So I've asked many girls for their numbers, some of them say no, others gimme a fake number, or never answer my calls. However sometimes when I call the ones that do give out their #s they answer and tell me that they arent into guys or they have g/f's wuts up with that? Its happened twice already, and it also happens when im trying to take chix out to dance. My question. is why would they give me their # and then say their lesians once i call them? Is this the new excuse nowadays or am i that unlucky?
"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.
The "Im lesbian" excuse
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"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
Chicks give out numbers to make them selves feel better. Inside they are very insecure, they need that reasurance that they are pretty and wanted, so having that phone ring, or telling you no, is a reassurance to them.
DD recommends getting email instead. For many reasons, read him up sometime.
DD recommends getting email instead. For many reasons, read him up sometime.
PRMoon
Master Don Juan
This is gets my award for best dramatic comedy post of the day (add cheering here). This is both very funny and very sad at same time. If some girl gave you her number and after you called her she told you she wasn't into guys, that was her way of saying "I gave you my legitimate number to get you to stop talking to me when we met. I'm very suprised you didn't pick up on this and actually had the nerve to follow up with a call."
Really what you're experiencing is a symptom of a bigger problem.
Soooo Good luck with that cheif! Chew on that for a few mins or a few hours!
Really what you're experiencing is a symptom of a bigger problem.
I can say without a shadow of a doubt that none of that happens to a real player. I don't know where you're going wrong with your conversations and pick up attempts, but this ain't cuttin it. It could be your delivery, it could be your persona, hell it could be that you're going after girls who are not compatibale with. Unforutnatley I don't know who or where you are so I can offer no advice on what you need to do in order to right this ship.n00bpimp said:
Soooo Good luck with that cheif! Chew on that for a few mins or a few hours!
Mr_knowit_all
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I don't know whether I'm a player or not, but I can't say that I've ran into the "I'm a lesbian" excuse. :moon:PRMoon said:This is gets my award for best dramatic comedy post of the day (add cheering here). This is both very funny and very sad at same time. If some girl gave you her number and after you called her she told you she wasn't into guys, that was her way of saying "I gave you my legitimate number to get you to stop talking to me when we met. I'm very suprised you didn't pick up on this and actually had the nerve to follow up with a call."
Really what you're experiencing is a symptom of a bigger problem.
I can say without a shadow of a doubt that none of that happens to a real player. I don't know where you're going wrong with your conversations and pick up attempts, but this ain't cuttin it. It could be your delivery, it could be your persona, hell it could be that you're going after girls who are not compatibale with. Unforutnatley I don't know who or where you are so I can offer no advice on what you need to do in order to right this ship.
Soooo Good luck with that cheif! Chew on that for a few mins or a few hours!
TONYMONTANA523
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Im with him i get a lotta chicks but sometimes ive gotten the im lesbian thing even switched it up and used her as my wing, but she ended up getting a hotter chick. Take your loss and move on.
Im with him i get a lotta chicks but sometimes ive gotten the im lesbian thing even switched it up and used her as my wing, but she ended up getting a hotter chick. Take your loss and move on.
"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
PRmonn dont get me wrong, i do get a lot of succesful pick ups. But what im wondering is if this is a new type of excuse or are these specific chicks so not into me to the point that they would lie about their sexuality. I mean, never in my life, no matter what a disgusting hand nature has played on the appearance is this chick, would I say im a homo.
PRMoon
Master Don Juan
I'm sure the girl(s) doesn't care. Like I said she's trying to throw you off track becasue she's not interested. It's doubtful they care what you think of them interms of their gender and it may see too taboo for you to use that out route on some one else, but that's what happened. If those things don't happen to you very often (the phone rejections) then I wouldn't worry about it. If a girl tell you in public she's a lesbian and she's drunk, tell her to make out with some chick. At least that'll be a bit enterataining.
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Next time a girl give you that lesbian excuse say in a CF tone "You dont like men ? Me neither.. look we got something in common already"
"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
Chosen1
Master Don Juan
I've been rejected a lot but not this way. I don't know what to say you seem like an alright guy. This must have happened to you a lot for you to bring it up. I would say look I saw you kissing that guy while I was stalking you don't forget to smile and then walk away.DJDamage said:
Chemistry
Master Don Juan
Haha... you must be trying to pick up girls at the wrong bars, lol...
I've met a few Bi chicks with girlfriends... lets just say we had a lot of fun...
Maybe you should ask these chicks if you can watch, lol...
I've met a few Bi chicks with girlfriends... lets just say we had a lot of fun...
Maybe you should ask these chicks if you can watch, lol...
n00bPimp said:
One of my ex's, a fair 9.5 (tall, blonde curvy hair, curves on the body as well, pretty face) told me that the "I'm lesbian" was her last-resort excuse.. She pulled it off on one of my friends that tried to go out with her.. The ****er was so persistent that I don't actually blame her for pulling the lesbian thing on his ass.
It's an excuse. Do a revision of your skills pronto.
Cheers.
I hate to say it but I got this a few times 10 years ago or so when I had no game whatever. It usually would happen whenever I asked a girl to dance and her friend was there.
I haven't gotten that in a long time (post game for sure). I think it is a rejection of course, but there might be the rare occasion when it's true.
My current girlfriend even admitted to using it to reject guys on a regular basis. Must have been in a Cosmo article or something LOL.
I haven't gotten that in a long time (post game for sure). I think it is a rejection of course, but there might be the rare occasion when it's true.
My current girlfriend even admitted to using it to reject guys on a regular basis. Must have been in a Cosmo article or something LOL.
"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"
When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.