"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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The London UnderGround Experience - I thought I had the Girl

englishcrap

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Can someone relate to this ?

Last night , I was coming back from the office after a few drinks at a leaving party. I was feeling a bit merry and back to Liverpool St station. As I stood on the platform I noticed this pretty smartly dressed woman.

I turned to her smiled and asked her "When is the next train coming" she replied "Oh God knows" and she smiled back.

I then said to her without even thinking about it "Fancy a drink"..to my disbelief she said "Yes come on then". She said

"I know this nice bar near Towerhill station lets go there"..

"Ok Cool " I said still in a state of disbelief..I mean ****..this is central London 930 pm in the evening and this fit bird who I had only met for 10 seconds on the platform wanted to come along for a drink with me :D..hehehe..I thought to myself lucky me..

So we had a few drinks and then we headed of to a restaurant for an indian meal..she told me how she had just moved down from Manchester and had no mates in London. But had a boyfriend up in Manchester which she didnt see often...

By the time we had finished, it was already 1200 pm and she said "God you have probably missed your train now why dont you come round and stay at my place "...I thought wow things are getting better :D and I get to shag this bird corrr !

So we got back to her place we were both drunk and were still chatting. Then she said you can sleep on the sofa and she went to get some blankets for me.

I was alittle confused by now...I mean why would a woman invite me back to her place and not want somthing to happen ?. Was she just lonely ???. So I grabbed her gently when she came back and began kissing her in the hair...she pushed me gently away and said

"Sorry but I got a boyfriend I just want some friends in London"..

Anyway so I ended up sleeping on her sofa for the night..next morning I wished her the best she gave me her business card and left...

What the hell was happening there ? What was she thinking when she invited me back to her place ?
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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Alpine

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Excellent result English, no seriously.

Look, you did pretty much everything by the book. What was in your control you handled well.

You could have said 'Well I've got plenty of friends, I don't need any more'

But really, she sounds fine, be her friend, meet her friends, just imagine what her other female friends think when she relates the story.

The worst thing you could have done was get all moody when she said NO.

Best of all, you have proved to yourself if you have the balls to talk to strangers, use a half decent game, a fair percentage will be moved up to the next rung.

I reckon it's 50/50 with a bird who takes you back. Those are pretty good odds for the next one.

Good job.
 

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My thorts initially was that "Why don't you come back with me and I'll give you the opportunity to Fcuk me"

She may have given you the opportunity but you didn't have enough to close the deal... I don't think the boyfriend would have been an issue if she was that bold..
 

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i think you did the best you could for goodness sakes what else could you have done , that woman was really brave to let you in like that be carefull with them kinda women, next thing you know she's crying rape iv seen cases like that before. if she wnats to be friends then theres nothing wrong with that if thats what you want, i just think the women has issues.
 

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i think you did the best you could for goodness sakes what else could you have done
If he did his best and got nothing, he may as well throw the towel in.. Your suggesting there is no more potential.... so what is the point on posting his FR... to get sympathy from kiss asses that litter this site or to get suggestions and feedback..

Personally, I would have pushed the kino on her more. Disregard what she told me about her BF and continue with the sarge... till I eventually get what I want or get kicked out of her house... I'd rather get kicked out than to sleep over empty-handed and feeling like I've justed been taken for a LJBF.
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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There is something to be said for backing off, easing into kino and having another go, but I just think the girl was friendly, didn't come on to him as such during the evening.

I think it would have soured the whole experience if she got upset because he was forcing it. Plus, he would have had an expensive taxi home 'Sath ov the river Gov thhhhhh?'

I don't feel the need to push it more than that, I'm thinking it's no big deal, there's plenty more and there may be another opportunity.
 

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Yup..looking on the positive side if I hadnt stayed at her place it would have been an expensive taxi ride home..somthing like £45 quid :D

To me at the time it just seemed odd at the time a woman inviting a complete stranger to her home and then nothing happening.

MacDiddy - No I did NOT post this message because I am sobbing and looking for sympathy :D

Originally posted by Alpine
There is something to be said for backing off, easing into kino and having another go, but I just think the girl was friendly, didn't come on to him as such during the evening.

I think it would have soured the whole experience if she got upset because he was forcing it. Plus, he would have had an expensive taxi home 'Sath ov the river Gov thhhhhh?'

I don't feel the need to push it more than that, I'm thinking it's no big deal, there's plenty more and there may be another opportunity.
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