"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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The "Let her down easy" thread

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As we know, a good DJ should always be spinning multiple plates. The negative thing about having so many simultaneous projects in the works is that you're going to have to let go of some. Some of these girls are good girls who really like you, so you want to let them down easy.

I wanted to start a thread for us to bounce ideas of each other about how we can cut women loose with the least amount of pain. I'm not talking about fvck buddies or girls with whom you had a ONS. I'm talking about girls who truly wanted a serious LTR with you.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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I'll start with a tip of my own. It's not really groundbreaking or original, but I like to use the sandwich method. This is a pretty common strategy used to deliver bad news in a variety of different contexts.

Basically you sandwich the bad news in between two pleasant topics. So you open by telling the girl what an awesome person she is. Then you break the bad news that there's someone else. You tell her that if you didn't have this thing going with the other person, you'd love to date this girl. You then reassure her that she won't be on the market for long. If at all possible, you should try and set her up with a good friend of yours.

Make sure that you inject a little humor into it. She probably will be hurting, but laughter is a good medicine. Really try to reassure her that she won't be on the market for long. And if you can set her up with a friend, you're doing a good thing for two people you know.
 
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sorry but I dont think I would take second helpings from my buddy.

"Hey man I been bangin this broad, but I found something better, you want her?"

SURE!.... not hahaha
 
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Chromeo said:
sorry but I dont think I would take second helpings from my buddy.

"Hey man I been bangin this broad, but I found something better, you want her?"

SURE!.... not hahaha
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If she's hot, why not? By the time they're in their 20s most chicks have banged god knows how many guys.
 
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Lexington said:
If she's hot, why not? By the time they're in their 20s most chicks have banged god knows how many guys.
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I don't want the hand downs from my friends. The fact that they f*cked how many dudes before me doesn't bother me, but the fact that my friend stuck his **** in there would bother me.
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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