"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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The Last Time You Went AFC

SeymourCake

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For me it was 3 days ago. I met a Columbian lady at my university and she had a 7+/10 face (she hardly wore any make up), big boobs, a slim waist, and a thick ass.

Anyway, I told her she was beautiful like three times upon our first 15-30 minute conversation and when I walked away to go to class, I realized in the DJ Bible it says that 'you shall never worship good looks on a women'.
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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Glumix

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Every times I walked away from her, I allowed my ex-BPD to come back listening to her : "I will change..." promise, until 3 months ago.
 

Infern0

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With my BPD ex.

She triggers me emotional flashbacks, as I had an abusive childhood myself.

She's the only one with the ability to do it
 

El Payaso

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As soon as I reciprocated that I felt the same way towards her, she bolted.

I now know not to tell a woman how I feel about her. Show her.
Yeah. Actions over words is much better.
 

RangerMIke

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This is why I come back here now and then.... it's like the faithful going to church... you NEED the re-enforcement. AFC behavior is ALWAYS just boiling under the surface. Met a woman last week. Two dates in a week, and I even fvcking up and asked her out right after the second date.... Rookie mistake, but we all meet women that stand out.... The only thing I can do now is after the third date, not call her for a while to get myself under control... but the truth is I probability have to walk away completely, only way to break the spell.
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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foreverAFC

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this is all mental gymnastics for nothing, i wish it didnt have to be this way, why cant two people just like eachother
 

wifehunter

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Maybe... it's the sudden burst of testosterone, to knock us off our game. It's a good opportunity to pull away when you feel lovestruck. Just remember, there are women out there that will blow your mind. Try to treat them like any other human. Or better yet, your brat sister!
 

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Last night. It's funny, but whenever a girl is sleeping in my bed I can't relax. I catch myself trying not to move too much, not to disturb her etc. It's embarrassing but it seems I'm too AFC to sleep.
Was kinda stupefied at that, but I can't get myself to relax even when super tired. Yesterday was worse than usual, because this one snored and smelled like cold smoke...

I got up early, which made her get up as well, didn't offer breakfast and pretended to start working at the PC so she would leave. Went straight back to bed afterwards and got some sleep.......

Times like this make me reconsider that whole getting laid thing.
 
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