The Harshest Lesson/s Life Taught You (so far)

[RangerMIke]

I love arguing with idiots. Why else would I post on SoSuave?

Joking aside, I really liked your post.

Okay... you are correct, I will caveat...If you are arguing for entertainment then it isn't a waste of time.

 

[MatureDJ]

The hardest lesson? That by being at 2%-ile in height , my dating life is brutal, like it is almost OVER before it had begun. Even men that HeightMog me by 6" are considered to be on the short side.

I watch this video a lot after getting rejected:

 

[RangerMIke]

I have no doubt those sorts of stunts are pulled for media but high-status men are not womanless.

Anyone that brags about themselves on social media is full of cr@p. Real high value men don't do sh1t like this.

 

[Manure Spherian]

Anyone that brags about themselves on social media is full of cr@p. Real high value men don't do sh1t like this.

I believe that although some pull such stunts, high-earning influencers of all niches, some of whom make millions, generally do not have issues attracting women, as it goes for other high-status men.

I personally know rich men who routinely brag. Some rich boys I went to school with also routinely bragged.

 

[RangerMIke]

Still, they all drool over Dan Bilzerian and Andrew Tate.

Yeah... I don't get it. I also don't get the mindless worship of celebrities.

Humans are nothing more than advanced primates capable of rational thought... which frequently takes a back seat to emotional decision making. We want to follow others who we think represents our values... or what we wish we were like a tribe of apes fighting over bananas and tossing our poo at other apes we don't like.

We have a genetic disposition to be in a tribe for protection from Sabor Tooth Tigers and hunt Mastodons... and we look for leaders for the tribe to guarantee success. Those who will not comport to the will of the tribe, are left alone and die off... so natural selection weeded out those that didn't get with the program. If one does not believe in evolution, they will not understand what is going on. You want to see human behavior at the lizard brain level... go to prison. If you are a white dude, you better join the Aryan Brotherhood, if you are Hispanic well you better Le Eme...Black, join Rollin' 30s, 40s etcetera. Asian... well ABZ is waiting for you. If you think you can go to prison and not affiliate based on race... everyone is your enemy.

Smart primates like Bilzerian and Tate or Oprah Winfree and Taylor Swift ... effectively manipulate emotions to their benefit. We pay a thousand dollars to see a Taylor Swift concert... or will buy whatever cr@ppy book Oprah recommends. We have pop psychologists like Dr. Phil and Jordan Peterson... vomiting up nonsense and we just lick up.

 

[EyeOnThePrize]

The whole blood is thicker than water saying.

100% Pure BS.

Family will f*ck you over a lot quicker and with less remorse than friends or even a business partner. Something about, "Oh, it's only my (son, daughter, brother, sister, etc.) they don't need to be paid back. They'll understand." And on and on.

And if you do help a family member out once, now you're a savings and loan, or a hotel, or an emotional tampon, etc. They don't understand, or care, that you have a life too that's also full or challenges.

I'm not looking for sympathy but to validate my point, I had one parent take out two credit cards in my name and default on payments, had their bankruptcy end up on my credit report, "borrowed" all my lawn cutting money for the summer I was saving to buy a new bike (I was 13) and never repaid it, and asked me for money on the regular once I became an adult. The other parent started businesses and bought and sold houses but never offered one cent for my college education. This parent also used college tuition money that was willed to me as a minor on a business she started and failed with and never repaid the money.

Heed my warning.

~Dash

I've used Mr. Wonderful's approach when a family member asks for money. When a relative asks for a loan I tell them that I'll gift them triple the amount, meaning that I don't want it back. I also want to know nothing about where it goes and we are to never speak of it again. The caveat is that this is a one time event, and any future asks will be ignored/denied. Of course there are people that will come back and ask again, but I find that doing this lowers the chances and keeps money from ruining family ties.

 

[BaronOfHair]

Activists aren't reliable

And a man invites further turmoil into his life, by buying into everything he hears out of them, instead of subjecting their assertions to the same rigor and skepticism we apply to what we hear out of cable news

 

[Vanderdonck]

I don't see most of these lessons as harsh. In fact upon learning they will relieve you of a great burden. It's delusion that causes suffering.

 

[BaronOfHair]

I don't see most of these lessons as harsh

All a matter of the way in which one thinks of such things. They CAN be harsh, if one does what's currently en vogue right now, by endlessy thinking to themselves: "This is awful, horrible, and unbearable... The Satanic System we live under MUST be overhauled and rebuilt from the ground up, so that we can enjoy a Utopia, free of all suffering and injustice"

By contrast, it's empowering(Over and misused as that word often is)to recognize: "No one else but me was put on this Earth to get my needs and desires met. Therefore, it's imperative that I set concrete, tangible goals, and craft viable strategies for achieving them. As well as encouraging my fellow humans to do likewise". This is the way ALL human progress happens

 

[inquisitor]

I don't see most of these lessons as harsh. In fact upon learning they will relieve you of a great burden. It's delusion that causes suffering.

