Nine Breaker
Senior Don Juan
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Believe it or not, you are living in a golden age. Never before, throughout the entire span of human history has there been a time when your potential for mating and dating with the fairer sex has been greater than it is now. Even if you looked at it as a mere numbers game, a matter of statistics and probability, there are now more than 3 billion women on this planet - so the odds of finding even just one out of 3,000,000,000 that could meet the most stringent of standards have never been more in our favour.
So, with the odds stacked in our favour in a world ripe for the picking, how is it that so many guys struggle with the odds? How can I claim that we are living in a golden age if there is a need for websites such as this one?
If you have been doing your reading on here, then you already know the answer to this. Even though both the male and female populations have been growing strongly through the ages (especially in the last couple of centuries), the number of males you could classify as "real men" have been slowly declining and dwindling away.
Just scratching the surface of it, we could blame the feminists for turning a generation of men into wimpering, feminine males who have been led to believe that being a man is a mortal sin and a crime against nature. We could also blame industrialised society for making us take up specialised jobs that force us to rely on eachother in order to survive, hence losing the need to fend for ourselves, and with it - learning how to cope and survive and rely on our own abilities as men. But rather than pass the blame, shouldn't we instead see the great potential in this? We have been born into a world that is in a desperate shortage of men who remember how to live and act and love as men. The greatest advice you will ever hear on how to be successful with both life and women, is how to be a man.
Being a man is not about how many women you have during your life, nor does it have anything to do with how often you are getting phone numbers or dates. It has everything to do with your goals, your hobbies and your achievements in this life. No matter how successful you become with women, if you are still spending your time pursuing satisfaction through other people, you will always be little more than an average frustrated chump who missed out on the greater opportunities to do so much more with yourself.
If you are still uncertain about what it means to be a real man, here are a few areas of your life you should put some serious consideration into:
- Hobbies. Whether it is old ones you put aside, current ones you don't put enough time towards, or new ones you have always wanted to take up.
- Sports. Think of any sport you would like to try, anything at all, no matter how limited your experience might be! You will find that there are regular training courses run at sports centres / gyms / rec centres all over the place. Why not see what is on offer and give something a try, if only to try it once? If you have a sport you enjoy, why not take it further?
- Job. Wouldn't you rather spend your time on a job that you enjoyed doing? If you aren't doing that very job now, then you should be looking for an interview, or at least seeing what training you should be doing for it!
- Socialising. How often do you see your friends? Would it kill you to put more time aside to catch up and relax with them instead of worrying about not getting your quota of phone numbers for the week? How about those old mates from back in primary/high school/Uni that you used to have a few laughs with? Social contact is a great way to work on your communication skills, and a good way to have a few laughs.
- Goals. This is the important one. You need to have an idea of what you want out of life, and then you need to figure out how you're going to do it. Oh, and so we're clear, you can't rely on winning lotto or some other one-in-a-million chance in order to reach your goals - it all has to come from you and your abilities (which you should always improve upon when you can!)
Once you have your life aimed squarely where you want it, the confidence you will gain from it will be more than enough to help you find a woman worthy to share in the fun and excitement that is your life.
If you look at the main discussion forum here, you see endless questions along the lines of "what do I say when this happens..." or "where should I go for a date..." or "how should I respond to..." and even "was this the right move...". It is no wonder so many people respond by saying "Read the DJ Bible or do a search", because each of these questions instantly tells us that the person posing the question has absolutely no idea what being a real man means, let alone how a real man would handle any such situations.
Everyone likes to think they are special, and that their questions won't be covered in a thread about someone else's experiences, or a selection of the most popular ones. So, how about we take the time to go through some of these right now then?
1/ Where should I take a girl for a date?
The question shouldn't focus on where she would like to go to have fun, but instead be where you would like to go. If you want to spend quality time with a woman, then the woman should be able to enjoy the things that you do. Otherwise, you are simply a fool for trying to spend time with a woman who doesn't enjoy anything you do. Even if she is a 10/10 in the looks department, the ruls still stands - what good is the world's most decorated cake if it tastes like it came out of somebody's bowel a month ago? You should take a woman out to any place you would normally go to have fun, or a place you want to try out for yourself. If she doesn't like what you suggest, and you don't like anything she wants to do, then you should not hesitate to find someone else who does.
