SO, after years of trial and error, i've finally managed to work out a way with chicks that works more than 50% of the time.
Here it is. Once I've met a girl casually and I think I'd like to date her, this is my usual pattern.
Date 1: I invite the girl to something which allows us to talk but gives us something automatic to talk about. Often this is an art museum because I tend to go for more cultured, better-educated girls who like that kind of thing. i also show that I can appreciate art without showing off. If we're still talking at the end of it i invite her to a cafe to contnue the chat.
Date 2: If date 1 went really well I might skip Date 2 and go right to Date 3. If I'm still a little unsure, I choose something that'll give me and the girl a chance for some low-key physical contact, like a move or karaoke. I always get a kiss by the end of this date. If she turns away, I don't call her again.
Date 3: Here's where I move in for the kill. I invite her to my place so I can cook dinner for her. Nothing over the top; no candles, no flowers on the table. I cook something mildly exotic but simple (Indian and Vietnamese are good, or one of the simpler French recipes. Sorry guys, pasta with red sauce doesn't cut it). I also serve a glass or two of wine, but not so much she thinks I'm trying to get her drunk.
Then, after dessert (always something with chocolate) I lead her into the bedroom. This is especially easy for me because my apartment is very high up and has a great view of the city. Once she's standing in front of the window I come up behind her and start giving her a light neck massage. if she doesn't object I start kissing her neck. The rest is history.
Anyway, that's what works for me. If you guys have your own variations (or suggestions/questions) I'd be happy to hear them.
Here it is. Once I've met a girl casually and I think I'd like to date her, this is my usual pattern.
Date 1: I invite the girl to something which allows us to talk but gives us something automatic to talk about. Often this is an art museum because I tend to go for more cultured, better-educated girls who like that kind of thing. i also show that I can appreciate art without showing off. If we're still talking at the end of it i invite her to a cafe to contnue the chat.
Date 2: If date 1 went really well I might skip Date 2 and go right to Date 3. If I'm still a little unsure, I choose something that'll give me and the girl a chance for some low-key physical contact, like a move or karaoke. I always get a kiss by the end of this date. If she turns away, I don't call her again.
Date 3: Here's where I move in for the kill. I invite her to my place so I can cook dinner for her. Nothing over the top; no candles, no flowers on the table. I cook something mildly exotic but simple (Indian and Vietnamese are good, or one of the simpler French recipes. Sorry guys, pasta with red sauce doesn't cut it). I also serve a glass or two of wine, but not so much she thinks I'm trying to get her drunk.
Then, after dessert (always something with chocolate) I lead her into the bedroom. This is especially easy for me because my apartment is very high up and has a great view of the city. Once she's standing in front of the window I come up behind her and start giving her a light neck massage. if she doesn't object I start kissing her neck. The rest is history.
Anyway, that's what works for me. If you guys have your own variations (or suggestions/questions) I'd be happy to hear them.