"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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The Importance of Social Awareness

onthepath

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How to Win Friends and Influence People

i'm gonna keep plugging this - it's terrific; the changes you'll notice in yourself will suddenyl have you thinking *holy sh!t, he was right* and you'll be setting yourself on an upward spiralling journey of success and happiness

so many of the DJ principles taught on this site are taught without a proper explanation behind it. such principles, labelled as "techniques" are enforced without proper understanding of if. "techniques" such as never complain about yourself, keep the conversation focused away from you and on her, the importance of eye contact, the never-ending conversatoin tips, they all flow from people who understand how to behave and act in a social situation, but who cannot properly explain their behaviors, out of context on this site

the book explains the hows and whys of all these "techniques" and has you realising how these "techniques" should be a part of your normal everyday behavior, but for some reason it has never been integrated into your personality- partly due no doubt to this anit-social society.

to the guys who find they cannot even get along with people, you know who you are - you always rationalise why you dont want to interact with that person, (they're below me, they didn't gel their hair, whatever) get the book, and ffs surround yourself with some socially aware people.

to the guys who are well on the way to Dj-hood (our catchy name for being socially aware) rid yourself of the d!ckheads who plague your life with their negativity, and anti-social attitutes
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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thefonz

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who's the author?
 

spider_007

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im listening to the audio series right now (im on the fourth mpg) and i think i'ts something, that needs to be put up next to the DJ BIBLE. (if we could only get the copy rights:cool: )

It is something every new dj needs to know, and something every guy who has "social" problems needs to read, or listen
 
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