The last LJBF thread you will need

[backbreaker]

Okay, i've had enough...


I mean, overall, the board has gotten alot better recently, but it's like we have an influx of LJBF threads...

So... I have taken it upon myself to gather as much LJBF information as possible in one post, and to post some of my personal experiences



First, EVERYONE who has had LJBF problems should read these threads... because ovbiously you haven't if you are making these same posts.



http://www.sosuave.net/forum/showthread.php?s=&threadid=84433

http://www.sosuave.net/forum/showthread.php?s=&threadid=83349

http://www.sosuave.net/forum/showthread.php?s=&threadid=75166

http://www.sosuave.net/forum/showthread.php?s=&threadid=17008

http://www.sosuave.net/forum/showthread.php?s=&threadid=80553

http://www.sosuave.net/forum/showthread.php?s=&threadid=18451

http://www.sosuave.net/forum/showthread.php?s=&threadid=48336

http://www.sosuave.net/forum/showthread.php?s=&threadid=54017

http://www.sosuave.net/forum/showthread.php?s=&threadid=36843

http://www.sosuave.net/forum/showthread.php?s=&threadid=82134

http://www.sosuave.net/forum/showthread.php?s=&threadid=16427

http://www.sosuave.net/forum/showthread.php?s=&threadid=59150


"but I don't want to read all of thoose, that's alot"

Well, tough ****. Read. There's alot of important information on thoose pages that will help you not only understand what is going on, but will help you understand a) how you got in that situation in the first place, b) what is really going on and c) how to move on and why you should move on



Yes, there are posts here stating other things, ,about winning over your LJBF, but I don't want to post contridicting advice, and 99/100 times anyway, it's better to just live and let live then to try to do something that isn't worth it.


Now, I am assuming you have read the post...

Being LJBF'ed Sucks.. It Sucks Ass. I can tell you first hand.

It sucks becuase you just know how good of a relationship you and that person will have, you just have to find a way to get them to see it...


I really only got LJBFed once... And the ****ed up part about it was, I didn't get LJBFed because I wasn't hitting on her or even because she didn't like me.. I got LJBFed because I dated the girl's Best friend before I met her and my EX, even though she didn't want me anymore, didn't want me to date her either.



The absolute 100% best way to MOVE ON, is just to a) work on improving yourself and b) TALK TO OTHER WOMEN... not only talk to other women, DATE OTHER WOMEN...

Also, do not use the excuse that you have no other women to keep being strung along by the LJBF girl. that's a huge mistake alot of people make, including myself for 2 years. I stopped talking to some very, very nice looking women because all I could thinka bout was my "dream girl"


Can you turn a LJBF until a GF? Sure... it can be done... however, it's not worth it... that's time you could use to improve yourself, t alk to other women or anything else.


Well, that's all I have for now, but if anyone else has some advice, please post... I figure we can get all of our ideas under one thread so we can get everyones questions answered.

 

[quest]

I have received only one "Lets Just Be Friends" in my life.

And it was the single most turning point in me discovering I needed help.

I would not be where I am today without getting the "Lets Just Be Friends".

I think its a really important line to receive at some point.

What does it teach you?

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At the stage of receiving a "Lets Just Be Friends" you must have :

been "More Then Friends". Meaning that you're able to create enough attraction to get a girl. -important.

been seeing her on multiple occasions. Meaning that you were able to hold attraction over time. -very important.

put her onto a pedastool. Or some other method of crashing and burning. -EXTREMELY important.

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You must learn what it was that you did wrong and then learn how to NOT do that again in future.

The time I got the "Lets Just Be Friends" I was incredibly shy and boring with a girl which was attracted to me. I was shy and boring because I didn't want to do something wrong. Because I had put her on a pedastool.

I haven't done that again in almost 3 years.

 

[backbreaker]

Re: Re: The last LJBF thread you will need

Originally posted by quest
I have received only one "Lets Just Be Friends" in my life.

And it was the single most turning point in me discovering I needed help.

I would not be where I am today without getting the "Lets Just Be Friends".

I think its a really important line to receive at some point.

What does it teach you?

---------------------------------

At the stage of receiving a "Lets Just Be Friends" you must have :

been "More Then Friends". Meaning that you're able to create enough attraction to get a girl. -important.

been seeing her on multiple occasions. Meaning that you were able to hold attraction over time. -very important.

put her onto a pedastool. Or some other method of crashing and burning. -EXTREMELY important.

----------------------------------

You must learn what it was that you did wrong and then learn how to NOT do that again in future.

The time I got the "Lets Just Be Friends" I was incredibly shy and boring with a girl which was attracted to me. I was shy and boring because I didn't want to do something wrong. Because I had put her on a pedastool.

I haven't done that again in almost 3 years.

Very, Very good points