The L Word (What do I do)

[G_Nice_06]

I am in love with this girl, but I don't want to tell her that because I think she may feel as though she has some type of power over me because I tell her i love her first. we'veonly been goingout for about a week but have known each other for about a year. so I knowher feelings toward me and i'm sure she knows mine toward her. I'm not sure if I should just tell her or If i should just wait till she tells me. Do u guys think itwill make ne difference or am I Thinking about it to much for no reason?

!!?What to Do?!!

 

[Anomalous]

DEFINATLY DONT TELL HER. This will scare her away. YOUR NOT IN LOVE, YOU JUST THINK YOU ARE (its a crush).

 

[Jerky Boi]

Honestly, this could harm you in every way possible. Even though you feel the urge to say it to her, I wouldn't just yet. Wait it out and see if she shares the same feelings as you do. Luckily for me that feeling happened at the same time for me and my girlfriend.

 

[tpntch]

If she feels the same way then say it.....



The first time I said it to her was at the movies on friday, I kissed her hand, and we made out for the first time about 10 minutes, it was very passionate




Say it only if she feels the same way and if you really mean it,

 

[SemperFi719]

NO NO NO!
lol, you say you've known her for a year but have only been dating for a week... you will scare her away more likely than not. The relationship is still VERY green around the edges. You need to hold back for two reasons:
1)Maybe this girl feels the same... and maybe she doesn't. Maybe she is right now testing the waters so to speak and seeing how the relationship goes. If she doesn't feel the same way and you tell her she will get scared because saying those words takes the relationship into a whole 'nother level. It escapes the "I like you and am going out with you" stage and jumps into "You are the person who I would do anything for and could see myself growing old" with. Basically, you would put the relationship into full speed ahead.
2)What if you aren't in love? Not saying that you probably aren't (which you arent most likely because you are going to learn a lot about this girl when you go out with her that will determine if you actually will love her or not). Lets say you tell her you love her and she feels the same way. Some time down the road you realize it wasnt love and you find yourself in an ugly situation. Point is, it doesn't hurt to hold of some time before saying those words.

One thing I remember hearing as this is concerned is that you should wait until you can no longer bear to hold the words in. My girlfriend and I only had three months together but she had told me she loved me some time before. When I told her, her eyes just had this look like I had just made her the most happy person in the world. All because I waited and when I told her it was genuine. Keep this in mind, and take it as a grain of salt. Only you know your situation and only you know what you are going to do.

 

[Marf]

man...

remember that "LOVE" is still only a feeling. Feelings can be controlled, and SHOULD be controlled. If you really want her that bad, don't go out and flash it around. You should still flirt with everyone (well ok...not everyone) like a true don juan
This will raise her IL, unless there is something wrong with her

 

[G_Nice_06]

Gettin Bizzy

I thank you all for that great insite, I also want to know what u guys think will help me speed up the process of gettin sexual wit this girl.

 

[coolguy676767]

Hmmm....Slapping your **** in your face when she is asleep, lol ok but seriously, if you really truely do love her, which I am guessing its just you really like her so far, then when you do love her, it really wont matter as much about the sex. I mean this sounds bad comeing from a DJ, but I have a friend who wanted that from his girlfriend, but she wants to wait until marriage, and he love her enough now, he just deals with it. Other than that, read the bible.

 

[LikRetsam]

You are not in love. Stfu.