Taz
Senior Don Juan
A compliment is something we rarely forget. In fact, one sincere compliment can easily override many insults. We view the person who gave us the compliment in a positive way, and we associate good feelings with this person.
Compliments are a must for your DJ arsenal. The keys are timing and sincerity.
---Timing---
For a compliment to have good timing, it must seem spontaneous. For example, you don't want to tell a girl that she has beautiful eyes while she is looking away. This is a no-brainer; you tell her this while you two are staring into eachother's eyes for a little longer than normal.
---Sincerity---
Once again, for a compliment to work, it must seem sincere. (Of course, it helps if it really is sincere!) So how do you use a cliche compliment like "you have beautiful eyes" with sincerity? It all depends on emphasis of words.
Have you ever heard the phrase, "It's not what you say, but how you say it?" Here's a perfect example. Try saying "You have beautiful eyes" in a monotone voice, that is, keeping all the words at the same tone. Doesn't sound very sincere, does it? Now try saying it while emphasizing the words "you" and "eyes". Notice the difference? Not only does it sound sincere, but it makes her feel as if she is the only girl in the world with beautiful eyes!
When complimenting, do not dwell strictly on the physical aspects of women. It's ok to tell them what you think of them as a human being, i.e, compliment their personality. This can lead to a whole conversation where the subject is "her". (This is what you're aiming for, newbies!)
Examples:
"You have a very outgoing personality."
"You seem like a very deep thinker."
You could then add:
"I find that very attractive."
Remember with any compliment, especially the above, you should establish some rapport and find out a little about her, then formulate your compliment accordingly.
Compliments are a must for your DJ arsenal. The keys are timing and sincerity.
---Timing---
For a compliment to have good timing, it must seem spontaneous. For example, you don't want to tell a girl that she has beautiful eyes while she is looking away. This is a no-brainer; you tell her this while you two are staring into eachother's eyes for a little longer than normal.
---Sincerity---
Once again, for a compliment to work, it must seem sincere. (Of course, it helps if it really is sincere!) So how do you use a cliche compliment like "you have beautiful eyes" with sincerity? It all depends on emphasis of words.
Have you ever heard the phrase, "It's not what you say, but how you say it?" Here's a perfect example. Try saying "You have beautiful eyes" in a monotone voice, that is, keeping all the words at the same tone. Doesn't sound very sincere, does it? Now try saying it while emphasizing the words "you" and "eyes". Notice the difference? Not only does it sound sincere, but it makes her feel as if she is the only girl in the world with beautiful eyes!
When complimenting, do not dwell strictly on the physical aspects of women. It's ok to tell them what you think of them as a human being, i.e, compliment their personality. This can lead to a whole conversation where the subject is "her". (This is what you're aiming for, newbies!)
Examples:
"You have a very outgoing personality."
"You seem like a very deep thinker."
You could then add:
"I find that very attractive."
Remember with any compliment, especially the above, you should establish some rapport and find out a little about her, then formulate your compliment accordingly.