"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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The hell of buying gifts for women

KillingTime

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Id rather have Stevie Wonder shave my sack with a straight-edge, I hate buying christmas, b-day and valentines day presents for a woman.
I'm in a serious relationship and the thought of a possibility of having to do this EVERY year for the rest of my life makes the hair all over my body stand up.

I've never been good at gift-giving, I think universally the two things women like best, clothing and jewelry, are out of the question for most straight men... certainly for me.
I, like most guys, don't know a damn thing about women's clothes and the odds of getting something she'd like is, well, bad! Jewlery is sometwhat easier but still a big hit or miss IMO, esp. with most women being much more fashion savvy than guys.

What does that leave? The lame bottle of perfume every year? I need some pointers here b/c for the life of me I can't think of anything.
I can think of some things like electronics, but how cold of a gift is that?
A gift card sounds like something you'd receive from an uncle.
What are the do's and donts here??
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Francisco d'Anconia

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Try listening to your women a bit more diligently. Most women tell guys what they like throughout the year, guys just seldom listen to them.
 

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KillingTime said:
Id rather have Stevie Wonder shave my sack with a straight-edge, I hate buying christmas, b-day and valentines day presents for a woman.
You think he likes buying presents? :crackup:
 

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They like things that they can show off to their friends/ family.
 

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well gifts depend on lots of things, like the occasion , what the receiver really needs or likes , how much money the giver is spending and lets be honest, the giver's interests also.
how many times did you get the most god awful thing, only to look up and see the giver of the gift, smiling ear to ear because they really liked it? then you say its nice.

something my husband and i decided to do for each other was make a gift list. if theres a movie or a cd or a nice shirt or whatever we put it on the wish list. computer games, books, whatever is new that we would like to have, goes on the list.

every once in the while we run into a walmart or something and if either of us passes something neat we say, ah i like that. then we keep walking. by pointing stuff out to each other, we know what each other likes.
 

"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"

You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.

She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.

Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.

Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.

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KillingTime

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I know she's been wanting this palm pilot/cell phone thing that came out not too long ago, been talking about it a lot.... Ive just always felt kind of weird giving elecronics as gifts.
One of her best friends (a guy) gave her this diamond bracelet a while back, and here I am with some palm pilot lol... I don't know, maybe it's all in my head.
No way in hell I am getting her a diamond ANYTHING at this point (too early) but I just don't like everyone else showering her with all these crazy expensive/romantic gifts and then I look like the cheap one.
 

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I have 1 gift that I buy for men and women, regardless of who they are: Alcohol. Its the easiest, cheapest, and I have a card that gives me points for every dollar I spend at the liquor mart.

We all win!
 

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i dont think i could wear a diamond braclet without thinking someone would try to steal it off my arm.

if she wants the palm pilot, and has mentioned it, then that is really what she wants.
 

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Pick a gift like you would with anyone else: Ask her what she wants if you're not sure. If she's offended by this question, your relationship has bigger problems than picking gifts.
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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penkitten said:
i dont think i could wear a diamond braclet without thinking someone would try to steal it off my arm.
Where do you live????
 

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If she's a Dinamo fan then buy her a scarf, she will love it:

http://www.jurnalul.ro/foto/poze/8807_poza.jpg

As you can see there are a lot of models, so you should be set for a lifetime, every year a different scarf, that's my motto when receiving gifts, as my friends now that I'm a Dinamo ultras.
 
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