"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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The Joys of a Social Circle.

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Haven't posted more than a reply or two here in awhile, but something happened today that left me nodding my head.

I went to go pick up my T-4 for my income tax from my old job, and when i got there one of my old co-workers told me that a new girl "Lily" had asked him about me. I go "WTF?" as i knew no lily from back then. Once i pick up my T-4, i get my friend to show me to her since i'm curious as to who "Lily" is.

She's not that bad once i meet her, HB7.5, nice personality, here's how the convo went to start.

Me: Hey, I hear you've asked about me.
her: Pardon?
Me: I'm Sam, buddy over there was telling me you were asking about me.
Her: OH yeah! OMG you're Sam? Nice to meet you!"

At this point i'm going WTF?

Me: Nice to meet you too, i'm hoping this is the first time we're actually meeting or i've got to stop partying as much.
Her: Hahaha, no, we haven't met. Buddy#2 told me about you and you sounded cool.

At this point, i half interrogated her about what my buddy had told her, and as it turns out, he was just laughing about some of the **** we've done together while partying and some legendary stories about me at work (i've posted one or two on these forums)

so here i am right now, with a coffee date set up for tommorow with a chick who met me through a friend whom i probably never would have met had i not a good social circle and life. This is not teh first time this has happened.

Take from this what you will!
 

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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social circles may be nice to have but real men don't need them to pick up any women.
 
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real men?! wtf man, real men know how to appreciate a good thing.
 
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ZhaoYun said:
social circles may be nice to have but real men don't need them to pick up any women.
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You my good sir, are a complete asshat.

Real men don't need social circles to pick up girls? Real men don't need arms or legs either. A Real Man could pick up a woman if they were a diseased midget with no arms or legs, convulsing every 5 seconds and shouting racial slurs from a mental condition.

Don't give us your bull**** on a "Real Man".
 
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Do you guys just get women through sc's only? You seem to have taken it hard. My bad if I hit a nerve, should have said it differently.

But yeah it's cool to be chilling with some friends then a group of women one of your buddies happens to know come through and introduces you. That's common. I find it much better and more of a challenge to game outside of those social circles tho. Plus there's always the notion that one of your crew may like the same chick you do then we know what happens in those situations.

The social circle approaches are gimme's and any chump can meet a slvt through them. Nothing particularly wrong with that, I just prefer cold approaches for some reason. Displays more confidence, game not to mention it's a lot more fun. Whether getting rejected or not.
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Wouldn't a man need a very large and diverse social circle to meet all kinds of women? If you hang out with white skater boys, then wouldn't your potential dates mostly be white girls attracted to skater boys?

Let's say you want to go latin, then you must develop a latin social circle which may or may not be hard.

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thewarrior said:
Wouldn't a man need a very large and diverse social circle to meet all kinds of women? If you hang out with white skater boys, then wouldn't your potential dates mostly be white girls attracted to skater boys?

Let's say you want to go latin, then you must develop a latin social circle which may or may not be hard.

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This is true, but i guess i forgot to mention in the OP as i was in a hurry while writing it that a balance between SC and Cold approaching is what i find to be the most effective.

Unless you're hanging out with people dissimilar to you, you're more likely to find people with similar interests. Yes it's easier, yes more guys can do it. But WTF!? since when is that a PROBLEM?

In my mind, Cold Approaching is for guys who haven't had the chance to develope a wide social circle where they meet new women, and for when you see that hot hot chick at the coffee shop and you would regret it if you didn't approach.

going only Cold Approach can be hard as ****, and going only Social Circle limits the amount of women you can meet Each has their pros and cons.
 
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