the ugliest girl in the world
2. incredibly ugly, you see just a few of these in your life
3. fat or skinny, really ugly, bad dressed, immature, obnoxious
4. ugly
5. less attractive than average but decent personality and maybe a nice A&T
TRY TO GET THEM INTERESTED IN ME, BUT DON'T USE UNLESS THEY'RE THE ONLY AVAILABLES
6. cute face and average body or viceversa
MACK THEM
7. cute face and body
8. beautiful face and cute body, or cute face and extremely beautiful body
DREAM OF THEM
9. very beautiful face (blond hair and green or blue eyes) and beautiful or stunning body (when she has such a beautiful face, as long as her body is better than average, she's a 9 to me)
10. a 9 that particularly attracts me for some mysterious and arcane reason
1. the ugliest girl in the world
2. incredibly ugly, you see just a few of these in your life
3. fat or skinny, really ugly, bad dressed, immature, obnoxious
4. ugly
5. less attractive than average but decent personality and maybe a nice A&T
TRY TO GET THEM INTERESTED IN ME, BUT DON'T USE UNLESS THEY'RE THE ONLY AVAILABLES
6. cute face and average body or viceversa
MACK THEM
7. cute face and body
8. beautiful face and cute body, or cute face and extremely beautiful body
DREAM OF THEM
9. very beautiful face (blond hair and green or blue eyes) and beautiful or stunning body (when she has such a beautiful face, as long as her body is better than average, she's a 9 to me)
10. a 9 that particularly attracts me for some mysterious and arcane reason
A 10 is perfect beauty, like Aphrodite or something. It's impossible. A 10 would have an equal number of atoms on her left and right sides for perfect bilateral symmetry. A 10 would also be of a perfect height to the nanometer, have >HHH boobs, etc.
Maybe real doll would be the closest thing.
Maybe real doll would be the closest thing.
"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
My scale:
1-10: If you have good morals, are trust worthy and will be there for me I want you as a friend
Relationship-wise and sexually:
1-5: Dont want ANYTHING to do with them.
6: Will have sex if I dont have to put in any effort.
7: Worth the effort for sex.
8-10: Long term material
1-10: If you have good morals, are trust worthy and will be there for me I want you as a friend
Relationship-wise and sexually:
1-5: Dont want ANYTHING to do with them.
6: Will have sex if I dont have to put in any effort.
7: Worth the effort for sex.
8-10: Long term material
Pretty high standards. My own list would go something like...
1-3: Not interested.
4: If I were fairly drunk, I might mess around with one and not tell anyone.
5-6: Can be fbuddies, but I'm gone when something better comes along. (Cute face and ok body, good body and ok face...just an average girl)
7-8: What I usually aim for when I go out. Cute face and nice body, only category I would consider LTR potential.
9-10: Not within my reach, at least right now. Even if and when they are, I can't see myself in a LTR with one; usually too stuck up or spoiled. ONS material.
1-3: Not interested.
4: If I were fairly drunk, I might mess around with one and not tell anyone.
5-6: Can be fbuddies, but I'm gone when something better comes along. (Cute face and ok body, good body and ok face...just an average girl)
7-8: What I usually aim for when I go out. Cute face and nice body, only category I would consider LTR potential.
9-10: Not within my reach, at least right now. Even if and when they are, I can't see myself in a LTR with one; usually too stuck up or spoiled. ONS material.
OneArmDeeJay
Senior Don Juan
That’s Exactly how I rate. I don't waste time rating 1-10
On a side note,
In my opinion I believe there are 10's but only to you. Hear me out.
I can show you a girl that I think is 10 and you may think at best a 9.5.
Why is that?
What makes her a 10 to me?
Its The X Factor.
Its something that you see in her that no one else does except you and even when asked you just can't explain it.
These are the girls that every time your around them they make you stop in your tracks with your mouth hang open and your heart pounding so hard sounds like you have a sub wolver in your chest.
Again,
HB9.5 + X Factor = HB10
"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
Bloke
Senior Don Juan
This HB scale on this site is the biggest load of ****...
If you are interested in a girl = pursue. LOL, my scale of choice. Some are just more appealing than others.
If you are interested in a girl = pursue. LOL, my scale of choice. Some are just more appealing than others.
Yeah that's fun.
But beware, sometimes they tend to cling and bother you when you don't want them around. (like sitting next to you when you're with another (hotter) girl and claiming attention. That's really annoying sometimes. But hey, who blaims her.
10's are fine if you give the rating like you are an olympic judge.
They are meaningless if you give them out like they do at a slam dunk contest.
How many times have you seen a dunk get 10's across the board, then the next guy does something even better only to receive the same score? You have to leave some room at the top of the scale in case something better comes along.
If you give a woman a 10, its means you will never ever see a hotter woman. You may see one equally as hot, but not better. To me that is so rare it may as well not exist.
