They say the first step of solving a problem is admitting you have one. Well my fellow brothers, I have several ones. To start I'm a bigger dude (6'1-6'2 285lbs) I have terrible posture. I discover this site and it help me with my confidence and talking to the ladies. I've had a few pickups, a few girlfriends, one ONS. I just started to realize that my posture and my weight are the reason why I`m not happy. I want a meaningful relationship but I wanna start with being able to spin plates first. I tried last summer and although I did manage to have a few hangout/dates, nothing serious happen.
So I will have the journal so I can post my failures and my success. I have a few goals in mind.
- Get in shape in 3 months (I started today by doing some pushups, sit-ups and have a 20 minutes slow run with incline on my treadmill) I have my confidence that can be very low or very high sometimes. Being in shape will totally help my confidence. I'm wondering if I need to take a gym membership or should I just train at my apartment ?
- Eventually approach more ladies (I wanna be spinning plates, eventually have a girlfriend, which bring me to another point)
-Get rid of my-oneitis: She a pretty girl that I was madly in love with a few years ago, she had a bf that lived in another continent. So I stopped talking to her, then I started again. She managed to pull me back by saying that before she was going out with the guy, she had a crush on me... She doesnt even live in the same city as me right now and I'm sure that I'm way too concerned with her well-being. I still like her but I feel that I'm stuck on her because I don't have plates. Good girl but her behavior is hot and cold and sometimes I just don`t hear from her only for her to apologize because she had problems with her mom or whatnot (seems legit, but I feel that im chasing too much). I feel that I've I go visit her more often, maybe I can have a definite idea if being somehow related romantically is doable.
- Get rid of my porn addiction: I only do it once or twice before going to sleep but it's a buffer. It didn't go any better with my big a$$ phone, Samsung galaxy note 2, big screen. It probably kills my desires to go out there and approach chicks ( I sometimes feel that I can approach any girl but because I haven`t dated or have sex regularly with a chick, I sometimes feel worthless) Masturbation feels good, but I feel guilty as fu*ck after because I`m waiting two people having sex instead of finding myself a girl to fu*ck.
- Join the army as a reserve: Always liked the disclipine and the hard work. I feel that I'm not in shape to even being applying. Would even love the training but I dont wanna go fight overseas.
-Get back to university: Finishing my one year left in criminology.
-Going less to clubs: I would usually go once or twice per week. I didn't go last weekend, clubbing sucks in my area but I would go anyway hoping for the best I guess haha:cheer: It feel good to talk to my dad instead of just passing out in my bed.
So these are my goals. If you have any questions or suggestions, feel free to post. I need help so I can stay motivated
Thanks for reading.
So I will have the journal so I can post my failures and my success. I have a few goals in mind.
- Get in shape in 3 months (I started today by doing some pushups, sit-ups and have a 20 minutes slow run with incline on my treadmill) I have my confidence that can be very low or very high sometimes. Being in shape will totally help my confidence. I'm wondering if I need to take a gym membership or should I just train at my apartment ?
- Eventually approach more ladies (I wanna be spinning plates, eventually have a girlfriend, which bring me to another point)
-Get rid of my-oneitis: She a pretty girl that I was madly in love with a few years ago, she had a bf that lived in another continent. So I stopped talking to her, then I started again. She managed to pull me back by saying that before she was going out with the guy, she had a crush on me... She doesnt even live in the same city as me right now and I'm sure that I'm way too concerned with her well-being. I still like her but I feel that I'm stuck on her because I don't have plates. Good girl but her behavior is hot and cold and sometimes I just don`t hear from her only for her to apologize because she had problems with her mom or whatnot (seems legit, but I feel that im chasing too much). I feel that I've I go visit her more often, maybe I can have a definite idea if being somehow related romantically is doable.
- Get rid of my porn addiction: I only do it once or twice before going to sleep but it's a buffer. It didn't go any better with my big a$$ phone, Samsung galaxy note 2, big screen. It probably kills my desires to go out there and approach chicks ( I sometimes feel that I can approach any girl but because I haven`t dated or have sex regularly with a chick, I sometimes feel worthless) Masturbation feels good, but I feel guilty as fu*ck after because I`m waiting two people having sex instead of finding myself a girl to fu*ck.
- Join the army as a reserve: Always liked the disclipine and the hard work. I feel that I'm not in shape to even being applying. Would even love the training but I dont wanna go fight overseas.
-Get back to university: Finishing my one year left in criminology.
-Going less to clubs: I would usually go once or twice per week. I didn't go last weekend, clubbing sucks in my area but I would go anyway hoping for the best I guess haha:cheer: It feel good to talk to my dad instead of just passing out in my bed.
So these are my goals. If you have any questions or suggestions, feel free to post. I need help so I can stay motivated
Thanks for reading.