Transforming yourself into a Don Juan is alot like quitting smoking. The only way to truly quit smoking is to give up your old way of life. You have to see yourself as a non-smoker. Stop worrying about how you're going to deal with the cravings. Just accept that you're not a smoker anymore and don't even give your old way of life a second thought. No looking back.
Habits are everything
We've all heard the saying "It takes 21 days to make or break a habit"
When people try to get rid of a bad habit, they usually say to themselves "I'll give it a try. I've tried before and failed, but maybe this time will be different." This way of thinking has to go. You have to put it all on the line. There's no going back. Kiss everything you used to be goodbye.
Having success with women requires two major habit changes:
- Producing good habits that attract women.
- Destroying the habit of complacency, apathy and self-doubt.
Before creating the new habits, we must be determined to destroy our old way of lives - to not allow ourselves to waste a day away watching TV and eating nachos. We must destroy the habit of being an over-sensitive *****. We must destroy the habit of staying in bed until 3PM. No longer will we blame everyone else for our problems. Take a picture of yourself, sitting there at your messy-ass computer desk, scratching your balls, smelling like a mix of sweat, peanut butter and man-juices, crying on your keyboard because women don't want you. Do what you want with this picture. Either keep it around as motivation, cut it into pieces, sacrifice it to your God - whatever. The point is, your way of living is pathetic, and no woman in her right mind would be attracted to a lazy-ass, ungroomed, stinky girly man like yourself.
Destroy the habit of falling in love with women who show you acceptance. You need to realize, that as you transform yourself into a DJ, ALOT of women will begin to accept you. You can't make the mistake of falling in love with the first one! Falling in love fast is a result of neediness. You aren't needy anymore. You destroyed that habit.
Destroy the habit of being comfortable with the way you are. I warn you - by doing this, you are moving your 'comfort zone', which means that you are going to be very uncomfortable for a while. There are only 2 ways to make yourself comfortable again: Move your comfort zone back the way it was, and continue living the way you are... or MOVE INTO THE BETTER COMFORT ZONE.
Now that we no longer accept our old way of life, it's time to create some new habits. In order to create new habits, we have to be CONSISTENT. This means doing something even when it seems to pose little benefit. Even if you know you won't be leaving the house, shower every morning and every night, washing yourself, washing your hair, shaving, applying deodorant, using mouthwash, brushing your teeth, changing into fresh clothes, combing/styling your hair, etc.
Whatever you want yourself to look/smell like when you meet a 10/10 chick, get in the habit of always looking like this.
Now comes the habit of ATTRACTION. When you meet a woman you're dying to DJ, how do you want to act? How can you do this naturally? You have to be in the HABIT of attracting women. Yes, this means practicing on UN-attractive women. Every time you see a woman who's in your age group (and not related to you), look at her with sticky eyes (sticky eyes is the concept of pretending there's a long string of taffy between your eyes and hers, meaning as you turn your head away slowly, you keep the eye contact until the imaginary taffy "breaks") and smile slowly and gradually.
This can be a hard one for many people, because we don't like the awkwardness of fat chicks thinking we think they're attractive, but understand that the purpose is to make YOURSELF attractive, not to make it look like you're attracted to them. When chicks you aren't really attracted to start trying to win you over, you WILL become more confident, and you WILL start to see yourself as the prize.
With every single Don Juan tip you read, think to yourself: how can I make this SECOND NATURE? The only way you'll make it second nature is by being 100% consistent. That means never worrying about the consequences. Changing yourself begins with changing your habits. Change your habits and you'll change your environment. Change your environment and you'll change your LIFE.
Here's an easy way to start to build habits IMMEDIATELY: Write down the date 21 days from now, and look at that date every morning and ask yourself what type of person you'd like to be on that date. Now every day for the next 21 days, go somewhere public where there's alot of girls. My best suggestion would be the mall. You don't even have to shop, just go into the different stores, make alot of eye contact, ask questions - communicate. Apply as many DJ tactics as you can. Understand that every single day you're making progress.
