The Journal of Mr. Pink pt. III: If you fall down 7 times, you get up 8

[Mr_Pink]

Yeah, I'm back. Hooray. Anyways, since I last updated you on the continuing saga of Mr. Pink, I had something happen to me that I really was not ready for at all. If you've followed any of my journal entries in the past, you know that I've been trying to get over a really, really bad oneitis. Well, the problem is that I like hanging out with this girl as a friend, as do the rest of my friends, so I see her like ever weekday, and weekend. Makes it kind of hard to get over her when you're constantly faced with rejections from other girls and she is always there.

Anyways, despite the logical, DJ-side of me screaming to move past her, I've been stuck. I've got a real bad emotional bond to her, but I've been able to supress it until now. She's started dating a former friend of mine who is a total douchebag. And for some reason, when she told me, I couldn't take it. I hardcore reverted to AFCdom and just got real, real upset and hurt. Not to mention I want to kill this prick on top of things.

However, I recovered. A few days later, we stayed after school where we could be alone and could talk. While talking, I basically dumped all the AFC crap that I've been carrying with me and just put it all in front of her. And you know what, it felt good getting that crap off my chest. It's like now that I have all those feelings and crap for her gone I can now *finally* move on. And move on I shall...

Though I have recently been in a bit of a drought, things are looking up. I have a blind-date next weekend with a lady-friend's friend (not sure who it is yet, but most of her friends are at least 7's and pretty cool), and things have been getting kinda intresting with me and this one Austrailian girl. She's sorta seeing someone, but I'm noticing a lot of flirtation on her part directed towards me, and she's been wanting to hang out together too.

And as for me and my ex-oneitis?? Well, like I said, she is a real good friend, and when I'm not stuck on her, real good for social proof. Plus, I can't just not see her because of school and clubs we're in, plus we have the same group of friends, so we're going to stay just as friends. And I can do that I think. Knowing she's dating this scumbag makes me realize how she is not as perfect as I thought, and once I dumped all my old, bottled up AFC feelings towards her, she doesn't seem nearly as attractive. I know, it's odd.

So, that's where I am right now. I'll write back to let you know how this blind-date goes and how things work out with that other girl. And after this relapse, I ready to completely shed the former AFC shell of mine and begin anew as a DJ. Oh, and I know the quote I used in this topic name technically is incorrect, but, I'm not gonna correct Sun Tzu...

Anyways, for you followers of mine out there, I know the relapse was bad, however I think I recovered nicely. How would you have handled it?? Think there's anything I need to do to get things between the two of us back to a normal, LJBF level??

-Mr. Pink

 

[mateo_g]

Go out and bang some ladies. Seriously, just go get the AFC crap out of your system.

 

[Mr_Pink]

Wow, go out and bang some ladies. What great, deep advice!! [/sarcasm]

You think if I was at the stage where I could just go and bang any girl I wanted to, that I would be posting any of this??

-Mr. Pink

 

[Walden]

Dude maybe you should set yourself a goal.
If you just set out to DJ a bit then you don't give your sunbconsious much direction to drive you in.

 

[Mr_Pink]

Hmm... good point Walden. I am kind of aimless right now. Just moving towards some ambiguous position hasn't been giving me any direction to drive to. Hmm... well, I guess my goal is getting into a LTR. But with someone I want to. I guess I'm not up to the typical DJ "bang as many HBs as possible" mentality, so I'll shoot for a LTR...

-Mr. Pink

 

[legolas]

Sorry to gloat here, but since you're feeling aimless, you should at least know the things that are involved in setting specific goals. I wrote a post on that subject that I want you to read and tell me if it helps at all (hey I want to inflate my ego too )

Here's the link: http://www.sosuave.com/vBulletin/showthread.php?s=&threadid=42679

Okay, picking yourself up like that was great, however I don't like the idea of dumping everything on to the girl like that. It puts her under a lot of pressure, even though it relieves you, and sets off this weird vibe. It's best to dumpit on someone neutral to the situation who can see things with a cool head.

Second of all, the idea of "getting over" someone is kind of overrated. If you have had feelings for someone in the past, it only takes a few memories for the feelings to come back. So it's not like an on/off switch. Neither is it a battle. It's more of a wave. Sometimes you're overwhelmed with emotion, and then you sigh and become detached for sometime, until you think about her again. The longer you can extend the detached periods, the better it is.

 

[Mr_Pink]

Well, it seems like me dumping this crap on her did weird her out. We havn't talked at since then, except for two times when it was neccessary (I'm an officer in a club she's in, so I have to pass messages between other members).

But, I don't care. My friends are pissed at her too. She's definately changed alot. Not only is she seperating herself from me, but she's seperating herself from all of us guyfriends for some guy she just started dating last week but is "madly" in love with.

I think I'm beginning to see things clearly. Like the blinders are down. I should have never spent so much time and effort on this girl. It was all a waste, and I was making her out to be so much more than she is. So, even though it's still a bit of a sore topic, I'll manage.

You're goal post makes perfect sense Legolas. Right now I just want to be with someone who I feel good around. Like this girl back in the early months of this crap. Only, this time have it turn out good and actually get something out of it...

-Mr. Pink

 

[Pimp-sicle]

Mr.Pink

You know what separates a DJ from a AFC for life? Progression! DJ's learn from their mistakes and use them as stepping stones towards the ultimate success. Think of each situation and mistake you make as another piece of the puzzle, once you've put that puzzle together you'll become a DJ.

In my opinion field experience is the BEST teacher!! Don't get me wrong I've learned A LOT from the various boards and articles on the 'net, but it didn't all start to click and make sense to me until I went through all the trials that aspiring DJ's go through. Trust me its well worth the rocky trip because once you get to DJ'hood life is fukin' great!!

Imagine how good it feels to know that you can walk into a room full of HB's and make each and every one of them feel incredible. Or knowing which buttons to push and when so you could make them all think of you as Mr.Right! The confidence level you attain in this stage is so disgustingly high and you cannot be stopped.

My suggestion is to go out there and approach every girl that interests you. Try different openers, different # closes and develop your own style. And stop talking to that lame chick!!! I'd play that girl so hard if I ever met her just to give you some satisfication from the whole siutation



PIMP