2/ How do I respond to (insert anything at all here!)...
Most guys will ask this question in the hopes that they will find some magic little phrase that will make them more attractive to the woman asking it, or add a little mystery, or help to increase the odds of this woman sleeping with him. In each case, this is the wrong line of thinking! Any real man needs only to speak truthfully, and not be afraid to justify his decisions and actions if he believes them to be right. This also applies to situations when a guy thinks the woman might be lying/cheating/whatever. The best answer you can give is one that removes all doubt. Even if what you say ends your chances with this girl, salvaging a relationship with a problematic woman is nowhere near as important to a real man as salvaging his integrity.
3/ Should I go back to my ex? / Should I forgive a cheater?
No. Once a relationship is over, it is over! If one side has either decided that they no longer want to be a part of it, or they have proven that they are not worthy of dating, then you leave and never look back. Forgiving cheaters and crawling back to an ex not only gives them all of the power in a relationship, but it also proves that you don't have the self respect to find anything better for yourself.
4/ What is the best clothing/cologne/car/haircut/watch/ to have if you want to attract girls?
With any of this stuff, don't go asking other people to define your own style for you. How do you expect to become an individual if you are getting other people to make the choices for you? So long as you are clean and presentable, all you need are the items that you're most comfortable with. There is not much worse than trying to meet women when you're feeling so uncomfortable it's blatantly unnatural with what you have on at the time.
5/ How long should I wait before calling/kissing/getting naughty with a girl?
Don't go following hardline rules with these ones, by which I mean setting aside a set number of days/dates before moving in with your intentions. All you really need to keep in mind are 2 things: if you rush in you risk appearing desperate, and if you wait too long you will look too hesitant. And as for the physical stuff, the best way to get a feel for the right moments is through experience at reading body language, kino, etc - but when a moment arrives where you're both alone, the eyes are locked, the kino is strong, and your mind is screaming at you "Now's the chance! Do it! Do it! Do it!" there is a good chance she is thinking the very same thing.
Finally, here are two simple questions I give to you. These are just for you to think about, so be honest with yourself.
1/ Who are you, and what kind of man are you today?
2/ What would you be like if you could become the type of man you've always wanted to be?
The secret to being a real man is honestly giving the same answer for both of those questions.
So, with the odds stacked in our favour in a world ripe for the picking, how is it that so many guys struggle with the odds? How can I claim that we are living in a golden age if there is a need for websites such as this one?
If you have been doing your reading on here, then you already know the answer to this. Even though both the male and female populations have been growing strongly through the ages (especially in the last couple of centuries), the number of males you could classify as "real men" have been slowly declining and dwindling away.
Just scratching the surface of it, we could blame the feminists for turning a generation of men into wimpering, feminine males who have been led to believe that being a man is a mortal sin and a crime against nature. We could also blame industrialised society for making us take up specialised jobs that force us to rely on eachother in order to survive, hence losing the need to fend for ourselves, and with it - learning how to cope and survive and rely on our own abilities as men. But rather than pass the blame, shouldn't we instead see the great potential in this? We have been born into a world that is in a desperate shortage of men who remember how to live and act and love as men. The greatest advice you will ever hear on how to be successful with both life and women, is how to be a man.
Being a man is not about how many women you have during your life, nor does it have anything to do with how often you are getting phone numbers or dates. It has everything to do with your goals, your hobbies and your achievements in this life. No matter how successful you become with women, if you are still spending your time pursuing satisfaction through other people, you will always be little more than an average frustrated chump who missed out on the greater opportunities to do so much more with yourself.
If you are still uncertain about what it means to be a real man, here are a few areas of your life you should put some serious consideration into:
- Hobbies. Whether it is old ones you put aside, current ones you don't put enough time towards, or new ones you have always wanted to take up.
- Sports. Think of any sport you would like to try, anything at all, no matter how limited your experience might be! You will find that there are regular training courses run at sports centres / gyms / rec centres all over the place. Why not see what is on offer and give something a try, if only to try it once? If you have a sport you enjoy, why not take it further?
- Job. Wouldn't you rather spend your time on a job that you enjoyed doing? If you aren't doing that very job now, then you should be looking for an interview, or at least seeing what training you should be doing for it!
