"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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The Limits of Social Circle Game

kody_starr

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Living in a small ish area, I've been experimenting with social circle game. The results so far, are not what I'd been hoping for. What's happening around here is that the smarter, more ambitious, generally more interesting people, are leaving as soon as they can. Very often, when they go off to college.

The "remainder" are individuals who are the ones having difficulties: financial, emotional, etc. For reasons which are not yet clear to me, many, perhaps a majority are substance abusers of one kind or another: alcohol, cigs, harder drugs, sometimes all of the above.

Their down time away from work, seems to consist of hanging out with other people who are mutual abusers. So anyway, here is a typical profile of those who are still single but still living in the local area:

1. drug abuse
2. not ambitious
3. small minded

I could go on, but I choose not to. The first issue alone is enough to remove them from the list.

Increasingly, it looks as if my best option is to move out as soon as possible. As they say, you can put lipstick on a pig, but it's still a pig.
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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Julius_Seizeher

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I'm with you man.

It's challenging to cultivate abundance when you're fishing in a very shallow pond.

I grew up on a farm and still live in the country, it's a small city 45 minutes from a major city. I would not trade the way I grew up for ANYTHING, every boy should grow up baling hay, riding horses, showing steers, building hay forts, driving tractors, shooting rifles, and all the wonderful things I got to do as a kid. To this day, I could never trade seeing the stars in panorama and hearing coyotes at night for smog and congestion and yuppie sh!t (blech!). Did it in college, that was enough for me.

But I also acknowledge that the vast majority of what I would consider "available" women will be found around cities.

So my intention is to build my fin serv practice to exceptional success and buy a large horse farm outside a big city.

Big city women with country livin'. Yessir.
 

kody_starr

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I like that man. Best of both worlds! I actually started up another thread about that: great areas to live in with hot females...
 

thecurtainfalls

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Your thread title is a bit misleading. It's more like, "the limits of living in a small town" rather than the limits of social circle game.

I live in Los Angeles, and let me confirm, there is no limit to the success that can come from social circle game.
 

kody_starr

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It's more like the limits of social circle game in a small town I suppose. My main concern here you are correct is not with social circle game itself but the types of people you meet through specific social circles. In small towns, it's a lot of non-ambitious people sedating themselves heavily with drugs so they can get through the next week.

If you can meet really cool people in social circles elsewhere, then by all means, do so. I've tried this several times in small towns with the same yield each time.
 

"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"

You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.

She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.

Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.

Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.

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