The Key To Healthy Relationships: Orgasms

[JoeMarron]

I have a theory floating around in my head and I'm wondering if you guys have experiences to back it up. Here are a few facts:

Orgasms make women happier, saner, and generally a more healthy individual. This should be obvious to everyone

Women who have trouble having orgasms are either with an incompetent lover or they have certain psychological hangups which make them a poor choice for a relationship.

The more attracted a women is to a man the easier it'll be for him to give her orgasms. This is essentially the ultimate interest test.

Looking back at past relationships, would you say that the best ones were when your girl had regular orgasms? Did the relationship deteriorate when this stopped being the case? Were the less satisfying relationships ones in which your girl rarely if ever had regular orgasms? Note that I'm not suggesting that men should break their necks to make sure their girl is having screaming, body shaking orgasms on a regular basis. I'm merely curious if there's a correlation between orgasms and successful relationships.

 

[Renegade357]

Heh, there's no real correlation in my opinion. I mean having good bed chemistry does help but it's not everything by any means.

I've had chicks that have had an orgasm every time we had seks. Then others which were kind of prude and rarely had them. Maybe 1 out of 5 times and usually when they were drunk. Clearly all those relationships are now over and I doubt it was because I wasn't throwing a good bone.

I think the reality is if you keep the girl happy she'll put out and be more into having secks with you. It's the stuff you do outside the bedroom that gets them in the bedroom if you know what I mean.

 

[CrimsonPanther]

having a lot of close female friends i've had my share of complaints about the 3 minute guys. 3 (or even 10) minutes is not enough for a woman to get an orgasm.
most i have been with, the first O came after 30 min-1hr. in the next hr there usually are 4-5 more orgasms. after that the girl becomes too sensitive in the vag, but as she is satisfied, she is more than glad to finish you with her other body parts.
the reason girls usually want to keep the guys who give them the screams is that it is rare. the average joe cannot give that to a girl.
and if you manage the squirting ones, you are set. i doubt it's so much better for the girl when she squirts them juices, but i think it has more to do with the visual factor, it's more of a show, and they kinda have the "proof".
to reach that, stimulate the belly side of the vag more (while paying attention to her reactions), and you'll get there. with this technique i managed to create squirts to girls who said they aren't that type.

 

[JoeMarron]

having a lot of close female friends i've had my share of complaints about the 3 minute guys. 3 (or even 10) minutes is not enough for a woman to get an orgasm.

Hah bullchit. Maybe if the chick is new but these days I can get mine there far faster than 10 mins. Havent quite mastered the squirting thing yet. I've heard mixed opinions on whether every woman can squirt buckets or not. It sounds like that would get pretty annoying after awhile anyways. Anyways I imagine that you had few problems in the relationships with those women that you did that to, less b!tching, nagging, moodiness, and drama in general.

I've had chicks that have had an orgasm every time we had seks. Then others which were kind of prude and rarely had them. Maybe 1 out of 5 times and usually when they were drunk. Clearly all those relationships are now over and I doubt it was because I wasn't throwing a good bone.

So those relationships with the ones that had orgasms were just a drama filled as the ones without? I'm not saying that orgasms make a relationship fail proof just that they tame a woman's emotions.

 

[apprenticedj]

I think it works the same with guys too. We (men and women) both need orgasms to keep us balanced out. I know I turned into a raged out angry f*cker if I haven't busted a nut in a long time and women are no different.

But to say that orgasms are the primary source of happiness in a LTR would be a little extreme. It's more about a totality of things, sex, respect, communication etc. Relationships are a complex thing with many influencing factors. I suck at many aspects of relationship but I can make a chick seize up just fine. That's why I'm sticking to casual sex for the time being

 

[5string]

Take it a step further. Find a woman who squirts and soaks the sheets. Then you'll have your hands full.

 

[thatfeel]

Relationships work out better for me because I'm more willing to perform oral on a partner i'm committed to, and I can always make a girl come through oral, not always through penetration. My c0ck is average size but I dunno what it is, it's overly sensitive(circumsized) and fvcking just feels too good, I can't always keep up the hard pounds and constant jack hammering without feeling like I'm always right on the edge.

 

[JoshSway]

It's nice but it is hardly a requirement for a good relationship. Good sex is important to women but it is secondary to many other relationship factors.

 

[CrimsonPanther]

Hah bullchit. Maybe if the chick is new but these days I can get mine there far faster than 10 mins. Havent quite mastered the squirting thing yet. I've heard mixed opinions on whether every woman can squirt buckets or not. It sounds like that would get pretty annoying after awhile anyways. Anyways I imagine that you had few problems in the relationships with those women that you did that to, less b!tching, nagging, moodiness, and drama in general.



So those relationships with the ones that had orgasms were just a drama filled as the ones without? I'm not saying that orgasms make a relationship fail proof just that they tame a woman's emotions.

you may be right. there are SOME girls who orgasm under 10 minutes. but it is no fun for me since i myself cannot orgasm under 10 minutes

squirting is a 2 way thing. it is fun and it feels good when you see the women act like a fountain and squirm from ecstasy. BUT it is very messy. i have found a solution though. i use those under-sheets made for old people who are pising in their beds ) so my mattresses are fine and clean now. OR i do it at their place.

and i also don't really like giving oral. i do it, but i don't like it.
so i guess to each his own difference is cool.

 

[Darth_Qurashi]

It definitely helped my last relationship once I got better. I don't think it is necessarily the key to a healthy relationship, but it is very important.

 

[Epimanes]

Good conversation is key to a LTR. If your woman is bored of the convo (difference in IQ maybe?) Things will get boring fast for the person with the higher IQ. I have read of couples who were having great sex but still broke up because they had nothing else in common and the sex got boring. Orgasms don't = stability in LTR.

Lots of time together, good conversation and good recreational companionship will go a lot farther for creating compatability and sustainability in an ltr.

Epi