"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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The Liberating Nature of "Open" Relationships

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STR8UP said:
And BTW.....my point had nothing to do with the physical aspect of it. It's the cultural/societal/moralistic stance that some people take against it that is not right. Not right to try to impose it on me anyway.
I already said I'm all for non-exclusivity, and I get the feeling I have much more experience with such relationships than you do so please don't put me with the "die from fvcking" crowd.

However, keep in mind that if she's a real catch she will eventually break up with you if you don't commit. I doubt they mentioned that in the documentaries you've seen. I still prefer to have open relationships. I do it more implicitly though and eventually they get tired of waiting for me to commit and leave (especially the ones who are LTR material, not those who willingly accept the FB arrangement). They are as much in demand as we are so they don't need to settle for the type of relationship they don't want. At least that's the case with the type of women I would consider for LTR.
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Your profile says you are 28 years old. Of course the women you will be dating will be hitting the road after awhile if you don't put a ring on the finger.

The older you are the more likely you will be able to maintain an open arrangement. Not with a 21-24 yr old though....they still buy into the fairy tale brainwashing and they know they are in their prime so most of them will jump ship as soon as the next train comes along.

I don't claim to be an expert on the subject, but it's pretty easy to see that social dynamics would dictate that this type of arrangement wouldn't work nearly as well for younger people as I does those who are older and more mature.
 
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