Sometimes we lose focus here of what we are trying to do. Sometimes we get caught up in "tips and tricks" that we forget what a true Don Juan is all about. So, to remind and inspire you, I'm going to use this thread to house quotes from the "men" that we look up to from times past. Men who exhibited the qualities of "true men" in an age long passed.
Being a man is a rare commidity these days, and if you can learn to adopt the attitudes of these men, maybe, just maybe you'd start attracting real women. Just a thought.
So, let's begin. I'll start with a man who everybody knows, from a time that was much different than our own.
John Wayne
You say that real men don't get scared. I say that real men are just as scared as everybody else. The difference between a man and a chump is that the man gets just as scared, but does what he has to do anyway. He's not pushed around by fear. He embraces fear. He knows fear. He even RESPECTS fear. But one thing that fear does NOT do is DEFINE HIM.
The measure of a true man is having the courage to forage through his fear to get what he wants or do what he has to do.
So, I say, don't shed your fear. Oh no. Rather EMBRACE your fear. Respect it. But push through it anyway.
Rather than look at the blunt meaning of this quote, let's look at the meaning behind it. Rather, what is he really saying? Is he saying that a woman's place is in the kitchen? Yes, but no.
What he recognizes is that men and women are DIFFERENT and have DIFFERENT ROLES. You've got to recognize this, because if you don't, you'll find yourself doing "womanly" things, and this is killer to being a real man.
So what kinds of things do women do? Or rather, when you think of a "female" and the role of a woman what do you think of?
Let's list them:
Shop
Make up
Hair
Nails
Clothes
Fashion
Gossip/Talk
Mother
Caregiver
Emotion
Sexuality
Yes, this is a very limited list, but I wanted to stop on that last word. Women are far more sexual creatures than you will ever be, regardless of how nonchalant they project their sexuality into our society. They WANT sex and they want YOU to have sex with them.
Notice the other things on the list? What's the main focus of those other things. One word:
LOOKS
Women know that a man is initially attracted to them through looks and that they are sexually stimulated through looks. So, what do they do? They doll themselves up. The put on a "mask" in an attempt to take their beauty and magnify it to attract you. They, like you, are looking to attract as many men as they can so that they can choose from those men, the best provider.
How does this apply to being a man? WELL, WHEN YOU FOCUS ON YOUR LOOKS YOU ARE ACTING LIKE A WOMAN. Get it? So, when you go to the gym to build muscle mass merely to attract a woman, YOU ARE ACTING LIKE A WOMAN. When you go out and shop for the latest men's fashions, merely to attract a woman, YOU ARE ACTING LIKE A WOMAN. When you style your hair and you stand in front of a mirror getting your "look" down just right, YOU ARE ACTING LIKE A WOMAN. Women do that, men don't. So stop focusing on your looks as an "attracter" of women. That's what women do, and by doing it you are de-masculizing yourself and you don't even know it!
Rather, focus on your role as the MAN. The provider. The Hunter. The sportsman. The icon of STRENGTH. Strength is a man's quality, and strength is what you need to be focusing on. If you're going go to the gym, do so so that you can be fit and healthy to do manly things--forget about how it makes you look. If you are going to buy clothes or style your hair, then do it because it's what you want, not because some fashion magazine or TV show says you should do it to attract women. You need to be focusing on action and building strength--inside and out, and not worrying so much about the way you look or what Brad Pitt or Ben Affleck is doing!
Recognize your role as a man, and embrace it.
Simply put, "morals" is a code of conduct that you live your life by that NOBODY changes about you. Too many guys buckle to the pressure and blur their morals just to get a woman. WHY DO YOU HURT YOURSELF IN THAT WAY? Why do you allow someone to affect you in that way? Do you have no pride?
The time has come when men need to start being men. Women need to start being women. And both need to start having standards in their lives.
Be a man and call her on her sh*t. Be a man and stick by what you believe. Be a man and be willing to WALK AWAY when you need to walk away and FIGHT when you need to fight. Learning this balance, and having a set of values that you live your life by is the very backbone of your manhood. Don't let other people step all over you or you'll be reduced to a chump who can't really be happy.
