"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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The Irony of the real DJ

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The relationships we create, are the relationships we need at that point in our lives. Relationships are the petri dish of human experience, and by trying to create a relationship with someone we learn more about who we are. The pain of a relationship ending can be either a destructive pain, or a growing pain. Either way, you learn from it.

Women aren't the only teachers. We teach each other. Whatever 'scumbag' ditched you and brought you here, was exactly the scumbag you needed at that time.
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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The relationships we create, are the relationships we need at that point in our lives. Relationships are the petri dish of human experience, and by trying to create a relationship with someone we learn more about who we are. The pain of a relationship ending can be either a destructive pain, or a growing pain. Either way, you learn from it.
Yep.
 

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Bump, to go along with my 'DJ to being a natural" thread
 

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WestCoaster said:
Leykis, great post. Being a DJ is a freeing sensation, well at least it was for me. I started reading the articles, read some of the DJ Bible and so forth and it really transformed me as a person.

My shift came when a rejection or an acceptance by a woman did not alter my emotions as great as before. Sure, I'm human and rejection still doesn't sit well with me, and acceptance gets me pumped up. But after reading this site I learned not to be on such a rollercoaster.

I learned mainly to work on myself. To work out, do better at my career, walk down the street with my head held high saying hi to people and not worried if they looked or said hi back.

It's not just a website, it's a way of life!

You took words right out of my mouth. This is indeed a way of life. As pook said "I came to discover love, I found life instead." For the first time in my life, it feels like girls don't matter. And it feels AWESOME. And to be honest I don't read most of the tips and techniques. I read "Be a Man", that would be the single greatest thing I might have read(and I read a helluva a lot of books). What I found out if I am just a man, all the natural confidence and the C&F all come naturally after a while. This website is more like a self-improvement site than a chick-picking one.

But it sometimes bothers me that my friends are still AFCs and friggin "feminists". I wish they could also become DJs. Oh well, I hope time teaches their lesson soon.

PS: I must say thanks to the girl who sent me here in the first place.
 
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