"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

Read more...

the loneliness on the road to becoming a true dj.

Broadband

Don Juan
Joined
Mar 18, 2002
Messages
101
Reaction score
0
Age
45
Location
Portland, Oregon
Never be in a serious long term relationship or marriage before 25

Reason: Lack of experience and maturity. Wait until you've had your share of partying. If your considering a threesome for example do it before you get married to get it out of your system.

But it's cool guys. I thought everyone who said that were morons too until I was in a 2 year long term relationship and realized that i'm cheating myself by not taking advantage of my youth.

I suggest you do the same.
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

Read more...

dillin

Don Juan
Joined
Mar 7, 2004
Messages
172
Reaction score
0
Originally posted by Broadband
Never be in a serious long term relationship or marriage before 25

Reason: Lack of experience and maturity. Wait until you've had your share of partying. If your considering a threesome for example do it before you get married to get it out of your system.

But it's cool guys. I thought everyone who said that were morons too until I was in a 2 year long term relationship and realized that i'm cheating myself by not taking advantage of my youth.

I suggest you do the same.
This guy has a good point.

Right now I am not looking for any serious type relationship, it's just not something I want right now while I'm trying to improve myself and have fun.

I honestly don't need to have women to have a good time, sure they can come along for the ride if they like but I really don't need any of them.

Alot of my friends are all like "omg you need a girlfriend!" and they end up getting with some ho who cheats behind there backs and walks all over them and they turn into a complete emotional wreck and it ruins there lives. They are in these stupid relationships for like 2 years and they are only 18.

I am just thinking to myself how they really must be too scared to leave this girl because they don't have the guts to go out and meet anyone else. I just have a great time going out to anywhere and if I'm in line with a cute girl then sure I'll start a conversation and get the number but it's not like I'm going to die if I'm not in some pointless LTR with some hor, wait for that stuff till your older but thats just me.
 

Slashco

Senior Don Juan
Joined
Feb 6, 2003
Messages
358
Reaction score
2
Originally posted by Abnigh9
If you're serious about this, you're pathetic. Very pathetic.
I think everyone should wait until they are physically and emotionally ready for a relationship, and find the right person. Being in an unfulfilling, emotionally draining relationship just because society says you should 'be with someone' is the only thing that's pathetic.
 

Abnigh9

Master Don Juan
Joined
Jan 25, 2004
Messages
507
Reaction score
0
Location
Dooodoooo...
Well I thought he meant all people under the age of 25 lack experience and maturity until he explained what he just said.
 

LikRetsam

Master Don Juan
Joined
Oct 30, 2003
Messages
1,633
Reaction score
1
Hehe. Yeah I'm 15 but there are exceptions to every rule!
I'm not new to this. I'm a natural "ladies man".

Relationships are truly not worth it at my age, I can tell you that much, until you find that one chick that has her head on straight. All these pathetic little girls runnnig around with no idea what the f*ck is going on around them.

Relationships are fun and open up a new side to the world. I'm perfectly happy without one as we should all be. Being in one is just extra fun.

In regards to the other person acting, I'm not dumb enough to be had by that. Actions do speak louder then words. I believe an "act" is based more on words. The actions will give it all away. Basically natural sh!t tests. It's rather hard to "act" like your some one else for years succesfully, don't ya think?

You don't need to be emotionally and physically mature to enjoy a relationship or have a good one. You simply need to be on the same platform as the other chick. When you arn't playing on the same field, it does get jacked up eh?

Lik
 

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

Read more...

Hot Ice

Master Don Juan
Joined
Oct 1, 2002
Messages
1,667
Reaction score
3
Location
Finland
Good post.

At this point I see going with friends is sometimes a burden actually. Except for some great friends.
 

Void

Master Don Juan
Joined
Jul 2, 2004
Messages
634
Reaction score
5
evo

evo if you dont have a girlfriend at 15 you're a ****ing loser.
 

Danny Zuko

Don Juan
Joined
Apr 18, 2004
Messages
17
Reaction score
0
Great post buddy ;)

Been through this phase it's lonely, long & lonely but when it's over it's over for good...
 

comic_relief

Master Don Juan
Joined
Feb 29, 2004
Messages
3,282
Reaction score
49
Location
Baltimore, MD
great post
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

Read more...

neobrood

Senior Don Juan
Joined
Jun 2, 2004
Messages
250
Reaction score
0
Location
toronto, canada
I wish...

I saw this thread earlier.

I'm at this stage tho. The depression and shlt.

I'm thinkin of stuff like... "What exactly is the real me?!? Is there such a thing as the real me?" Sometimes I become afc, and sometimes I act DJ. Especially in front of parents, and old friends, IM THE AFC... but in front of the new friends, IM THE DJ... :D

Weird eh...
 

Lusterkx2

Don Juan
Joined
Feb 19, 2009
Messages
30
Reaction score
0
This thread is so true Im just blow away to the extreme. Its whats happening to me!! I'll vent out a little. This is happening to me!! The day I started to change because I didnt want to be doing the same thing over and over. My two bestest buddies in the world doesnt even call me anymore, well sometimes they do but not as much as anymore. These two motivated me in Life, now that im doing great there not even there to see my accomplishment. My role models are gone smoking their drugs. I said to myself," Did I lose them or did they replace me with drugs". I miss them so much. I want to tell them all the great things that happen to me and how it can be for them too, but there caught up in smoke. This is so true because I met so much people yet I do feel lonely, Its because I dont got the same connection with the new people as much as my old buddies. I will hold on and confront them one day. Thanks!
 

S.Y.L

Senior Don Juan
Joined
Aug 4, 2008
Messages
463
Reaction score
3
Wow, this totally just describes me now, my old friends are all ****ing boring now...
 

Mr CIDH

Don Juan
Joined
Mar 19, 2009
Messages
61
Reaction score
2
Location
Northpole
My buddies think its nuts I'm on this forum and are definately not up for joining. Most are afc and whine about women. They are starting to find my woman stories annoying and just dont do anything. They're cool friends otherwise so no dumping them. I use this forum to improve my skills, not to redo my whole personality so no problem with my friends. Some extra DJ friends would kick ass cuz I like talking this stuff. But hey'thats what the forum is for.
 

x86

Don Juan
Joined
Jan 29, 2008
Messages
123
Reaction score
3
Location
Canada
extravaganza said:
3- Leave the excess luggage behind. In this case you go on with your life and decide not to depend on others. What I mean is this: If you want to do something, don't wait for your friends to come with you but just go alone. Of course you should ask them to come but when they say: " well I can't now but in about 2 months I'll go with you" That's when you should go alone. It also doesn't mean you should break of the friendship. For normal things you can still hang out with them and go out etc.
This is one of the best pieces of advice out there.

I am joining a sports league solo. It may be scary but it will be exciting making new friends while being active at the same time. It will also be awesome to share new stories with my good group of friends.

I managed to adopt this piece of advice and recommend others do the same.
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

Read more...

Top