Habits are everything
We've all heard the saying "It takes 21 days to make or break a habit"
When people try to get rid of a bad habit, they usually say to themselves "I'll give it a try. I've tried before and failed, but maybe this time will be different." This way of thinking has to go. You have to put it all on the line. There's no going back. Kiss everything you used to be goodbye.
Having success with women requires two major habit changes:
- Producing good habits that attract women.
- Destroying the habit of complacency, apathy and self-doubt.
Before creating the new habits, we must be determined to destroy our old way of lives - to not allow ourselves to waste a day away watching TV and eating nachos. We must destroy the habit of being an over-sensitive *****. We must destroy the habit of staying in bed until 3PM. No longer will we blame everyone else for our problems. Take a picture of yourself, sitting there at your messy-ass computer desk, scratching your balls, smelling like a mix of sweat, peanut butter and man-juices, crying on your keyboard because women don't want you. Do what you want with this picture. Either keep it around as motivation, cut it into pieces, sacrifice it to your God - whatever. The point is, your way of living is pathetic, and no woman in her right mind would be attracted to a lazy-ass, ungroomed, stinky girly man like yourself.
Destroy the habit of falling in love with women who show you acceptance. You need to realize, that as you transform yourself into a DJ, ALOT of women will begin to accept you. You can't make the mistake of falling in love with the first one! Falling in love fast is a result of neediness. You aren't needy anymore. You destroyed that habit.
Destroy the habit of being comfortable with the way you are. I warn you - by doing this, you are moving your 'comfort zone', which means that you are going to be very uncomfortable for a while. There are only 2 ways to make yourself comfortable again: Move your comfort zone back the way it was, and continue living the way you are... or MOVE INTO THE BETTER COMFORT ZONE.
Now that we no longer accept our old way of life, it's time to create some new habits. In order to create new habits, we have to be CONSISTENT. This means doing something even when it seems to pose little benefit. Even if you know you won't be leaving the house, shower every morning and every night, washing yourself, washing your hair, shaving, applying deodorant, using mouthwash, brushing your teeth, changing into fresh clothes, combing/styling your hair, etc.
Whatever you want yourself to look/smell like when you meet a 10/10 chick, get in the habit of always looking like this.
Now comes the habit of ATTRACTION. When you meet a woman you're dying to DJ, how do you want to act? How can you do this naturally? You have to be in the HABIT of attracting women. Yes, this means practicing on UN-attractive women. Every time you see a woman who's in your age group (and not related to you), look at her with sticky eyes (sticky eyes is the concept of pretending there's a long string of taffy between your eyes and hers, meaning as you turn your head away slowly, you keep the eye contact until the imaginary taffy "breaks") and smile slowly and gradually.
This can be a hard one for many people, because we don't like the awkwardness of fat chicks thinking we think they're attractive, but understand that the purpose is to make YOURSELF attractive, not to make it look like you're attracted to them. When chicks you aren't really attracted to start trying to win you over, you WILL become more confident, and you WILL start to see yourself as the prize.
With every single Don Juan tip you read, think to yourself: how can I make this SECOND NATURE? The only way you'll make it second nature is by being 100% consistent. That means never worrying about the consequences. Changing yourself begins with changing your habits. Change your habits and you'll change your environment. Change your environment and you'll change your LIFE.
Here's an easy way to start to build habits IMMEDIATELY: Write down the date 21 days from now, and look at that date every morning and ask yourself what type of person you'd like to be on that date. Now every day for the next 21 days, go somewhere public where there's alot of girls. My best suggestion would be the mall. You don't even have to shop, just go into the different stores, make alot of eye contact, ask questions - communicate. Apply as many DJ tactics as you can. Understand that every single day you're making progress.
) When buying clothes DJ/sarge/game... look for a HB8+ and have her recomend clothes and have her wait by the dressing room and give you feed back. Pick some really cool shoes!!! Why do you think almost every woman you meet has spent more than you ever will on shoes? All women love shoes, They love to own them, look at them, try them on.... Invest in some unique shoes, not like the stamped out over produced Vans,Lugz,Nike,... get some leather shoes that stand out have somthing unique about them.