"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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The Law of Attraction

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Resurrecting this thread because I just watched the Secret last night. Back in 08 I had no clue what you guys were talking about in this thread. Now it's like ahhh ok

Just wanted to add my thoughts

I'm not buying the whole Quantum Physics thing and the whole pseudoscientific explanation for why it works. It turns the Law of Attraction into a magic pill (which it isn't) and totally negates the fact our faculities have to be in alignment with our thoughts in order for us to get what we want. It's also the reason the Law of Attraction gets laughed at. Something is not scientifically proven until formulas are created that consistently dictate the results. Nobody's quantified how these thoughts of ours supposedly spread out. Until then, it's just speculation and pseudoscience.

Other than that, it's solid because it's basically a renewed perspective on expectancy theory and self-fullfilling prophecy.

Off the top of my head I can list a few self help books that embody elements of the Law of Attraction.
- The first 2 Habits from Steven Covey's 7 Habits
- The visualization aspect of George Leonard's 5 steps to Mastery
- Napoleon Hill's Think and Grow Rich, which is basically the Law of Attraction applied to wealth/success
- Any book about positive thinking
- Any book about defeating limiting beliefs

In the end I'd argue that the only thing you can control with your thoughts is yourself, as opposed to thinking you can directly affect the world (which is the what The Secret is insisting you can do). Still, by controlling your thoughts, considering how reactive most people on earth are, you're able to make your way through life in ways most people can't.
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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