The L-word.

[B-Lemond]

Love.

What do you think? Do you guys believe in love, or do you believe that love is just an emotion experienced when a person portrays qualities of a DJ and the other of an AFC. Thus, one person would feel in love. What do you guys think?


What do you guys think about sayin "I love you" to your LTR.

 

[floydtheater07]

I definitely think it is something real. It loses credibility because people throw the word around so often, but I have seen people in true love.

 

[TonyTheTigerOI]

Love is real. But you cant understand or even identify it untill you are older and more experienced. My paramiters for saying "I love you" are as follows:

-Minimum age of 18 (both parties)
-Have to have slept together enough times for sexual comfort zone to be reached (both parties)
-Minimum 1 season (~3 months) of dating
-Minimum 1 real fight/disagreement resolved
-You have to have slept together. Not sex, but actually fallen asleep together

These are all things Ive done with girls that I felt were truely important in understanding and connecting with them. Unfortunitely, Ive never done them all with the same girl (specifically the second and third points), so Ive never said the three words. And Im proud to admit ive never squandered the L word. Believe me, if you do, you will regret it.

 

[Porky]

Originally posted by TonyTheTigerOI
-Have to have slept together enough times for sexual comfort zone to be reached (both parties)

You don't have to have sex for that comfort zone to be reached.

 

[Tboner]

"Love.

What do you think? Do you guys believe in love, or do you believe that love is just an emotion experienced when a person portrays qualities of a DJ and the other of an AFC. Thus, one person would feel in love. What do you guys think?


What do you guys think about sayin "I love you" to your LTR."
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love >noun
1 an intense feeling of deep affection.
2 a deep romantic or sexual attachment to someone.
3 a great interest and pleasure in something.
4 a person or thing that one loves.
5 (in tennis, squash, etc.) a score of zero. [apparently from the phrase play for love (i.e. the love of the game, not for money).
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I do believe in love and have found the perfect love in myself. This is not defined above.

My thoughts on the definitions above:

1. Yes, I've experienced this and continue to do so with several women, but there is no attachment on my part. Thanks to learning the game and finding that I don't need any one woman.

2. Attachment leads to suffering. I no longer allow myself to be attached to anyone or anything. I take full responsibility for my happiness. Learned this from Buddhism and it's changed my life greatly.

3. through 5. probably don't apply to this discussion.

Nothing wrong with saying "I love you" to a woman, just make sure you pull her into your frame when you say it. Since men don't need to express feelings, I highly recommend that you let the woman say it first.

 

[B-Lemond]

I would recommend saying those three little words scarcely so it would be more powerful. Just like compliments. If you say them all the time, they lose their power, but if you say them rarely and unpredictably then they have a high value. So I would say to just look at "I Love You" as like a compliment. Use it rarely. Also I would recommend to have her say it more than you do. Just like Tboner says to have her say it first. When she does say that she loves you, I wouldn't respond with "I love you too". It's too ordinary. It's not different. I think that it's almost AFC ish. Plus she wouldn't know if you like her or not. Instead I would make a C&F comment. (ex. Your not the only one.)