The irony of being yourself

[Paul Owen]

I have ****ed up countless times by not being a challenge, by agreeing with everything women say, by always buying gifts, by supplicating, by calling too much, be being too tactile.

Now I am in an LTR (or that's what my girlfriend thinks) and you know what?

I am the ultimate challenge (meaning it would take a miracle for her to get me to commit to her and she has a hard time even getting me to pay attention to her).
I hardly ever let a comment of hers go by that I don't agree with without explaining why I think she is wrong, i.e I am opionated.
I never buy her ****.
I never supplicate or call her. And whenever she tries to hold my hand I inevitably pull it away.

So I am a bit of a ****, yes. But also pretty DJ. And THIS is the real me.

The irony is that when people say 'Just Be Yourself', everyone on this board will tell you that being yourself is the worst thing you can do, but in reality 'Being Yourself' WILL get you the woman (my presumption here is that guys are naturally DJ AFTER they know they have got the woman). That whole AFC stuff is NOT what we are. Its just the way we act when we get that first aroma of ***** and don't know if we are going to get to insert or not. I am sure this has been said before but I just wanted to confirm that its completely true.

So, JUST BE YOURSELF!

 

[seloifter]

better yet, change "yourself" to something you'd be proud to BE!!

 

[DjDreamer]

No, don't seek to change yourself into a woman.

Respect yourself and allow yourself to grow...

 

[ultrashogun]

Yeah thats dead right, were men, we wanna ****, fight and eat. ****in civilization has made us to something that tries to cooperate with women. We need to find out who we are then we can "be ourselves" again.

 

[iqqi]

Originally posted by Paul Owen
I am the ultimate challenge (meaning it would take a miracle for her to get me to commit to her and she has a hard time even getting me to pay attention to her).
I hardly ever let a comment of hers go by that I don't agree with without explaining why I think she is wrong, i.e I am opionated.
I never buy her ****.
I never supplicate or call her. And whenever she tries to hold my hand I inevitably pull it away.

So I am a bit of a ****, yes. But also pretty DJ. And THIS is the real me.

I'm sorry, but this does not sound "dj" to me. Sounds like you are just being an ass, with no interest level and the only reason she is sticking around is because she is weak and has no self confidence. If that is the only kind of woman you are able to handle, than more power to ya. Maybe there is more to the situation, but you just sound bitter, hurt and shook to me.
Don't just be a taker. Unless you really don't give a ****.

 

[iqqi]

Originally posted by Paul Owen


I hardly ever let a comment of hers go by that I don't agree with without explaining why I think she is wrong, i.e I am opionated.

you're being OPINIONATED????

what if you actually do agree with her opinion? Is it more of a rule that you must disagree? Do you have an opinion? Maybe there is more to the story....

 

[Paul Owen]

Read the sentence properly Iqqi, then read what you wrote and say:

'Iqqi. I am one dumb bastard', five times.

As for my GF having low self confidence, er think again. And if you think I can only handle 'weak women' I put it to you that all women are capable of weakness and that there is always a power struggle in a relationship. Ergo her 'weakness' is a mere reflection of my strength. Women put up with a HELL of a lot once they are in an LTR regardless of self confidence. I'm not saying its right, but its true.

I concede that you may have a point about the relationship not being ideal though. I guess I am bored but at this stage I think I would get bored with an LTR with any woman. In which case the right thing to do is end it and go and date many women. Ok, ok, I'm getting round to it.

And if I am bitter then I think a lot of guys on here carry remnants of bitterness around with them. Me no more than most. As for your 'don't be a taker ****', well what would you prefer? Should I give her my heart, my soul, my love, my feelings, gifts, what? So what if this isn't a perfectly balanced healthy relationship- what relationship is? You be an AFC half man, I'll look out for myself and do what the **** I want for as long as I want to.

 

[iqqi]

fine, fine, fine. be cool.

if you don't give a ****, who gives a **** if you are only a taker?

i'm sure in time you'll overcome your bitterness and you'll also be a wiser man because of it. that is when i hope you will not be so "scared?" to also give a little. you have to reward the woman here and there, right? that is not afc, btw. it is you being secure with yourself and your place.

give a LITTLE. i didn't say EVERYTHING. Always protect your heart.

 

[Paul Owen]

See my other post Iqqi.

I don't take the criticism personally. You are definitely right in a way. I'm really not that bitter though, or scared. Just have not met the 'right' person yet.

 

[Oxide]

better yet, change "yourself" to something you'd be proud to BE!!

THis IS EXACTLY WHAT YOU NEED TO DO.

I am changing into alpha male, so should you.