Men don't blabber on. Men don't sit around and TALK. They DO. They ACT. Their actions talk for them. So, the next time you are wondering what you should say, realize that that's not your job! You really only need to know how to ask the right questions when you need to ask them and do the right things when you need to do them!
If the conversation has died, don't sit around and think about what you need to say! Get up, pull her out of her chair and take her out onto the dance floor! Get up, go over to her chair and plant a big fat kiss on her! Go and do! That's your job. Not sit and talk. Women sit and talk. Women WANT to talk, so your job as the MAN is to let her do that and to guide her to say the things she wants to say when she wants to say them!
And finally,
As a man, you need to recognize that. Don't shy away from your sexuality, put it out there. Don't back off from her flirting, turn it into something sexual! Now, you have to learn how to do it with tact, or you're going to fail. If you crack sexual jokes or make everything she says about sex, you are going to turn her off!
But, and this is huge, if you can display your sexuality in subtle ways, and slowly escalate that sexuality in more blatant ways, you will SCORE BIG TIME. Physical contact, mild sexual humor, etc. These are the things you need to do, and you need to recognize the right moment to do them.
How do you know the right moment? YOU WILL KNOW. You'll feel it in your gut and you'll start questioning yourself and if you DON'T do it, you'll regret that you didn't. So, as soon as you sense yourself questioning if it's the right time, NOW IS THE TIME! Do it right then! And sit back and watch the results.
You'll sweep her off your feet.
You'll make a lasting impression on her.
She'll make an investment in YOU.
Be a man, and learn from the men who shaped us in a different age.
Being a man is a rare commidity these days, and if you can learn to adopt the attitudes of these men, maybe, just maybe you'd start attracting real women. Just a thought.
So, let's begin. I'll start with a man who everybody knows, from a time that was much different than our own.
John Wayne
So, you could read that quote and get so caught up on that one word, "Courage", that you could totally miss the more important word that is not there: Fear
You say that real men don't get scared. I say that real men are just as scared as everybody else. The difference between a man and a chump is that the man gets just as scared, but does what he has to do anyway. He's not pushed around by fear. He embraces fear. He knows fear. He even RESPECTS fear. But one thing that fear does NOT do is DEFINE HIM.
The measure of a true man is having the courage to forage through his fear to get what he wants or do what he has to do.
So, I say, don't shed your fear. Oh no. Rather EMBRACE your fear. Respect it. But push through it anyway.
Does that sound sexist to you? Has our feminist society told you that things like that are not acceptable today?
Rather than look at the blunt meaning of this quote, let's look at the meaning behind it. Rather, what is he really saying? Is he saying that a woman's place is in the kitchen? Yes, but no.
What he recognizes is that men and women are DIFFERENT and have DIFFERENT ROLES. You've got to recognize this, because if you don't, you'll find yourself doing "womanly" things, and this is killer to being a real man.
So what kinds of things do women do? Or rather, when you think of a "female" and the role of a woman what do you think of?
Let's list them:
Shop
Make up
Hair
Nails
Clothes
Fashion
Gossip/Talk
Mother
Caregiver
Emotion
Sexuality
Yes, this is a very limited list, but I wanted to stop on that last word. Women are far more sexual creatures than you will ever be, regardless of how nonchalant they project their sexuality into our society. They WANT sex and they want YOU to have sex with them.
Notice the other things on the list? What's the main focus of those other things. One word:
LOOKS
Women know that a man is initially attracted to them through looks and that they are sexually stimulated through looks. So, what do they do? They doll themselves up. The put on a "mask" in an attempt to take their beauty and magnify it to attract you. They, like you, are looking to attract as many men as they can so that they can choose from those men, the best provider.
