"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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The Job Question (Need your advice)

Freddy1

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Shes asks the inevitable question: "What do you do for a living?" :nervous:
You just met her and you dont want her to reject you because of your job etc..

(To be honest with everyone; here's my situation I'm on disability because of an social anxiety disorder and beause of a serious illness that requires an operation. )

Any advice?
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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Freddy1 said:
You just met her and you dont want her to reject you because of your job etc..

Any advice?
Why should you want her to accept you for what you're not? Bare it in mind that it is her loss should she decide to not like you because you don't have the type of "job" that would most satisfy her. Any woman who would love you based on your job status is a complete wh0re. Don't let her take you for granted.

Next time you got asked what you do, tell her you're were voted the "best cook two years in a roll at Taco Bell, and still holds such title". It shows you're confident in what you do, plus she'll find it pretty funny--which is your aim.
 

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amoka said:
Why should you want her to accept you for what you're not? Bare it in mind that it is her loss should she decide to not like you because you don't have the type of "job" that would most satisfy her. Any woman who would love you based on your job status is a complete wh0re. Don't let her take you for granted.

Next time you got asked what you do, tell her you're were voted the "best cook two years in a roll at Taco Bell, and still holds such title". It shows you're confident in what you do, plus she'll find it pretty funny--which is your aim.
Thanks dude! Good advice! :)
 

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freddy, you've gotta remember to switch it up though, if she asks you and you say you are the best taco bell cook, then she asks again, say "pornogropher" or "cigarette lighter repairman" etc..Eventually you tell her, but not in the beginning
 

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hyymm I think I get you my Friend. I'll try that next time a girl asks me what I do for a living. I will jokingly tell her I work at Tacco Bel and then later tell her the truth.
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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A girl at a club recently asked me that and I looked at her and said...."do you want to know the truth?"...pause..."first of all I'm a mattress tester, then an alarm clock technician, then around 8am I'm a toothpaste tester, then a shower taker and then a hair dresser. After that I test freeways."....at this point she's laughing and asking..."come on what do you do?".......then turn it around I ask her, "wait, what do you do?"....or some other form of funny thing. Also when they're insisting you tell them...."hey, I don't spend 24/7 at work, let me tell you what I really do. "
 

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From what I've seen from experience, as long as you speak with conviction, you can make a woman believe anything. It depends on what you are looking for. If you are looking to get this woman into a bedroom, just tell her what you think she wants to hear. However, keep in mind that you will eventually have to tell the truth. From what I've seen from experience, it's better to just joke around and never let her really know what you do. Then, when you feel that you have the girl in a position of high interest, then you choose to tell the truth.

It does you no good to tell her what you do in the beginning. And this is why the subject of "honesty" is highly controversial. In most cases, "honesty" won't get you as far as a white lie.

What sounds better to a woman?

Telling her the truth.

Or telling her that you're driven, ambitious, persevering, hard working, intelligent, and you never quit.

You can SHOW her that you emanate these qualities without mentioning a job. It does you nothing to tell a woman your weaknesses.

Whenever you buy something, there's always a salesman there. He'll never tell you what's wrong with the product.

Imagine if a person wanted to sell you a cellphone, but he tells you that it's "disabled" and it's "not working" and has some "disorders".

Would you buy it?

No.

But if the same salesman made a lie, and didn't tell you the faults of the cellphone, you would buy it. Of course, you would complain about it, later. And possibly return it..

That's how women work.
You can tell her the truth and she won't give you a second thought.
You can hide the truth and only show her your "selling points" and you will get laid...but she will "return" you.

Might as well, get something out of the sales process.
 

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DJ Tips is for giving tips, not asking for them. Please read the description of the forum before you post in it, thanks.

Moved to DJD.
 
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