The less I care about women the more I catch them staring

[PeasantPlayer]

Was it all really so simple? Or maybe I am overreacting? Last few weeks I told me self to stop being so anxious and thirsty when I see women. (I am a sucker for yoga pants, and curves) If i seen a women I liked I would in my mind turn in to a horn dog animal, I would keep trying to get them to look back at me. It felt forced and I was self sabotaging myself. That's when I told myself "relax, tone it down and don't subconsciously put them on a pedestal" You see I thought if I didn't approach them that was enough, not allowing them on their pedestal. It wasn't....it was what was going on inside of me and how I reacted to being in their presence, I was still putting them on a pedestal, but in my mind.


Now when I go out I have this care free, don't give a damn attitude no matter what HB walks in..the thirst is down, the anxiousness, the self sabotaging. I'm just going with the flow, if I see a cute girl I give a quick glance when she is almost not looking and look somewhere else making sure not to dart my eyes. I have now been catching women looking at me from the corner of their eyes more and I have caught quite a few. My favorite is not looking at the hot chicks at all. This one chick walked in to the coffee shop, when I was waiting for my cup of coffee, I was gawking I tried to refrain but she was really good looking. She didn't glance at me once. She came in again a few days later and I made it a point to myself, don't gawk, don't be thirsty or anxious, relax and go with the flow, be natural and be you. I did.....seen her come in didn't even look at her for more than half a second, no 2nd looks just went about my business.

She recently came in a 3rd time, she walked by me to get in line (i was throwing out my trash)
As I was doing this I seen/felt her looking at me, I did a smooth side look and caught her checking me out, we met eyes and she looked away pretending to read the menu. I made sure this wasn't a casual look, She was looking for a good 3-4 seconds before I looked back at her.

My point is relax, don't be anxious and don't force outcomes in your mind, live in the moment and care as if you would not care if you ever seen her again, she's human just like everybody else, she's not perfect, she has flaws to. She is not a princess

 

[PeasantPlayer]

So what did you do? You know, talk to her or what

She was more or less an example, I'll talk to her

 

[SeymourCake]

Perhaps women understand this psychological phenomenon and use it to get men to stare at them.

 

[Von]

A look is nothing if there is no after... after all its just a look.

 

[mrgoodstuff]

A look is nothing if there is no after... after all its just a look.

All that extra looking wastes your attention, that you could be using on other things. It's better if they look at you.

 

[Aryan Prince]

Confidence in yourself is a priceless comodity!!!