"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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The girl I like is ignoring me?

ThePurpleWiggle

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Alrighty then. A girl that I like has been ignoring and avoiding me for about about a month now, it was very unexpected. I told her I liked her from the start and she insinuated that she also liked me, we talked for hours at a time on skype (inevitably even if we tried to limit it so we could sleep, it was fun), next thing I know she is ignoring my communications through facebook and skype, she avoids me at school and when I pressed for a reason she said she was scared and running from her fears, as far as I can tell I did nothing to cause this change. Normally I would just let it go and you would all probably say the same, but she keeps returning to my mind because I like weird girls and this fine lady is an excellent blend of adventure, insanity, humour and fun (my best match yet). Weird girls are hard to find let alone the select few special kinds of weird that I like. So I don't want to let it go just yet, what is the best way to go about persisting? She avoids me and she is a year above me so I don't know any of her friends and I normally only spoke to her at sport when she was away from her friends (I wish I had met them before, they could have helped, maybe they still can).
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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Gunner26

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Most probably it's because you told her you like her, I'm going to hazard a guess and say you didn't make a move on her, but simply put your feelings out on the table for her. Your lady got spooked.

Hours at a time on skype? What would you talk about? I doubt it was anything too sexual and flirty, another reason she probably got spooked. She saw you more as a gay best friend, and then you came out saying you liked her. She then backwards rationalises everything in her head, you held the door open for her once she now thinks of it as 'oh god it's because he likes me', you lent her a pen ' oh no, he was trying to buy my affection'. Every little thing that you do sets her hamster running into overdrive, she can't handle it and so she ignores you.

That's what I reckon anyway, I might be wrong though.

Gunner
 

ThePurpleWiggle

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Maybe, but I told her I liked her from the begining and she insinuated she liked me (she put up a facebook status listing colours and associating something with them, one of which was pink for i have a crush on you, I inboxed her a number of the colours including pink, i had already told her and it had been well established that i liked her before hand, and she replied, "red: we should hang out more and a few others ;)", im pretty sure she meant pink or she just wanted to mess with me and keep me guessing). The talks weren't too sexual but never boring, I should have made more moves, but what can I do now?
 

LearningSlowly

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I think you made it too easy. You expressed neediness, and she ran. Invite her to see you in real life or none of it matters.
 
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