"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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THE Honest Approach: Do you think its safe to do?

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Hey guys i been thinking that the best approach is the honest approach! What do you think?

Let say you see a hott sitting alone or just reading a book or shopping, Would you say this to her:

You: Hi i will be honest with you i came over here because i think you look cool to talk to..so what are you doing? Or etc..

:D What do you think>?
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Boner da Stoner

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Truthful, but AFC!

How about....

"Your HOTT!!! I'm going to sit here" (than ignore her)

or

"what a rough day"

or

"hi"

or

any C+F line accentuated with mystery
 

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"Hey, I thought you looked cool, so I'm here to try and pick you up."

Done it, got done, works if you don't take yourself seriously. Also gives you great conversation topics.
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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It's not that bad.
 

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Originally posted by johnnyhero79
Hey guys i been thinking that the best approach is the honest approach! What do you think?

Let say you see a hott sitting alone or just reading a book or shopping, Would you say this to her:

You: Hi i will be honest with you i came over here because i think you look cool to talk to..so what are you doing? Or etc..

:D What do you think>?
That's not the "honest" approach. Think about it. You said the reason you came over to talk to her is because you think she "look cool to talk to". But the real honest reason you came over is because she is hot not because she is cool. Lots of fat chicks are cool but I doubt you would have approach them. So you already started off with a lie. :p
 

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Re: Re: THE Honest Approach: Do you think its safe to do?

Originally posted by Swoop
That's not the "honest" approach. Think about it. You said the reason you came over to talk to her is because you think she "look cool to talk to". But the real honest reason you came over is because she is hot not because she is cool. Lots of fat chicks are cool but I doubt you would have approach them. So you already started off with a lie. :p
Ok then i tell her what a nice shirt you have..lol:crackup:
 

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I've done it.

The honest approach works, I've done it, but it has to be done in a certain way. It has to be done in a very masculine, unapologetically sexual, but playful way. I approached an HB7 in front of all her friends with the following line;

I walk over and sit right next to her, flirting with my eyes, smiling. Not trying to hide the fact that I'm making a pickup, interupting the whole convo.

(Big smile, bedroom voice) Hi how you're doin.
Her: surprised) Umm...fine and you?
M: cool, listen I don't want to interrupt your convo with your friends for too long, so I'm going to be straight with you. You look good. (strong emphasis on the word 'good'.) She blushes.

Her: Thanks! You too! (the compliment was an unexpected boon.
Me: Now I'm wondering whether you have the personality to back it up. I hope you don't disappoint me.
Her: nah, I don't think I would.

(she's smiling, good eye contact, occasionally glancing at her friends)
Me: We will see. What numbner can I reach you at?
Her: I'm sorry I have a boyfriend! (Her friends nod.)
Me: cool. c u later.

This is only one instance. I've gotten number closes before. The trick is, be BOLD and don't try to hide the fact you're making a pickup. No apologies.
 

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Are you saying to focus on honesty to deflect from lack of creativity or originality?
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Re: Re: THE Honest Approach: Do you think its safe to do?

Yah I agree. Nice and direct but how does someone "look cool to talk to"?.

Everytime Ive done a cold approach its been situational, and it usually turns out good.

Examples
- Girl I saw waiting for the bus dragging around a huge suitcase
Me- "Geez did you pack a months worth of clothes in there?"
Girl -" Haha, actually Im moving, this is the last of it"

-Girl biting her nails like crazy in line at Mcdonalds.
Me -"you know they sell this nasty bitter nail polish you can put on to keep you from biting your nails"
Girl -"Haha,omg I know..Ive been doing this since forever..."

Yah, Im sure the "honest" approach probably works but, they can sound kind of "one linerish" in their own way.

I tend to stick with C&F. I guess I might use something like this as an honest approach...
"Hi, Im here to try and pick you up." like one guy said in his example previously.


We all have our own styles.



QUOTE]Originally posted by Swoop
That's not the "honest" approach. Think about it. You said the reason you came over to talk to her is because you think she "look cool to talk to". But the real honest reason you came over is because she is hot not because she is cool. Lots of fat chicks are cool but I doubt you would have approach them. So you already started off with a lie. :p [/QUOTE]
 

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Do it George style

Hi, I'm balding, unemployed, and I live with my parents.

:rock:
 

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You: Hi i will be honest with you i came over here because i think you look cool to talk to..so what are you doing? Or etc..
That can work for you!

Are you saying to focus on honesty to deflect from lack of creativity or originality?
Please. Picking up women shouldn't require us to play the role of court jester. The honest approach will work when re-inforced with personality and quality conversation.

Way better than some canned BS or magic trick.

Do it with some levity.
 

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Originally posted by Soprano
Do it George style

Hi, I'm balding, unemployed, and I live with my parents.

:rock:
Check and check, I loved that pick-up, the girl couldn't stop laughing. I spot from across the room and do the waddle. like stealing candy from a baby
 
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