- Socialising. How often do you see your friends? Would it kill you to put more time aside to catch up and relax with them instead of worrying about not getting your quota of phone numbers for the week? How about those old mates from back in primary/high school/Uni that you used to have a few laughs with? Social contact is a great way to work on your communication skills, and a good way to have a few laughs.
- Goals. This is the important one. You need to have an idea of what you want out of life, and then you need to figure out how you're going to do it. Oh, and so we're clear, you can't rely on winning lotto or some other one-in-a-million chance in order to reach your goals - it all has to come from you and your abilities (which you should always improve upon when you can!)
Once you have your life aimed squarely where you want it, the confidence you will gain from it will be more than enough to help you find a woman worthy to share in the fun and excitement that is your life.
If you look at the main discussion forum here, you see endless questions along the lines of "what do I say when this happens..." or "where should I go for a date..." or "how should I respond to..." and even "was this the right move...". It is no wonder so many people respond by saying "Read the DJ Bible or do a search", because each of these questions instantly tells us that the person posing the question has absolutely no idea what being a real man means, let alone how a real man would handle any such situations.
Everyone likes to think they are special, and that their questions won't be covered in a thread about someone else's experiences, or a selection of the most popular ones. So, how about we take the time to go through some of these right now then?
1/ Where should I take a girl for a date?
The question shouldn't focus on where she would like to go to have fun, but instead be where you would like to go. If you want to spend quality time with a woman, then the woman should be able to enjoy the things that you do. Otherwise, you are simply a fool for trying to spend time with a woman who doesn't enjoy anything you do. Even if she is a 10/10 in the looks department, the ruls still stands - what good is the world's most decorated cake if it tastes like it came out of somebody's bowel a month ago? You should take a woman out to any place you would normally go to have fun, or a place you want to try out for yourself. If she doesn't like what you suggest, and you don't like anything she wants to do, then you should not hesitate to find someone else who does.
2/ How do I respond to (insert anything at all here!)...
Most guys will ask this question in the hopes that they will find some magic little phrase that will make them more attractive to the woman asking it, or add a little mystery, or help to increase the odds of this woman sleeping with him. In each case, this is the wrong line of thinking! Any real man needs only to speak truthfully, and not be afraid to justify his decisions and actions if he believes them to be right. This also applies to situations when a guy thinks the woman might be lying/cheating/whatever. The best answer you can give is one that removes all doubt. Even if what you say ends your chances with this girl, salvaging a relationship with a problematic woman is nowhere near as important to a real man as salvaging his integrity.
3/ Should I go back to my ex? / Should I forgive a cheater?
No. Once a relationship is over, it is over! If one side has either decided that they no longer want to be a part of it, or they have proven that they are not worthy of dating, then you leave and never look back. Forgiving cheaters and crawling back to an ex not only gives them all of the power in a relationship, but it also proves that you don't have the self respect to find anything better for yourself.
4/ What is the best clothing/cologne/car/haircut/watch/ to have if you want to attract girls?
With any of this stuff, don't go asking other people to define your own style for you. How do you expect to become an individual if you are getting other people to make the choices for you? So long as you are clean and presentable, all you need are the items that you're most comfortable with. There is not much worse than trying to meet women when you're feeling so uncomfortable it's blatantly unnatural with what you have on at the time.
5/ How long should I wait before calling/kissing/getting naughty with a girl?
Don't go following hardline rules with these ones, by which I mean setting aside a set number of days/dates before moving in with your intentions. All you really need to keep in mind are 2 things: if you rush in you risk appearing desperate, and if you wait too long you will look too hesitant. And as for the physical stuff, the best way to get a feel for the right moments is through experience at reading body language, kino, etc - but when a moment arrives where you're both alone, the eyes are locked, the kino is strong, and your mind is screaming at you "Now's the chance! Do it! Do it! Do it!" there is a good chance she is thinking the very same thing.
Finally, here are two simple questions I give to you. These are just for you to think about, so be honest with yourself.
1/ Who are you, and what kind of man are you today?
2/ What would you be like if you could become the type of man you've always wanted to be?
The secret to being a real man is honestly giving the same answer for both of those questions.