guru1000
Master Don Juan
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In any interaction between two people there is an exchange of PERCEPTION of each other's value. This exchange is the FRAME.
To direct, govern or control the frame , you must be of PERCEIVED higher value at that moment of interaction.
The CONTEXT is the exchange of value from within the frame.
The correct CONTEXT in the FRAME is of primary importance to a healthy and well balanced connection. One must often take note of the CONTEXT to maintain the soundness of the relationship.
Once the Context is damaged, the relationship is compromised.
So how do we keep the correct CONTEXT?
A MAN needs to be of equal, preferably higher value in the frame.
A MAN is the provider, provisioner, supporter and ROCK of the relationship. This has always been our DUTY. It is when our DUTIES are compromised, the natural order of things are threatened.
I call this understanding of each others’ roles the fundamental grounding of core compatibility.
When the frame is damaged, so is the future of the relationship. After all, how can a woman fully trust a man to protect, provide and provision if he is of less value than her. Make sense?
A MAN must keep the correct context of the frame and be willing to walk away if this said context changes. One must understand if a frame is damaged and perceived value remains lost, this relationship cannot endure.
In other words,
If a choice needs to be made whether to stay together in a damaged frame vs walking away. Your best option is to walk away.
This will essentially bring the frame back under your influence. She is either to come back to you keeping the correct context in play or not return which inevitably would have happened had you remained.
There will always be a weighted balance of power in a relationship. This balance is constantly changing. You must always keep STOCK of the CONTEXT.
To direct, govern or control the frame , you must be of PERCEIVED higher value at that moment of interaction.
The CONTEXT is the exchange of value from within the frame.
The correct CONTEXT in the FRAME is of primary importance to a healthy and well balanced connection. One must often take note of the CONTEXT to maintain the soundness of the relationship.
Once the Context is damaged, the relationship is compromised.
So how do we keep the correct CONTEXT?
A MAN needs to be of equal, preferably higher value in the frame.
A MAN is the provider, provisioner, supporter and ROCK of the relationship. This has always been our DUTY. It is when our DUTIES are compromised, the natural order of things are threatened.
I call this understanding of each others’ roles the fundamental grounding of core compatibility.
When the frame is damaged, so is the future of the relationship. After all, how can a woman fully trust a man to protect, provide and provision if he is of less value than her. Make sense?
A MAN must keep the correct context of the frame and be willing to walk away if this said context changes. One must understand if a frame is damaged and perceived value remains lost, this relationship cannot endure.
In other words,
If a choice needs to be made whether to stay together in a damaged frame vs walking away. Your best option is to walk away.
This will essentially bring the frame back under your influence. She is either to come back to you keeping the correct context in play or not return which inevitably would have happened had you remained.
There will always be a weighted balance of power in a relationship. This balance is constantly changing. You must always keep STOCK of the CONTEXT.
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