"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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The Key To Inner Happiness

playa99

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Guys, i'm going to give you what is called THE UGLY TRUTH.

In my mind the key to inner happiness is acceptance for who you are and what you stand for, once you have come to terms with this, the golden gates of true happiness await.

This means that, if you love nothing better than to smoke weed and chill all day everyday, find a woman who accepts you for this and is happy to be with you.

If you are in a job which entails gruelling hours and a lot of travel, yet you wouldn't swap it for the world, find and surround yourself with people who ACCEPT this.

Obviously there are certain ground rules when it comes to building these relationships with people, women do not fall in love with a personality at first sight, they judge us by what we look like, just like we see boobs and ass. this means that you must improve the way you appear.

Every person is unique, so its natural to assume that we all have different tastes. So instead of saying the stuff what people like, i'm going to list what the general public do not like.

- BO.
- Bad breath.
- Being hugely skinny/overweight.
- wearing scruffy clothes.
- excess facial hair.
- dirty fingernails, dirty clothes, generally lacking personal hygiene.

generally if you look after yourself, dress fresh and stay clean, you shouldn't have too many problems getting women as long as you accept who you are and BASE YOUR APPROACH ON THIS.

Now onto approaching people.. if you are a quiet guy and HAPPY being a quiet guy, you must use this to your advantage, scope out the hottie you want, go to the bar at a similar time as her, when she gets a drink, ask her what it is she's drinking and ask her questions from their, introduce yourself, create mystery through being quiet and finding out about her.. if you REALLY like her you will summon the courage to ask her out on a date, because she would NOT have the time of day to even talk to you if she wasn't interested in the slightest so what have you got to lose?

You then know she probably likes you for who you are.. not who you're pretending to be.

If your quiet and are UNHAPPY being quiet, push your comfort zone EVERY DAY, get out their and try something new, build confidence rapidly, then get out their, approach until you find someone who loves you for who you are. THERE IS NO DIFFERENCE BETWEEN YOU AND THE NEXT GUY, IT IS ALL PSYCHOLOGICAL.

If your into sleeping with a load of women, get out their and do it, accept that you love it and look for the easy girl, their not hard to find, they generally have the most on show most the time and their the easiest to get, then you will be happy.

Eventually with this method, you will find someone right for you, i'm not saying your gonna find them straight away, a great thing rarely happens overnight, hang on in their and eventually you will be find inner happiness.


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"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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SoSuaveDude

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Well done man, I couldn't agree more that most of the community's issues are spawned off our negative personal perspective of our own self. Also, many members are considerably intelligent, and tend to use logic to try solving the constant internal issues within. If we stayed out our head more often, let things flow more naturally, and increase are sense of self, then everything would effortlessly fall into place. If you're genuinely happy with yourself, that confidence and positive energy will be sensed by everyone you encounter.
 

playa99

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Thanks man, what a lot of people miss about this post is that it doesn't appear to be some 'MAGIC PILL' which will get you laid.

when infact, this is the magic pill which will get you laid, like you say, when your happy, you give out positive energy, this will lead to you becoming a Don Juan naturally cause it's based on your best attributes.

I cant tell anyone what makes them happy by way of a generalised post, but what I can give is the groundrules for happiness.
 

Radharc

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Great post, though I think a lot guys here wont get it, its all about relaxing and staying out of your mind, you start snowballing into a positive state, your "true self" shows more, you atract the ppl who like that. Sometimes the simplest things are the hardest ones and you you have to go trough a ton of sh1t before you can realize that - not by way of thinking but by just by doing it.
 
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