How does this apply to being a man? WELL, WHEN YOU FOCUS ON YOUR LOOKS YOU ARE ACTING LIKE A WOMAN. Get it? So, when you go to the gym to build muscle mass merely to attract a woman, YOU ARE ACTING LIKE A WOMAN. When you go out and shop for the latest men's fashions, merely to attract a woman, YOU ARE ACTING LIKE A WOMAN. When you style your hair and you stand in front of a mirror getting your "look" down just right, YOU ARE ACTING LIKE A WOMAN. Women do that, men don't. So stop focusing on your looks as an "attracter" of women. That's what women do, and by doing it you are de-masculizing yourself and you don't even know it!
Rather, focus on your role as the MAN. The provider. The Hunter. The sportsman. The icon of STRENGTH. Strength is a man's quality, and strength is what you need to be focusing on. If you're going go to the gym, do so so that you can be fit and healthy to do manly things--forget about how it makes you look. If you are going to buy clothes or style your hair, then do it because it's what you want, not because some fashion magazine or TV show says you should do it to attract women. You need to be focusing on action and building strength--inside and out, and not worrying so much about the way you look or what Brad Pitt or Ben Affleck is doing!
Recognize your role as a man, and embrace it.
Something we lose focus on today. Our society has lost focus on "right" and "wrong" and has replaced that focus with "grey area". No wonder we have so many unhappy, anti-social, confused, embarassed chumps. Society has blurred the lines between right and wrong, and in suit, the world has gone crazy not only because our roles as males and females has been blurred, but the very fabric of a man has been blurred--MORALS.
Simply put, "morals" is a code of conduct that you live your life by that NOBODY changes about you. Too many guys buckle to the pressure and blur their morals just to get a woman. WHY DO YOU HURT YOURSELF IN THAT WAY? Why do you allow someone to affect you in that way? Do you have no pride?
The time has come when men need to start being men. Women need to start being women. And both need to start having standards in their lives.
Be a man and call her on her sh*t. Be a man and stick by what you believe. Be a man and be willing to WALK AWAY when you need to walk away and FIGHT when you need to fight. Learning this balance, and having a set of values that you live your life by is the very backbone of your manhood. Don't let other people step all over you or you'll be reduced to a chump who can't really be happy.
Interesting isn't it? We see so many threads here about how to take control of a conversation. We see so many people who want to learn how to "talk", and you know what? TALKING IS A WOMAN'S TOOL.
Men don't blabber on. Men don't sit around and TALK. They DO. They ACT. Their actions talk for them. So, the next time you are wondering what you should say, realize that that's not your job! You really only need to know how to ask the right questions when you need to ask them and do the right things when you need to do them!
If the conversation has died, don't sit around and think about what you need to say! Get up, pull her out of her chair and take her out onto the dance floor! Get up, go over to her chair and plant a big fat kiss on her! Go and do! That's your job. Not sit and talk. Women sit and talk. Women WANT to talk, so your job as the MAN is to let her do that and to guide her to say the things she wants to say when she wants to say them!
And finally,
This speaks for itself doesn't it? You love sex, so you need to display that to her. She WANTS sex. And she wants you to give it to her, but she doesn't want to be "blamed" for it. She wants to be caught up in the moment and have it be YOUR fault, not hers.
As a man, you need to recognize that. Don't shy away from your sexuality, put it out there. Don't back off from her flirting, turn it into something sexual! Now, you have to learn how to do it with tact, or you're going to fail. If you crack sexual jokes or make everything she says about sex, you are going to turn her off!
But, and this is huge, if you can display your sexuality in subtle ways, and slowly escalate that sexuality in more blatant ways, you will SCORE BIG TIME. Physical contact, mild sexual humor, etc. These are the things you need to do, and you need to recognize the right moment to do them.
How do you know the right moment? YOU WILL KNOW. You'll feel it in your gut and you'll start questioning yourself and if you DON'T do it, you'll regret that you didn't. So, as soon as you sense yourself questioning if it's the right time, NOW IS THE TIME! Do it right then! And sit back and watch the results.
You'll sweep her off your feet.
You'll make a lasting impression on her.
She'll make an investment in YOU.
Be a man, and learn from the men who shaped us in a different age.
31 posts only? What garbage did you post?