I used the wording in my question to invoke the feeling, because often the lessons we need to hear and learn are quite harsh - not usually aligned in our own way of thinking that is, in a healthy way, harsh to the ego, harsh to an old way of thinking, harsh for an old self that it must leave and be replaced by a new one.

 

[inquisitor]

Hi Inquisitor,
As if being born in a very poor Country isn't enough,you are burdened by poor health....Seems you have been dealt a poor hand in lifes card game,sadly you have no other choice but to make the most of it....As you have seen for yourself,your only way out would seem to be higher education,if you possibly can get out of the Phillipines,pleasant and kind as its people are,it is grindingly poor and corrupt...Are their any chances of a Scholarship in the West?....Have you wisely chosen your future career?....To what extent will your Health problems affect your emigration options?

How much better do you think, is a career in the West? Or at least what makes a career in the West more helpful? Speaking from your experiences and where you came from, anyway.

 

[Divorced w 3]

That sometimes, your close friends can be more loyal to you than some of your family. That within despair, the obstacle truly can become the way. That nobody, absolutely nobody, is going to do for you what you are not willing to do for yourself. That as long as you are still breathing, anything is possible. That sometimes, you have to concede the battle to win the larger fight. That you have to accept people and circumstances in their reality.

 

[Scaramouche]

Hi Inquisitor,
In your post you say,"being in a third-world country and needing to establish my own generational wealth".....having visited the Philipines for a month before Covid,the level of poverty surprised me....You are not going to make the wealth you seek over there...Your average income is $3.499 even compared to similar Nations like Malaysia at $11.993,earnings wise it's not the place to be...Countries like Canada at$55.021 and Australia at$53.970 provide much better opportunities...Good Luck!

 

[BaronOfHair]

A man has no reasonable expectation of being received warmly, much less respected, if he doesn't at least try to LOOK like a high roller

Decades of business casual (Men who grew up in The 80s and 90s, how many times did you see your pops wear a suit? And when he did, was it Armani or the like, or the cheapest thing off the rack? Let's be honest)being a euphemism for "Every f-cking thing is A-OK" + celebrities and tech bros encouraging everyone that it's cool to look like a hobo has created an atmosphere where every guy now putting zero effort into his public image = Self expression

 

[Mike32ct]

A man has no reasonable expectation of being received warmly, much less respected, if he doesn't at least try to LOOK like a high roller

Decades of business casual (Men who grew up in The 80s and 90s, how many times did you see your pops wear a suit? And when he did, was it Armani or the like, or the cheapest thing off the rack? Let's be honest)being a euphemism for "Every f-cking thing is A-OK" + celebrities and tech bros encouraging everyone that it's cool to look like a hobo has created an atmosphere where every guy now putting zero effort into his public image = Self expression

I would just add that WFH also accelerated to the change to ultra “casual.”

I work hybrid. Staff gets so used to anything goes dressing for WFH that they aren’t inclined to dress up too much on their in-office days either.

 

[BaronOfHair]

I would just add that WFH also accelerated to the change to ultra “casual.”

I work hybrid. Staff gets so used to anything goes dressing for WFH that they aren’t inclined to dress up too much on their in-office days either.

All true. As has been mentioned elsewhere https://www.sosuave.net/forum/threa...thing-better-comes-along.282363/#post-3121715 , it ain't just men who scoff at so-called Looksmaxxing either

The advent of Whale Tail during the late 90s-early 2000s https://en.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/Whale_tail laid the groundwork for the world we have today, where entirely too many women who aren't celebrities think this https://www.google.com/amp/s/www.da...ki-turns-heads-string-bikini-Bondi-Beach.html is perfectly acceptable

And anyone who dares to say "That's too much" out loud is reflexively labelled a trad con

 

[BaronOfHair]

I would just add that WFH also accelerated to the change to ultra “casual.”

I work hybrid. Staff gets so used to anything goes dressing for WFH that they aren’t inclined to dress up too much on their in-office days either.

This trend was already becoming noticeable in The early 10s https://www.badgerandblade.com/foru...0-years-ago-just-plain-and-drab.303516/page-3

In hindsight, a phenomena similar to what occurred between The late 80s-early 90s seems to have taken place in our era also: Just as the sleek cuts of Armani showcased in American Gigolo and Miami Vice gave way to the dingy look of Hair Metal as that decade drew to a close, which then went even further awry with the Grunge Aesthetic and Heroin Chic of The 90s, the mid-10s were dark days which the polished look embodied by Suits and Mad Men gave way to what I'm going to refer to Gamergate Chic and the Instathot look

 

[DJ Novice]

The money, energy, effort, time etc. sunk into women is rarely worth the quality and quantity of bedroom action in the long run. Laziness, selfishness, the lure of new p*ssy and hedonic adaptation are never beaten. Most romantic relationships are value exchanges so know when they are becoming an unacceptable net loss to you and take action to rectify it or end it.
Peace, quiet, independence and freedom will become more important to you as you get older and your testosterone levels decline. You will tolerate less bullsh*t from women and if they don’t meet your bedroom and other needs you won’t hesitate to pull the ripcord.

 

[Redwood]

The rest of the album is pretty good too.

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Always thought this was their best imo.