The Hypocrisy of LJBF

[backbreaker]

I mean we've all been LJBF'ed right? i have.

I was talking to one of my wife friends a few days ago and this is what gets me.


When a woman falls for deadbeat after deadbeat after jerk, a woman "can't help who she's attracted to" and "i can't ignore the spark", and "I feel the chemstriy with the guy"


but say a guy likes a girl and the girl does not like him back. "Get over it", "you obliviously need to get over your feelings for her and still be a good friend"


why doesn't anyone ever tell a woman who keeps making stupid ****ing dating decisions or chasing a guy who has a GF already or a gy who is clearly just using her as a booty call to "Get over it" or "you need to get over your feelings and date someone else"



why is it okay for a woman to follow her feelings whenever they may lead but if a man gets shot down it's game over

 

[VikingKing]

Women will justify other women have orbitors because they want to justify having orbiters themselves. Cognitive dissonance.

Orbiters are the bread and butter of 99% womens self esteem. Having options allows them to exercise the golden rule of relationships: Those who care the least have the most power, in any relationship.

 

[bmp2cpm]

Women get resources from men in exchange for sex. That's how it works. That's how our species got to where it is today.

Male friends give a woman bonus resources without having to give the men sex. It's like free lunch. Seems like many of these women with tons of male friends had a difficult childhood with little stability. These women are working to get the stability they didn't have from their childhood by ensuring as many resources as possible with as little work as possible on their end, hence it's a good warning sign that these women are not good relationship material.

 

[GS750]

Women will justify other women have orbitors because they want to justify having orbiters themselves. Cognitive dissonance.

Orbiters are the bread and butter of 99% womens self esteem. Having options allows them to exercise the golden rule of relationships: Those who care the least have the most power, in any relationship.

Exactly. Being friends with guys benefits girls but being friends with girls doesn't benefit guys. I have never, and will never, do friend zone. I'd rather not be in her life at all than be friends with a girl I'm attracted to. It leads to nothing but anger and frustration.

 

[sodbuster]

I'm only friends with the women I put there, or the one's who have a useful purpose for me to keep around... the rest are just someone I know... BUT realistically, how many women are worth keeping as friends?

 

[Pandora]

Male friends give a woman bonus resources without having to give the men sex. It's like free lunch.

Thats the thing. This implies that giving up sex would be a loss for the women. This is what i never understood. I consider sex a mutually beneficial exchange. I guess sex with an orbiter is not mutually pleasurable but sex with a guy she likes is? Is it becuz she does not want to raise her number for a guy that is only an orbiter?

 

[Ruleit]

BUT realistically, how many women are worth keeping as friends?

My immediate answer to this one is none, not one, ZERO -- that is if you're interpreting the word "friend" to mean a female that will go out of her way and jump through fire to rescue me if I'm in deep trouble.

If you mean 'friend' as someone who will be there for me, wipe my azz if I'm sick and can't do it for myself... well... I have a wife who has done that. She's still NOT my friend. She's my wife.

If you mean 'friend' as someone who I can shoot the sh't with... well I have one of those, but she's a full on lesbian and semi-butch.

Therefore, my answer remains: ZERO.

I can't be "friends" with a woman. My view of friendship falls out of the parameters that a female defines as a friend.

 

[AttackFormation]

Thats the thing. This implies that giving up sex would be a loss for the women. This is what i never understood. I consider sex a mutually beneficial exchange. I guess sex with an orbiter is not mutually pleasurable but sex with a guy she likes is? Is it becuz she does not want to raise her number for a guy that is only an orbiter?

It's both that and she loses power by giving away sex. The worst thing possible for women would be if men were satisfied with their sex lives, they wouldn't have any power.

 

[sodbuster]

I have a couple, one owns a body shop and has great customer service for me, but she wouldn't help me move... and another couple who are nice to talk to in a bar, so I'm not alone.... but nothing I would consider CLOSE....