I've never seen a 10 in person, and not that many 9's unfortunately.
I have lived in a small town where the 6's were treated like 9's, but thats a whole 'nother story
They are meaningless if you give them out like they do at a slam dunk contest.
How many times have you seen a dunk get 10's across the board, then the next guy does something even better only to receive the same score? You have to leave some room at the top of the scale in case something better comes along.
If you give a woman a 10, its means you will never ever see a hotter woman. You may see one equally as hot, but not better. To me that is so rare it may as well not exist.
I've never seen a 10 in person, and not that many 9's unfortunately.
I have lived in a small town where the 6's were treated like 9's, but thats a whole 'nother story
"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"
When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.
My scale
1. Why haven't your killed yourself?
2. Help your level 1 friends kill themselves then kill yourself. Shave your 'stache beforehand so as not to embarrass your family too much at your funeral.
3. Well okay, but please keep sticking to only shopping at walmart.
4. Aww poor you.
5. Come on are you really talking to me?
6. Ok you can be my friend.
7. You wanna do me? How cute... well, alright.
8. Ok, now we're talkin..
9. Well, holy sh1t, what do we have here?
10. You're pretty freakin' hot but we've run out of numbers so a bunch of you and your other level 10 friends have to be 10s especially to ruffle the feathers of the anal retentive. Furthermore, there aren't really any 7s or other whole numbers either because that would be quite the coincidence that you got exactly a 7.000000 at 7 significant digits instead of say a 7.383743. I mean come on. Who is that lucky to find a chick who comes out to a nice even number on an arbitrary scale system? Well anyway, let's doooo it.
1. Why haven't your killed yourself?
2. Help your level 1 friends kill themselves then kill yourself. Shave your 'stache beforehand so as not to embarrass your family too much at your funeral.
3. Well okay, but please keep sticking to only shopping at walmart.
4. Aww poor you.
5. Come on are you really talking to me?
6. Ok you can be my friend.
7. You wanna do me? How cute... well, alright.
8. Ok, now we're talkin..
9. Well, holy sh1t, what do we have here?
10. You're pretty freakin' hot but we've run out of numbers so a bunch of you and your other level 10 friends have to be 10s especially to ruffle the feathers of the anal retentive. Furthermore, there aren't really any 7s or other whole numbers either because that would be quite the coincidence that you got exactly a 7.000000 at 7 significant digits instead of say a 7.383743. I mean come on. Who is that lucky to find a chick who comes out to a nice even number on an arbitrary scale system? Well anyway, let's doooo it.
this is me:
4 for face, 3 for body, 2 for clothes, 1 for perfection.
Score out of ten. Generally I'd go for 7.5-8+, I have high standards.
This is for unknown people, character and general personality is with the dating / next move, and slightly more important for me. That's just a basic scale for physical-ness.
http://www.sosuave.net/forum/showthread.php?threadid=46134
Survivor wins , though!
4 for face, 3 for body, 2 for clothes, 1 for perfection.
Score out of ten. Generally I'd go for 7.5-8+, I have high standards.
This is for unknown people, character and general personality is with the dating / next move, and slightly more important for me
. That's just a basic scale for physical-ness.http://www.sosuave.net/forum/showthread.php?threadid=46134
Survivor wins , though!
I also use the 10 scale but there's no real purpose for it other than bragging to your friends
I always ask myself these two questions :
"Would I **** her?"
if yes I may ask
"Would I LTR her?"
(I could **** a 9 or a 9.9 but have no interest in LTR because <numerous things that annoy me about her> )
and at some point in the future I may ask this :
"Do I trust her enough to let her have my kids?"
I always ask myself these two questions :
"Would I **** her?"
if yes I may ask
"Would I LTR her?"
(I could **** a 9 or a 9.9 but have no interest in LTR because <numerous things that annoy me about her> )
and at some point in the future I may ask this :
"Do I trust her enough to let her have my kids?"
englishcrap
Senior Don Juan
I really dont understand this whole scale thing...other then in a club or bar scene.
The club/bar scene when you walk in you would be seen as a 6 possibly unless your a Bradd Pitt lookalike. Theres no way any 8 or 9 is gonna chat to you coz u got no social value. However if you chat to a couple of 6's then you raise your social value to 7 possibly 8 in the eyes of the HB 8.
Approach her friends who might be 7's and rapport with them and now you move yourself up to a higher social value..and she will show signs of interest because now you either match or have a higher value then her.
The club/bar scene when you walk in you would be seen as a 6 possibly unless your a Bradd Pitt lookalike. Theres no way any 8 or 9 is gonna chat to you coz u got no social value. However if you chat to a couple of 6's then you raise your social value to 7 possibly 8 in the eyes of the HB 8.
Approach her friends who might be 7's and rapport with them and now you move yourself up to a higher social value..and she will show signs of interest because now you either match or have a higher value then her.
"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.