"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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The Hottest Clubs

Señor Fingers

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Just curious. Where do you guys get most of your partying done?

I'll get the ball rolling..

NEW YORK CITY

TURNTABLES ON THE HUDSON
Probably the hottest party in NYC!
HipHop, WorldBeats, Downtempo & House Music
Good looking, down-to-earth crowd
http://www.turntablesonthehudson.com

CLUB CIELO
World reknowned venue for
House Music in a posh atmosphere
The home of Lil Louie Vega and Miguel Migs
http://www.cieloclub.com

SAPPHIRE LOUNGE
Small bar with dancefloor
reknowned for its house-loving crowd
of serious dancers.

SHELTER
Big Gritty Club
for underground dance scene
House Music

IRVING PLAZA
Great venue for live shows
HipHop, Rock, House, etc
http://www.irvingplaza.com

BEMBE
A Brooklyn Lounge
for chillout purposes
All kinds of music
http://www.bembe.us

I am also curious about what motivates yall to go clubbing.

For example, I love dance music and this is my modus operandi. I don't really care for the vanity clubs, where people just go to be seen and act fabulous. I like a more laidback environment where everyone is there for the love of the music, and you feel free to get lost in the rhythm! Sometimes its cool to hit up the more trendy spots and have a few laughs at the people who take themselves so seriously, but the music usually sucks and people who frequent these places typically manage to bore me to death with their status-seeking ways, so I tend to stick to my roots. Give me a wife-beater over a tie any day!
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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Jizamurai

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I hear 'Nations' in D.C. is really good.
Armin Van Buuren was spinning there recently
 

Oxide

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Spin just opened in Minneapolis.. voted best club in state. Escape is good as well.
 

Mr. Mystery II

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DC:

Dream: Everybody goes here, best place for under 21 in the city (Thursdays). Huge, tons of people.

Club Home: Smaller, but a great crowd. People here are mad chill, everyone is always having a good time.

Platinum: I never go there, I'm not a huge fan. But since they have radio stations supporting them, mad people pack this little club.

Nations: Again I haven't been, I'm not really into House, and Techno, but my little brother goes there all the time and loves the place.

Tequila Beach: Only been there a couple times, had an okay time, pretty small place though.

1223: Another small club, I used to love going here on Tues. when I was under 21, but now it has lost its edge in my opinion.

Fur: Haven't been, I have heard its pretty ghetto, which isn't really my thing, I prefer diversity. But they have dancers, so at least you have some good sights.

Daedelus: Asian club, again I really prefer diversity.

Five: Haven't been there yet, but since I'm listing it here my curiosity has peeked a bit, I'll have to check it out soon.

Clubbing is tons of fun. Defenitely the easiest way to meet girls.

Mr. Mystery
 

Mr. Mystery II

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And Fingers, just to let you know, I am one of those guys with the tie that bore you to death. Or at least I appear that way until you talk to me.

While I love the "trendy" club thing, I also get down with the local music scene. That is a great time indeed (I don't wear ties to these little events though...). Diversity is the spice of life man. But I gotta say the girls are looking much better at the "trendy" places, and not all them are gold-diggers, though a few definitely are.

Mr. Mystery
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Derek Flint

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San Francisco, the Marina district:

Cozmo's, The Balboa, Matrix, Eastside West, City Tavern etc...

These are not so much Dance Clubs, but more the Bar/Restaurant/Pubs type of places that get packed Thursday,Friday, Saturday nights.
 
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