The Honeymoon Phase lasts 18 months.

[expos]

The Honeymoon Phase lasts 18 months. I'm finding this with every committed relationship I've ever been in. Something about that year and half mark...and then things start going to crap FAST. Why is this?

Well, scientists have identified certain chemicals, such as dopamine, released by the brain that have about an 18 month effect when people fall in love.

Look at this board. It's littered with guys saying, well we were dating for more than a year and my woman started acting like a b!tch and talking to another guy....

Well, that's because the "high" of the relationship has worn off. You've already met her parents, you've done the holidays together, you've gone on vacations, you've ate at every restaurant together, etc.

She decides to move in at the one year mark...but work needs to be done to sustain a relationship, the real personalities start surfacing, and things that were once "cute" about her are now a major pain in the azz.

Then, the nasty breakup...and we get a few more SS members.

Anyone else have this experience?

 

[donking]

hahaha... my honeymoon phases are much shorter... usually 4-6 months, and I see CRAZY

 

[BMX]

My longest was 21 months.

 

[Jules_Winfield]

My longest was 21 months.

Strange things started happening around the 24 month mark. Did I win?

 

[corrector]

Well you are lucky then. In my experience the honeymoon phase goes with the summer season is over, or it's like a week or two. If you are in a honeymoon phase for 18 months or 24 months that's cool. At least more of your life is occupied in a relationship that ends up as a dead-end than being single.

Once I invited a girl over to my family, and she ignored me a week later at a social gathering (i.e. she was more into talking to other guys at the gathering then to make a connection with me), so that ended the honeymoon phase really quickly (I had drafted a break-up letter but never sent it - I broke up with her 1 month and a half afterwards). Prior to that we were dating for 2 months, and I had known her for about 4 months prior to us dating.

I never had a relationship (with someone I really loved) as long as 18 months. But I'm hoping true love doesn't die after the honeymoon phase is over.

 

[Zarky]

my "honeymoon" phase ends after I come

 

[Atom Smasher]

For me, it is one year virtually to the day.

At the one year mark, both parties realize just how crazy the other wone really is, and make the decision whether or not they can live with the other's faults.

Also, at the one year mark you start to realize that she barely ever understands your jokes. She used to laugh because of her infatuation. She would laugh because she knew these comments were "supposed" to be funny, but didn't even comprehend most of it.

 

[youngmack]

So really what is the point of getting into one

 

[Thomson]

Physiologist also have said that we get sick of each others body in three years, that's why the divorce in three years is so popular. Especially in America.

 

[Plutoman]

Also, at the one year mark you start to realize that she barely ever understands your jokes. She used to laugh because of her infatuation. She would laugh because she knew these comments were "supposed" to be funny, but didn't even comprehend most of it.

That usually happens within the first few hours. The first part, at least. She'll still laugh but I can see the confused look hiding under her eyes as she's trying to understand what I'm saying.

That comes with a dry sense of humor.

My longest relationship was around 32 months, nearly 3 years. Went downhill about 18 months after she moved in with me, which as about the 26 month mark overall. Since we were a long distance couple up till then, that fits.

This generally goes for less aware people, however. More aware people are continually watching for the major red flags that will cause issues down the line, and making the decisions earlier because they have more options available to them.

 

[betheman]

from 18 months to 2 years, the female is programmed to think and feel.....Marriage! if she suspects it isnt hapening or that you arent putting it out there...its over

 

[expos]

from 18 months to 2 years, the female is programmed to think and feel.....Marriage! if she suspects it isnt hapening or that you arent putting it out there...its over

Most are thinking if you are marriage material after the first or second month. They are dreaming of what could or can be. But yes 18 months seems to be this breaking point and that's when they are ready to stay or go.

 

[Poonani Maker]

What about couples who (I guess) lie to you and say they "we're still in our honeymoon" looking at each other adoringly after 4-5 years?

 

[Paintballguy]

For me it's like 3-5 months. After that, it's like why am I dating this chick?