I recently posted about Competition Anxiety between women and how it is one of the best tools in a DJ's toolbox.
It's also the other part of the equation in Plate Theory (when women know or sense you have other women they will step up their game), although spinning isn't necessarily a prerequisite for creating competition anxiety.
I got to thinking though.
We all go through ups and downs, feast and famine, walking through an oasis just to meet the desert on the other side on your way to your next destination.
The really important thing though about being social is to build momentum and maintain it. My issue in the past has been that I will get a good amount of wind in my sails, then LIFE will get in the way and most of what I worked for I can no longer maintain due to my time being diverted elsewhere.
I'm not just talking about women here. I'm talking about building social networks of all types. That's tough to do when you are completely wrapped up in work for extended periods.
I'm just fascinated at how the pendulum seems to swing from time to time. Sometimes it's back to back social interaction that leads to lots of opportunities to have a good time and meet new women. Other times it's like walking through the desert. Not a soul in sight, and no immediate prospect for getting yourself back on track.
Lately I have noticed myself getting back in the groove. I've met some interesting new people recently, gotten invited to more parties, and it seems like the phone is ringing again from old connections. This gives my "frame" a boost, and I find myself attracting more people to my presence.
And it really is contagious. I'm sure part of it is the "attitude" and the vibe you give off that naturally attracts people to want to connect with you, and part of it is simply the way things ebb and flow, but are there any wild cards at play?
It is also one of those catch 22 situations where your lack of maintaining connections causes you less opportunities, and less opportunities make it tough to build back that momentum.
So what are some of the ways you go about maintaining this momentum? Do you automatically "make time" and force yourself to socialize, like you would with hitting the gym?
I think that might be my problem. I get into a mood where all I want to do is go home and chill by myself and I lose that momentum. Maybe now that I can feel it coming back I need to be more conscious of making sure that I ride the wave to shore. As soon as I feel the wave losing power I need to paddle back out and be ready for the next.
Any thoughts?
It's also the other part of the equation in Plate Theory (when women know or sense you have other women they will step up their game), although spinning isn't necessarily a prerequisite for creating competition anxiety.
I got to thinking though.
We all go through ups and downs, feast and famine, walking through an oasis just to meet the desert on the other side on your way to your next destination.
The really important thing though about being social is to build momentum and maintain it. My issue in the past has been that I will get a good amount of wind in my sails, then LIFE will get in the way and most of what I worked for I can no longer maintain due to my time being diverted elsewhere.
I'm not just talking about women here. I'm talking about building social networks of all types. That's tough to do when you are completely wrapped up in work for extended periods.
I'm just fascinated at how the pendulum seems to swing from time to time. Sometimes it's back to back social interaction that leads to lots of opportunities to have a good time and meet new women. Other times it's like walking through the desert. Not a soul in sight, and no immediate prospect for getting yourself back on track.
Lately I have noticed myself getting back in the groove. I've met some interesting new people recently, gotten invited to more parties, and it seems like the phone is ringing again from old connections. This gives my "frame" a boost, and I find myself attracting more people to my presence.
And it really is contagious. I'm sure part of it is the "attitude" and the vibe you give off that naturally attracts people to want to connect with you, and part of it is simply the way things ebb and flow, but are there any wild cards at play?
It is also one of those catch 22 situations where your lack of maintaining connections causes you less opportunities, and less opportunities make it tough to build back that momentum.
So what are some of the ways you go about maintaining this momentum? Do you automatically "make time" and force yourself to socialize, like you would with hitting the gym?
I think that might be my problem. I get into a mood where all I want to do is go home and chill by myself and I lose that momentum. Maybe now that I can feel it coming back I need to be more conscious of making sure that I ride the wave to shore. As soon as I feel the wave losing power I need to paddle back out and be ready for the next.
Any thoughts?