We talk a lot about spinning plates, and I agree with the premise, but for me it's very difficult to juggle multiple women. I just don't have the time or the mental energy.
In another thread we were discussing this very subject. One of the guys (Francisco?) talked about how one of his plates that he stopped spinning awhile back came back around recently.
I started thinking about this and it's true....you CAN pack a plate away for future spinning, if you do it correctly.
This doesn't mean that the chick is gonna be at your beck and call for all of eternity, but it DOES mean that through your words and actions, you can retain a spark of interest indefinitely. Kind of like one of those guys on a survival show who builds a little tinder bundle with a single hot coal that he tucks into his jacket. Later on he can pull it out and expose it to oxygen, and BAM instant fire.
So although I don't currently have anything that i could really consider to be a "plate", I do have several women who I have been with over the past year or two who I have managed to pack away who still have a spark of interest. One of them is coming into town for a few days soon. I offered to let her stay at my place for a couple of days, and she's already talking about cooking for me and sh!t. Getting served breakfast in bed by a 21 yr old college chick. NICE.
The basic principal behind this is to ALWAYS, ALWAYS, ALWAYS, make sure you retain your value as a MAN in her eyes. If you can manage to do that, she will always be attracted to you.
Think about it, What is the #1 cause of a woman losing attraction for you? She might feel neglected and start seeing another guy who will give her the attention she craves when she feels that you aren't giving her what she "needs", but it's likely at this point she's still attracted to you, providing you hadn't done something to lower your value as a man.
She is still attracted to you, but the turning point comes when you catch on to a change in her behavior and begin to lower your value as a man by chasing her, yelling at her, or any of a number of things that cause her to see you as WEAK. She is now the prize, and whatever it was that caused her to display poor behavior is merely her excuse, the lowered value you showed is the REAL reason why she can seemingly flip a switch and go from hot or warm to ICE COLD in a very short time.
So awhile back I made a vow to myself. From now on, I will do everything in my power to retain my value as a man. And it works out great, because although you might not WANT to begin spinning an old plate again, you can still benefit from simply knowing that you COULD.
It just makes me sick to look back and see how many times I could have salvaged SO much of my pride, my ego, my POWER, just by retaining my value in the eyes of a woman. And it's not difficult to do! If the relationship was casual and she goes another direction (with another guy) you smile and wish her well. If it was a serious relationship and you catch her committing unforgivable offenses, you DON'T get in her face and let her have it, you turn around and walk the other direction without so much as ONE WORD. (I'm still waiting for my chance to apply this one!)
This is the kind of sh!t that has an exponentially positive effect on your entire life. When you have half a dozen or more women out there who you know have unresolved issues with you that keep a spark of interest, it's like making a deposit in the bank of YOU. When you throw it all away by turning into a wuss and fighting and arguing and trying to win an emotional battle with words, you are making a withdrawal from that account. You basically hand it to HER. It's like money....it doesn't disappear, it just changes hands.
Thoughts?
In another thread we were discussing this very subject. One of the guys (Francisco?) talked about how one of his plates that he stopped spinning awhile back came back around recently.
I started thinking about this and it's true....you CAN pack a plate away for future spinning, if you do it correctly.
This doesn't mean that the chick is gonna be at your beck and call for all of eternity, but it DOES mean that through your words and actions, you can retain a spark of interest indefinitely. Kind of like one of those guys on a survival show who builds a little tinder bundle with a single hot coal that he tucks into his jacket. Later on he can pull it out and expose it to oxygen, and BAM instant fire.
So although I don't currently have anything that i could really consider to be a "plate", I do have several women who I have been with over the past year or two who I have managed to pack away who still have a spark of interest. One of them is coming into town for a few days soon. I offered to let her stay at my place for a couple of days, and she's already talking about cooking for me and sh!t. Getting served breakfast in bed by a 21 yr old college chick. NICE.
The basic principal behind this is to ALWAYS, ALWAYS, ALWAYS, make sure you retain your value as a MAN in her eyes. If you can manage to do that, she will always be attracted to you.
Think about it, What is the #1 cause of a woman losing attraction for you? She might feel neglected and start seeing another guy who will give her the attention she craves when she feels that you aren't giving her what she "needs", but it's likely at this point she's still attracted to you, providing you hadn't done something to lower your value as a man.
She is still attracted to you, but the turning point comes when you catch on to a change in her behavior and begin to lower your value as a man by chasing her, yelling at her, or any of a number of things that cause her to see you as WEAK. She is now the prize, and whatever it was that caused her to display poor behavior is merely her excuse, the lowered value you showed is the REAL reason why she can seemingly flip a switch and go from hot or warm to ICE COLD in a very short time.
So awhile back I made a vow to myself. From now on, I will do everything in my power to retain my value as a man. And it works out great, because although you might not WANT to begin spinning an old plate again, you can still benefit from simply knowing that you COULD.
It just makes me sick to look back and see how many times I could have salvaged SO much of my pride, my ego, my POWER, just by retaining my value in the eyes of a woman. And it's not difficult to do! If the relationship was casual and she goes another direction (with another guy) you smile and wish her well. If it was a serious relationship and you catch her committing unforgivable offenses, you DON'T get in her face and let her have it, you turn around and walk the other direction without so much as ONE WORD. (I'm still waiting for my chance to apply this one!)
This is the kind of sh!t that has an exponentially positive effect on your entire life. When you have half a dozen or more women out there who you know have unresolved issues with you that keep a spark of interest, it's like making a deposit in the bank of YOU. When you throw it all away by turning into a wuss and fighting and arguing and trying to win an emotional battle with words, you are making a withdrawal from that account. You basically hand it to HER. It's like money....it doesn't disappear, it just changes hands.
Thoughts?