Why "Whatever You Want" Keeps You Single

She says the movie looks dumb; you suddenly agree. She tests you with a little attitude; you apologize for nothing.

You think you're being easy to get along with. She reads something else entirely: a man with no edges. Nothing to hold on to. No friction, no tension, no reason to wonder what he really thinks.

The "22 Rules" taught me to push back — playfully, calmly, without needing her approval. Strange things happened after that.

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The "L" Word

SmooveMooves

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Yoo,

Curious to know how you guys feel about Leopards.

Nah, I'm joking, I'm talking about Loooveeeeee

What is your philosophy on it?

Is it bullsh1t?

A Disney fairlytale?

Is it possible to obtain?

Exists full on

Or is mere propaganda

Here's my take:

It is scientifically proven that "love" exists, so its not a complete Load of crap. Not going to get into detail, but the emotion is necessary for biological reasons, so we can't completely dismiss it. I believe the problem is that we men, due to media indoctrination, interpret love as being unconditional, which is impossible because love Is entirely conditional.

If you hadn't met certain conditions you wouldn't feel love in the first place and vice versa. If these conditions are to change than love & the relationship, disappear along with it. In order to keep love certain conditions have to be kept and maintained to maintain love.

So is it worth it?

I was taught that love is a balance between attraction and rapport, although I don't know how true this is.

My final thoughts on the matter are summed up in this quote:

"Nothing lasts forever and is constant, so enjoy it while lasts and prepare for change"

&

"Experience things while you can never say 'there's no point'. You know your going to die, but does that mean you should just kill yourself now?"

I'm young, so I was thinking about this love concept for when I'm ready to have kids. "Did I want to love her?" I asked.

I came to the conclusion that this thought is futile and I just want to have my offspring with the most attractive mate with the best mothering qualities.

Maybe my views will change, what are yours?
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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TheException

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Love certainly exists and if you spend enough time with a high quality loving woman....you will experience it.

You are absolutely right about men having a distorted view about love. "Unconditional love" is the biggest brainwashing modern men face today. Although you may currently find yourself "in love" with a woman....be aware that if she messes up enough.....you will not and should not love her anymore.
 

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My thoughts about Leopards is that i don't mind my girl wearing leopard inspired bikini that covers her "feline" flesh. :p

Love, is one of the most misinterpreted word, especially in oneitis.
 

zekko

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Love (the romantic kind - eros) definitely does exist, it just doesn't necessarily last forever. In fact, usually it doesn't, it's got a shelf life, like a flower or a loaf of bread.

As for whether or not it's worth it, I guess that's up to the individual and the situation. Unrequited love certainly isn't, IMO.
 
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