The lesson I learned from Starlord.

[Genos]

So, I just got back from watching Guardians of the Galaxy (great film by the way). The action was great, the comedy was gold, Groot was Groot.

But, as an aspiring DJ, one of things that stuck out to me the most was Peter Quill/Starlord's (Chris Pratt) interaction with Gamora (Zoe Saldana). That is, the impact and importance of escalation.

I know this is a pretty basic concept, especially for the experienced folks on this forum, but the scene where Pratt lets Saldana listen to music and made a move really struck home for me. Without any words, he moves closer, holds her hand, and moves in for the kiss...he eventually gets shut down (to comedic effect), but that's not the point. He puts himself out there, makes his intentions known, and is unfazed by rejection.

What this scene finally engrained in my mind was, this is how you demonstrate interest in a girl. You don't tell her you like her, or ask to be in a relationship (both of which are things I have done in the past, fk me man, I literally cringe as I remember the super beta stuff I did >_>), you escalate. It's 1000x more effective. I had heard about and known of this before, but seeing it in action definitely made it something I'm not gonna forget.

Just wanted to drop by and post this; usually modern cinema is all but Disney Romantic Princess beta utopia, but that was a great scene which really rang true with me.

 

[Bagofnuts]

Heh i liked that movie

 

[Skyline]

So, I just got back from watching Guardians of the Galaxy (great film by the way). The action was great, the comedy was gold, Groot was Groot.

But, as an aspiring DJ, one of things that stuck out to me the most was Peter Quill/Starlord's (Chris Pratt) interaction with Gamora (Zoe Saldana). That is, the impact and importance of escalation.

I know this is a pretty basic concept, especially for the experienced folks on this forum, but the scene where Pratt lets Saldana listen to music and made a move really struck home for me. Without any words, he moves closer, holds her hand, and moves in for the kiss...he eventually gets shut down (to comedic effect), but that's not the point. He puts himself out there, makes his intentions known, and is unfazed by rejection.

What this scene finally engrained in my mind was, this is how you demonstrate interest in a girl. You don't tell her you like her, or ask to be in a relationship (both of which are things I have done in the past, fk me man, I literally cringe as I remember the super beta stuff I did >_>), you escalate. It's 1000x more effective. I had heard about and known of this before, but seeing it in action definitely made it something I'm not gonna forget.

Just wanted to drop by and post this; usually modern cinema is all but Disney Romantic Princess beta utopia, but that was a great scene which really rang true with me.

What StarLord did in that scene is what I consider what you should be doing normally when trying to attract a girl. Most game isn't even verbal, your actions can do all the talking you need. This is one of the reasons I wouldn't recommend online dating as a serious option and why consistently texting/calling women you are interested in, other than to set up dates, isn't a good idea. I mean its true you can charm a girl with words but if you're behind a screen, it's not really gonna get you laid on the spot.

 

[ErnestHenley]

I will give you two scenarios of date to reaffirm this.
-both HBs I am on good terms with on a speak when see basis.

HB1) I develop feelings for and end up texting of which the occasional text was AFC worthy sappiness. This ended up with me getting the lets clarify our friendship talk.

HB2) Never texted unless in need of something or as part of a social setting banter. Bring on a night out and after dancing, playfully pinning her to the wall, her hamster wheel spun out of control and she threw her lips at me.

Two scenarios that have taught me something this week. If only regrets could be recalled. Don't fall on mistake any new guys reading this.

 

[wishyo]

yea, comedy stuff was pretty amazing. relatively high quality humor for a hollywood movie.
note that he took quite a bit of time to escalate, the moment was right and stuff... same with real life dating, having pre set time frames (i.e. 2nd date=kiss. 3rd=heavy make out) is wrong, one has to go with flow and do what feels natural.

 

[zinc4]

First date should go...talk for about two three hours light Kino followed by kiss and sex....

 

[zekko]

I loved that movie, pure fun, pure joy.

I agree with your point about escalation, but I agree with Frayzer it's possible to charm with words as well. Doesn't replace escalation though.