"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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The Hottest Clubs

Señor Fingers

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Just curious. Where do you guys get most of your partying done?

I'll get the ball rolling..

NEW YORK CITY

TURNTABLES ON THE HUDSON
Probably the hottest party in NYC!
HipHop, WorldBeats, Downtempo & House Music
Good looking, down-to-earth crowd
http://www.turntablesonthehudson.com

CLUB CIELO
World reknowned venue for
House Music in a posh atmosphere
The home of Lil Louie Vega and Miguel Migs
http://www.cieloclub.com

SAPPHIRE LOUNGE
Small bar with dancefloor
reknowned for its house-loving crowd
of serious dancers.

SHELTER
Big Gritty Club
for underground dance scene
House Music

IRVING PLAZA
Great venue for live shows
HipHop, Rock, House, etc
http://www.irvingplaza.com

BEMBE
A Brooklyn Lounge
for chillout purposes
All kinds of music
http://www.bembe.us

I am also curious about what motivates yall to go clubbing.

For example, I love dance music and this is my modus operandi. I don't really care for the vanity clubs, where people just go to be seen and act fabulous. I like a more laidback environment where everyone is there for the love of the music, and you feel free to get lost in the rhythm! Sometimes its cool to hit up the more trendy spots and have a few laughs at the people who take themselves so seriously, but the music usually sucks and people who frequent these places typically manage to bore me to death with their status-seeking ways, so I tend to stick to my roots. Give me a wife-beater over a tie any day!
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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Jizamurai

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I hear 'Nations' in D.C. is really good.
Armin Van Buuren was spinning there recently
 

Oxide

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Spin just opened in Minneapolis.. voted best club in state. Escape is good as well.
 

Mr. Mystery II

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DC:

Dream: Everybody goes here, best place for under 21 in the city (Thursdays). Huge, tons of people.

Club Home: Smaller, but a great crowd. People here are mad chill, everyone is always having a good time.

Platinum: I never go there, I'm not a huge fan. But since they have radio stations supporting them, mad people pack this little club.

Nations: Again I haven't been, I'm not really into House, and Techno, but my little brother goes there all the time and loves the place.

Tequila Beach: Only been there a couple times, had an okay time, pretty small place though.

1223: Another small club, I used to love going here on Tues. when I was under 21, but now it has lost its edge in my opinion.

Fur: Haven't been, I have heard its pretty ghetto, which isn't really my thing, I prefer diversity. But they have dancers, so at least you have some good sights.

Daedelus: Asian club, again I really prefer diversity.

Five: Haven't been there yet, but since I'm listing it here my curiosity has peeked a bit, I'll have to check it out soon.

Clubbing is tons of fun. Defenitely the easiest way to meet girls.

Mr. Mystery
 

Mr. Mystery II

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And Fingers, just to let you know, I am one of those guys with the tie that bore you to death. Or at least I appear that way until you talk to me.

While I love the "trendy" club thing, I also get down with the local music scene. That is a great time indeed (I don't wear ties to these little events though...). Diversity is the spice of life man. But I gotta say the girls are looking much better at the "trendy" places, and not all them are gold-diggers, though a few definitely are.

Mr. Mystery
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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Derek Flint

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San Francisco, the Marina district:

Cozmo's, The Balboa, Matrix, Eastside West, City Tavern etc...

These are not so much Dance Clubs, but more the Bar/Restaurant/Pubs type of places that get packed Thursday,Friday, Saturday nights.
 
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