"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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The girl who rejected me asked many questions

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Hello, I made thread long time ago. https://www.sosuave.net/forum/threads/asking-her-out-second-time.247452/

Today I was at party and she was also there. I was not talking her like 5 months so I did not bother to talk. However, while I was chatting with my friends she touch my arm from my back and said hi. We are living in the same dormitory. I moved here like 2 months ago and I am pretty sure she knows it. However, she asked me where I am living and when I said the name of the dorm she acted like suprised, she told me I am also living here. There is also one party at next week in the dorm. She directly asked me if I am going to that party, and I said yes, she also said I am going there look to see me. She also asked many question which I don't remember right now, because I was drunk. So, my question is how should behave at the dorm party. I am planning to give her kino and try to kiss her. Because I don't have any feelings toward her anymore.
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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No feelings for her yet you've wrote plenty abt her and what you should do with her...

This post was in October, if it's of any relevance, I'll post my thoughts.

Ignore her until she escalates by approaching you. Even then play it cool and distant, setting the perception of high value in ur favor.

If she doesn't approach then continue as per normal = ignoring her.

Focus on ur studies, activities etc.

Women r last on ur to do list.
 

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If she rejected you, i agree with Spaz mostly ignore her, socialize and have fun.
dont go there with hope of hooking up with her.

Its funny how lots of people cant see their action for what it is, ofc you have feeling for her.
Dont let it cloud your action. And dont forget lots of women to hook up with in college.

Also dont forget she approach you once she will again if she is really interested.
Next time dont wait for an other time/party to try and hook up with her,the best time is always now.
Get her alone somewhere they go for it, go show her your dorm or something then capitalize
You have no idea on how many time i knew a women was into me, but decided to wait a until an other time because i was an insecure beta.
More often then not it did not turn out the way i wanted.

GL
 
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No feelings for her yet you've wrote plenty abt her and what you should do with her...

This post was in October, if it's of any relevance, I'll post my thoughts.

Ignore her until she escalates by approaching you. Even then play it cool and distant, setting the perception of high value in ur favor.

If she doesn't approach then continue as per normal = ignoring her.

Focus on ur studies, activities etc.

Women r last on ur to do list.
Hello Spaz. I did not go to party with her and I was quite distant. Then, one day she messaged me "we should meet for once, I'll make a dinner and share with you and also another day you can make a dinner and invite me haha..." I said why not, but told her to go first. While I was waiting, when I saw her at college we were chatting, and one day I asked her if she has any plans at night. She answered a bit late I do, why? I said I was going to invite her to some place, then she sent a voice message asked me the place. I did not reply. I have never seen that kind girl in my life. She haven't invited me yet tho.
 

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If she rejected you, i agree with Spaz mostly ignore her, socialize and have fun.
dont go there with hope of hooking up with her.

Its funny how lots of people cant see their action for what it is, ofc you have feeling for her.
Dont let it cloud your action. And dont forget lots of women to hook up with in college.

Also dont forget she approach you once she will again if she is really interested.
Next time dont wait for an other time/party to try and hook up with her,the best time is always now.
Get her alone somewhere they go for it, go show her your dorm or something then capitalize
You have no idea on how many time i knew a women was into me, but decided to wait a until an other time because i was an insecure beta.
More often then not it did not turn out the way i wanted.

GL
Yes, I think I still have feelings. The same thing happened again.
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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Dont ask her out again, she is playing with you.
Also dont give her any attention that what she wants.
Next time she txt you best thing to do is not anwser or anwser with something real short
Dont ever txt more than her ratio should be like 3 txt from her 1 from you
 

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Hello Spaz. I did not go to party with her and I was quite distant. Then, one day she messaged me "we should meet for once, I'll make a dinner and share with you and also another day you can make a dinner and invite me haha..." I said why not, but told her to go first. While I was waiting, when I saw her at college we were chatting, and one day I asked her if she has any plans at night. She answered a bit late I do, why? I said I was going to invite her to some place, then she sent a voice message asked me the place. I did not reply. I have never seen that kind girl in my life. She haven't invited me yet tho.
I wouldn't have answered why not...

I would however hv stated (on me cooking 4 her) that it depends...1st let me taste the quality of ur cooking.

There's a difference.
 

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Dont ask her out again, she is playing with you.
Also dont give her any attention that what she wants.
Next time she txt you best thing to do is not anwser or anwser with something real short
Dont ever txt more than her ratio should be like 3 txt from her 1 from you
The golden ratio allows 2 of yours for 3 of their.
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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