djgirl said:
Its funny how guys expect girls to sleep with them on first dates when you both hardly know each other....
As Desdinova posted, it has nothing to do with pressure, but what both really want to do anyway and facilitating that. Healthy women want to have sex with healthy men. Unhealthy women use sex as specie to leverage their own archaic transactional agendas selfishly.
djgirl said:
A decent girl with values and morals wont just open her legs for you on the first date regardless of how charming you are! Even so the ones that do are either wh0res or low self esteem girls..
To repeat, the phrase "values and morals" for women, other than a tiny minority of sincerely fundamentally religious, is just whitewash over a transactional agenda and an archaic view that sex is "a man taking something from a woman" for which she should exact compensation. Those are the true wh-res, the very denotation of prostitution, with an unhealthy disposition towards other human beings and the act of sex, regardless of how much time status quo culture spends kissing the female ass to the contrary.
djgirl said:
Another thing to consider is, theres no blacklash on guys sleeping around, with women its different we have our reputations to consider,
Complete cultural myth. If there ever was a double standard generally, it no longer exists, and hasn't for some time. Now it's true that women who have impulsive sex are judged harshly, but that is usually a "got drunk and pulled a train" or "giving random guys BJs in plain view in the parking lot" scenario. Women are not judged for having a normal sex life today by most men, and the men who do judge so aren't good bets for women anyway. Moreover, in the status quo, it reeks of hypocrisy for any woman to single out double standards that detriment them as many HUGE double standards as there are to women's benefit today.
Moreover, impulsive promiscuity in women is comorbid with other types of undesirable impulsivity and disordered behavior more often than not. Not so for men, or at least not so for men who can't have sex whenever they want just for the asking like the average woman can, 9X% of men.
The "double standard" excuse is just more whitewash over the same transactional, archaic prostitute's agenda, i.e. "I use sex to trade for what I want, and am judged harshly for having it anyway which curiously and coincidentally justifies my transactional mindset."
The way the genders seek and obtain sex is entirely different. One gender can have as much sex as it wants merely by laying around at home and dialing numbers on their phone. The other gender must always be seeking sex, or get none at all, and has no idea when efforts will pan out. Women who engage in sex impulsively are the equivalent of gluttons. Men who engage in as much sex as they can get are successful hunters. Now for the tiny % of men who have the same sexual opportunities as the -average- woman, they are held to the same standards of gluttony by society. Society deems that those who have opportunities for unlimited sex and take advantage of most of those opportunities are debased, immature and frivolous human beings because there is so much more to life and spending one's precious time than the sex act, which past a point, is a huge timesink.
djgirl said:
Also some of the guys on here saying how girls are only useful for sex and nothing else is truly degrading to females
That's simply understandable backlash. Imagine the attitude one might have if there were a cultural bullhorn blasting lies about the nature and relations of the genders in the ear for 50 years. How loud would you yell to drown out that bullhorn?