ctorres626
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I made so many mistakes, pursued, became needy just things that should not be done. She lost attraction for me and she did show interest in me. Granted this girl has been hurt BADLY in the past. hasn't had a relationship, fling, nor kissed a guy in TWO years. A sweet girl but afraid to love. I came into her life 7 months ago because I moved from Chicago to Brazil to teach. I have been the only man to get close to her in two years... I have been courting her and taking things slow as we talked about... She gets jealous of other women who talk to me, she holds my hand when we go out, we haven't kissed yet and she hasn't kissed a guy in a couple years.... we are both 27.... things were moving along slowly as we talked about.. thought she is afraid to open up to anyone... after we spent the weekend together and slept in the same bed (hard for me to resist) but I behaved and I massaged her quiet a bit....she came back from a week on vacation with a lot of time to think.... she finally stood in a position to "just be friends". I over texted while she was gone after our trip, said I missed her and freaked out when I didn't hear from her. (Shake my head) She sent me this...
"I thought a lot these days and I can not let things continue as they are among us ... I know you like me very much or even love me, but my feelings for you are just friends ... I love you, but as a friend !! I want to ask you, please do not more expectations with me !! Regardless of my problems, fears, fears and hurts because my past, my feelings will not change !!! I do not want to hurt you ... I would never do that to you ... But I do not know how to drive it all, knowing your feelings ... Leave things as they are going to hurt us at some point! Please do not do anything for me if not for friendship !! I ask you a thousand pardons for not meeting your feelings ... You are a wonderful person and deserves someone special and wonderful too !! But this one I am not and I will not be !! I'm here and I'll always and forever, but as a friend !! I ask you a thousand apologies if I let the situation reach a point that will hurt us, but we need to align our expectations to continue having any kind of relationship, that is friendship! Again forgive me!"
I haven't seen her since the beginning of November. We have tons of mutual friends as I teach at her work at the bank. I have gone no contact and after two weeks she messaged me. "Hey you disappeared, how are you? Please let me know if you are okay asap. I replied a day later very short "I am doing great." She then messages me back good, I see that you don't want to take to me more, sorry I reached out to you. Hours later I replied that I was very busy, how are you? That was a week ago. Me and her got very very close, and it was a big emotional connection. I invested my emotions a lot, I understand now after reading a lot on here that I was not a challenge anymore, nor mysterious. She really likes me because I am different but all this neediness kinda scared her away. I am trying to move on, started going out with other women and spinning plates. My question to you guys is how do I proceed? I would like to recover from this somehow. Perhaps wait for her to initiate contact with me. Let time pass by until I talk to her again and do things differently. I know she will not be seeing anyone. That is a fact, but I know she misses me because I am a big part of her life.....
"I thought a lot these days and I can not let things continue as they are among us ... I know you like me very much or even love me, but my feelings for you are just friends ... I love you, but as a friend !! I want to ask you, please do not more expectations with me !! Regardless of my problems, fears, fears and hurts because my past, my feelings will not change !!! I do not want to hurt you ... I would never do that to you ... But I do not know how to drive it all, knowing your feelings ... Leave things as they are going to hurt us at some point! Please do not do anything for me if not for friendship !! I ask you a thousand pardons for not meeting your feelings ... You are a wonderful person and deserves someone special and wonderful too !! But this one I am not and I will not be !! I'm here and I'll always and forever, but as a friend !! I ask you a thousand apologies if I let the situation reach a point that will hurt us, but we need to align our expectations to continue having any kind of relationship, that is friendship! Again forgive me!"
I haven't seen her since the beginning of November. We have tons of mutual friends as I teach at her work at the bank. I have gone no contact and after two weeks she messaged me. "Hey you disappeared, how are you? Please let me know if you are okay asap. I replied a day later very short "I am doing great." She then messages me back good, I see that you don't want to take to me more, sorry I reached out to you. Hours later I replied that I was very busy, how are you? That was a week ago. Me and her got very very close, and it was a big emotional connection. I invested my emotions a lot, I understand now after reading a lot on here that I was not a challenge anymore, nor mysterious. She really likes me because I am different but all this neediness kinda scared her away. I am trying to move on, started going out with other women and spinning plates. My question to you guys is how do I proceed? I would like to recover from this somehow. Perhaps wait for her to initiate contact with me. Let time pass by until I talk to her again and do things differently. I know she will not be seeing anyone. That is a fact, but I know she misses me because I am a big part of her life.....
