“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”

Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.

Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers.  Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.

I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.

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the "I don't care" attitude

fezz

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I think alot of people have the "I don't give a fukk" attitude wrong here.

Yes, the "I don't care" attitude is a good way to better yourself with women, but don't you ever think that when you show this attitude that some of you are giving off the impression you aren't interested and that's why some of the women flake on you???

I was just thinking about this the other day when I was out with my friend. See, here's the story.

He has a gf and a girl asked him out on a date. Of course he accepted even though he would never cheat on his current gf. Well, he didn't really care what happened on the date, so he invited me and my other friend along to ruin the date just to be funny.

So, he takes her out to dinner not caring at all what was going to happen on the date since he was trying to ruin it. He wasn't nervous at all and he hardly knew this girl.

Well, me and my friend stalked them the whole entire date and it really freaked out the girl. It was funny as hell too.

But the weird thing is, while my friend and his date were inside of a motion simulator, she actually asked him to make out with her.

He didn't make out with her because he has a girlfriend. But still, the whole date he didn't care what the hell happened. He even tried to ruin it by telling me and my friend to stalk him and his date the whole time. His date was pretty hot too.

There is a big difference between "not caring" and "NOT CARING." When most people really try to act like they don't care, most of the time they really do. And when people really dont care what happens on the date, most of the time they arent nervous, and even some of the time, the date goes quite well.

The point I'm tryin to make here is that if you try to put on an act like you don't care, most of the time you really do care, and I think that alot of women can read the act. I think also when you act like you don't care to a person you like, most of the time you might drop their IL instead of raise it. But this is "acting" like you don't care instead of really not caring. Do you get me?

Just don't ever worry about how a date is going to work out and you'll be fine, just as long as you really could care less what the outcome is. If you ever get your hopes up about a date, most of the time they'll be shot down in some way, so just don't worry about what the date is going to be like. Of course you still need to set up dates, but try to have fun instead of trying to find a life partner or something like that. It makes life alot better and a lot less carefree. And when you're carefree, I'm sure you'll attract more women.
 

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i see what ure saying fezz and i realise now why it wasn't working. I was just saying to myself "relax and don't give a sh!t", but i really did care!

i think it's a matter of belief and conviction.

If i can make myself BELIEVE that i have a gf, then i should come across in a relaxed, don't give 2 fukks way

gd post m8,

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Im glad you get what Im sayin. Even though I posted the topic about it, Im still not too sure about how to successfully achieve truly not caring how dates turn out. Im been trying to focus on stuff other than girls though, like my potential career, and now it seems like girls want me more. weird.
 

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If i may add my take on the whole "i don't care attitude"...

"I don't care" is an incredibly good beginning. Now there is an extreme which fezz described perfectly above. Most people read about not caring and decide that if they show a girl no respect/attention/"care" then the girl will love him. The truth though, is that the "I don't care" attitude is mainly designed as a means of dealing with rejection.

When you say "I don't care" you should truly mean it, if you don't, then you do care and you need to act accordingly. There's nothing wrong with liking a girl and there's nothing wrong with not liking a girl, but you should treat them the same.

On dates you should listen to both the girls you like and girls you don't like. On dates you should have fun with the girls you like and girls you don't like. You should be receptive, happy, and fun to any chick you are on a date with, otherwise you shouldn't be on the date (unless its for kicks :D ).

Be a great guy to every chick, not just the ones you love. When you can do that, then worrying about a date and worrying about whether or not a chick likes you just doesn't matter anymore. Have fun boys. ;)
 
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