The issue of unwanted pregnancies with FBs

[viking22]

I am having casual sex with this girl. There is no prospect of a relationship as we are very different but we are hot for each other and sex and companionship is just what I need this winter as my motivation for the chase drops when the weather gets cold and the days get shorter.

The topic of unwanted pregnancy came up in conversation. I think were were discussing the high levels of teenage pregnancies in the UK. She was saying that although the girls were careless to get pregnant if she was in that situation she'd have kept the baby too. I said "Even if it was from a one night stand or someone you weren't in a relationship with?". She said "yes it would be difficult but I think it is the right thing to do".

Now Im paranoid because we are only using condoms and they are a lot less than 100% effective. She has no desire to go on the pill because she says it makes her feel weird.

Obviously there is always a risk when you have sex but I'd always assumed if the worst happened Id be able to convince a girl to have an abortion if necessary. But this girl I would not be able to talk around.

How do you guys deal with this? Ive been lucky so far but Ive got friends who have gotten girls pregnant by accident and Im starting to think even though I use condoms every time it could still happen to me.

 

[KontrollerX]

Leykis 101: A girl that makes some excuse for not using some kind of method of birth control wants to have a baby.

Leykis 101 way of dealing with such a girl: Next her unless you want to be a baby daddy and only remain with girls in the future and continue to bone them if they answer your "What would you do if you got pregnant question" with the answer that they'd immediately get an abortion should they get pregnant.

 

[Bluesteak]

Yea im sure Leykis is 99.9% right

 

[#41]

If it's an issue, next her.

I don't how good sex is, it's not worth having a kid with some kid you're using as an FB.

 

[Maxtro]

While condoms are like 99% effective there are a bunch of methods.

http://www.plannedparenthood.org/health-topics/birth-control-4211.htm

 

[dbot]

Absolutely not true. Sorry, but if you ditch a girl solely because she doesn't want to go on the pill, then you're a dipsh*t. Period. There are many many reasons for a girl to opt out of birth control that have nothing to do with her wanting a baby.

Bottom line: If you're using a condom, and you make sure to pull out before you come, you will not get her pregnant. I promise.

Usually what happens is guys run out of condoms, and have sex anyway OR they're drunk and don't feel the condom break and come inside her (which results in the lack of 100% effectiveness). Just don't come inside of her.

Now, if she refuses to f*ck you with a condom, that's a different story, and she probably wants a baby.

 

[everywomanshero]

OP:
Dude I think you're getting paranoid over nothing.Just keep banging her and stop worrying about something that's never even happened yet. She won't know what she's going to do in that situation until it happens anyway and it will probably never come up... bag it and be done with it. If something crazy happens, well you can't control everything in life and trying to results in a very boring existance.

 

[cky]

Why on earth would you pull it out before coming while wearing a condom..?
That's like running a god damn marathon, winning, and then stopping just 1 foot away from the finish line and coming in third. Sure it felt nice getting there but you still kill the best part.

My opinion is that just keep doing her but always bag it.

 

[viking22]

Yeah I do not think her lack of desire to use the pill is an indication she wants a baby. I guess she prefers to take the risk of unwanted pregnancies rather than the risk of taking something which messes up your hormones.

If she was a long term girlfriend it would not be an issue because worst case scenario Id be ok with that girl having my child and staying in touch with her so as to fulfill my paternal obligations. But a FB I have nothing in common with and do not care about? Not what I want in life.

Pulling out with a condom does sound pretty fool-proof but to be honest the only good part of sex with a condom is when you ***.

I'm pretty risk averse if it isn't already obvious. So yeah Im probably better off finding a girl who would have an abortion no question or be willing to use the pill.